(Closed) Bees, are you having a Paid 'n Full Wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Money
Post # 62
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Helper bee

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SoNLoveWithHim:  so recently with group on deals and us wanted to find a videographer but everything is way to expensive, we found this

 http://www.flipahit.com

I’ve read reviews on it and it’s pretty impressive. Your guests will get 5 devices, distribute among guests. Once done send it back to them and they will edit for you. The group on deal $249 expired, but if you email them and tell them you saw the deal, they will honor it and only charge you for $249. 

I’m curious to see how it will turn out but the great reviews are a good thing!

Post # 64
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

We didn’t really set a budget, but I knew my tastes weren’t extravagant and wouldn’t be more than we could afford.  It ended up being around 25k with honeymoon and we were prepared to pay for it, but my parents stepped in last minute and paid for the reception. I’m curious though as to why dipping into savings isnt desirable, and you rather have a long engagement.  If say you 40k in savings and took 2 years to save 25k for the wedding, then at the end of the wedding you still have the 40k savings plus whatever you add to it.  But if you decided to just get married even say now, and used savings, then took the next 2 years to save the 25k and build that savings back, then after 2 years, aren’t you in the same position without having to have such a long engagement to save specifically for the wedding? 

Post # 65
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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SoNLoveWithHim:  We are paying for everything except the rehearsal dinner — FI’s mom is contributing $500 toward that.  When we calculate our budget we figure about $10,000 but that does not include any of our attire, the rings, the three-suite bed and breakfast that we have reserved for us and both of our parents, nor the honeymoon or gifts for our attendants.  So obviously adding all of those things changes things A LOT.  We are still paying for them all ourselves, we are just not calculating them in the budget we have set up.  

We picked $10k pretty arbitrarily and then just calculated that we each needed to contribute $265 a month for our 19 month engagement.  All of the other expenses mentioned we just pay from our personal accounts.  Everything is in “cash” (not going on credit cards to wrack up debt).

There are definitely compromises that we have had to make.  Sometimes they suck.  But we plan to move across the country and be able to put a hefty down payment on a nice home in the next few years and so it is easy to justify making compromises on ONE DAY for getting what we ultimately want for our future.  And, we are still having a pretty kickass wedding with good food, lots to drink, great entertainment, and all of our friends and family around us.  🙂

Post # 66
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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SoNLoveWithHim:  Hey! I hope my reply helps you! You had asked for people who are paying for their own wedding without help, and you’ve gotten a lot of replies from people whose parents are helping.  Coming from a girl trying to pay for her own wedding alone, that’s not the same! 🙂

We don’t want to have any debt either! Our engagement is going to be 14 months total.  Right after getting engaged, we started a joint account and put money in there after every pay cheque.  Things like my dress, I saved personally for, and he saved for his suit (bought), shoes and half our rentals.  The rest we are splitting, and he has the option to work a lot of overtime, so he is starting to do that now and put it into our wedding account.  Our budget is $25000-27,000.

Our goal is to pay for the wedding without debt, then use wedding money for a honeymoon.  Sadly, that means not having a honeymoon til a few months after, but that way we don’t need to budget or plan for it when we are trying to pay for the wedding!

Post # 69
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2016

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SoNLoveWithHim:  Hello! Long time lurker, first time poster :3 Fiancee and I have a long time til the wedding date but we plan on having a debt free wedding. He is an only child, so hopefully that means his momma and step daddy will help with costs!

Post # 70
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Yes, paying for ours ourselves too!  We are adults, and fund our own events. It’s in October and most expenses are paid at this point. 

Post # 71
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

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SoNLoveWithHim:  ah, cool.  That makes sense, I didn’t think of living expenses changing/increasing.

Post # 72
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Blushing bee

We got married in June 2011 after getting engaged January 1 of 2010.  In basically 18 months we saved our pennies and paid for things up front when we could.  My mom gave us the same gift she gave my sister, $1,500.  Aside form that gift, we paid for everything–probably about $25,000 including honeymoon expenses (3 weeks on the east coast). On top of that, we paid for FI’s mom’s attire (2 dresses) because she’s basically completely broke. 

It didn’t feel like a struggle at the time.  We ate in, shopped around for best prices, chose not to participate in certain things, but we were still about to have fun while saving.  I committed to putting $1,000 IN SAVINGS every month.  (FI and I are both teachers…NOT making a lot of money!) I didn’t touch the money in savings until the week of the wedding when we were paying bills.  We would pay for things like, for example, his suit, on a credit card and then pay the balance of the card when the statement came.  Some months were TIGHT, but we made it work AND had money to enjoy our honeymoon and start furnishing our home. 

I’m proud that we were able to put our wedding on and that we committed to making it “debt-free”, but, I will say, looking back…I wish we hadn’t spent quite so much.  I mean, really, an extra $10,000 in the bank account right now would be nice. 

No regrets though. 🙂

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