- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
Bees! I need your help and honest opinions!
Here’s the deal: We are getting married on June 13, 2013!! WOO HOO! I am having trouble deciding what colors for the scheme of the wedding and BM dresses I want. What I DO KNOW is that I want them to be all the same, as I am all for tradition! So by that I mean, the BMs match the GMs, I have a bouquet that matches, and the groom also is color coordinated. Included in the color coordination are the father of the bride and the father of the groom.
PHEW! Ok. Ready for Bridezilla time?
Bridezillan-ess: I was at Macy’s with my mother, and she wanted to go look at the Mens department. On our way there, she is telling me that my dad wants to buy his own suit. “Sure, that’s fine 🙂 As long as it matches my colors” I say.
(Insert hell breaking loose here)
My mother proceeds to tell me that my father does NOT want to match the groomsmen and that he will pick out whatever suit he wants (whether its black or grey. (Let’s take a moment here to thank sweet baby Jesus that my father detests navy blue!!!) So then, I tell my mom that sure, whatever, fine. He can pick out something that is his taste and that matches 🙂
So then, I start yelling telling her in a stern voice that the bride is the one that selects the colors (Fi doesnt mind whatever color I pick). And that because my dad is in the wedding party and because he is walking me down the aisle, he should match somewhat. She tells me that because they are from a different country (WHICH HAS NOTHING TO F*CKING DO WITH ANYTHING BECAUSE I AM TOO!!!!!) That they are not not bound to American wedding traditions, and can therefore do whatever they want.
I take a couple of deep breaths and really calmly explain to her that I like this tradition, I like everything uniform and matching. I think iy’s classy and pretty.
(Insert mother’s Rant here)
I should do away with tradition and get mismatching BMs dresses and let the groomsmen wear whatever they want and not have flower girls and not have ring bearers and not have kids at the wedding and not do this and not do that and I BETTER NOT CRY AT MY WEDDING BECAUSE HOW LAME IS THAT: Says my loving mother……
Here. Right here. That’s where I lose it. I get really upset and become bridezilla. I freak out and tell her that this is my one time getting married to the love of my life and that I should be able to choose and decide. And if I want to stick to tradition, I can! HARRUMPH.
She takes a step back, gets realllllllllllll serious and puts the stren motherly face on. She tells me that it is my wedding and I should do whatever I want. But then she says her and my dad will still do whatever they want. HARRUMPH RIGHT BACK.
Am I being unreasonable Bees? I want my dad to look perfect next to me as I walk down the aisle. Also, I do want him to be at least a bit matchy because we are taking wedding pics together!
Side note ladies: I would LOVE to do mismatching BMs dresses (in coordinating soft tone colors) and grey pants & vests & bow ties for the dudes, but my wedding isn’t that kind of a wedding… If I were having an outdoor wedding, or a garden wedding, hell freaking ya! But I’m not. I’m having a very traditional Catholic, formal wedding. The BMs are going to wear knee length dresses, the guys are going to wear suits, I am wearing a sleek and sophisticated A-line gown with a GIANT bow in the back! (squeal!!!) And we are having a formal reception with cocktails and martinis and chandeliers and champagne and *sigh* you get it, right bees? Do you see my vision? Do you?
Am I being a bridezilla? And what should I do about the situation with my mom? Also, what opinions do you have about my dad’s wedding attire?