(Closed) Beer and Wine only?

posted 11 years ago in Parties
  • poll: What do you think?
    It's fine, I wouldn't care : (91 votes)
    92 %
    I'd think you were being cheap, but ultimately wouldn't care : (4 votes)
    4 %
    I would miss liquor : (4 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 32
    435 posts
    Helper bee

    I think having just wine and beer is a good idea.  You want everyone feeling their best the next day!

    Post # 33
    2820 posts
    Sugar bee

    Can you have beer/wine/rum and compromise?

    Post # 34
    5669 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think it’s fine. My inlaws have more money than you could ever spend, but are very cheap. They are heavy drinkers and are having our rehersal dinner at a place that has one of the best martini bars in the area, but it will be a full cash bar. I bet people will appreciate at least having beer and wine.

    Post # 35
    2702 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

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    @VirginiaMarie: i’m having the same problem, except my Future Mother-In-Law wanted a DRY rehearsal dinner!!!

    mind you, we are having the rehearsal dinner at our home instead of a restaurant (because she decided to throw me a shower at a hall (i didnt want it), we wanted to waive the cost of the Rehearsal Dinner for her, even though Fiance wanted to have it at a resturant.)

    so on top of us sacrificing the restaurant… she suggested we just have five dollar pizzas and soda at their ranch home (not fitting for 30+ people).

    we are going to pay for the Rehearsal Dinner ourselves, catered food, beer, liquor, wine at our home. we told her this and we are not going to budge, even if she decides to pretend like we didn’t let her know.


    Post # 36
    99 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I second

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    @hilsy85: Rehearsal dinners are usually lower key linger-y events where everyone hangs out and relaxes (or tries!) a little before the big day. Since there’s a lot of emphasis on the meal, beer and wine only seems like a pretty good complement and/or compromise. Unless your side of the family are big cocktail-with-meal drinkers, and it seems like an okay setup to you, I think your guests will be pleased!

    Post # 37
    1465 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I wouldn’t call you cheap, because alcohol is never required in the first place, nor is it expected or missed as often as most want you to believe. But you will have to provide a ton of non-alcoholic selections for those who don’t like beer/wine as many people don’t. When putting together your drink menu, regardless if you serve alcohol or not, you have to keep your guests in mind and what they will drink and what they will not. If you know that you have a ton of guests who don’t drink beer or wine at all, then it makes no sense to offer only those two beverages. If nearly all of them only drink beer or wine and don’t drink anything else, then go ahead and serve it.

    Post # 38
    1161 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    We are having NO alcohol at our Rehearsal Dinner, as a compromise for my Southern Baptist family who thinks maybe we are going to hell for having an open bar at the reception.  I’m pretty sure my Rehearsal Dinner guests will be fine with going 4 hours without a drink.

    Post # 39
    1641 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Totally fine!

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