(Closed) Bees, are you having a Paid 'n Full Wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Money
Post # 106
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

My parents bought my dress as a gift but everything else was paid by us in cash. 

Post # 107
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978 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Fiance and I are paying for our wedding. It will probably be 10-12K when all is said and done. We carved down our guest list to less than 40 people, we are only doing a reception dinner, with no dancing or DJ, in a fine restaurant. Food and wine will take about 3/4 of our budget, as Fiance works with wine and is insisting on a pretty impressive list (all of his friends also work in liquor industry, as do mine). We are getting married in a public garden either by a JOP or friend, my dress will most likely be used, and I’m doing flowers just for myself. No Maid/Matron of Honor, Bridesmaid or Best Man, etc.. I’m doing my own hair and makeup (I used to be a makeup artist and my sis is manager for Sephora). “Rehersal dinner”- if you can call it that- will be a cookout in our back yard the night before. 

Our biggest expenses aside from venue will be hotel room, dress/suit, wedding bands, and brunch for out of town family afterwards.

FI’s parents are in their 60’s and still working. I would be horrified to take anything from them. My dad and I are…. estranged. (It’s weird) and my mom passed away 10 years ago. We are definitely flying solo. 

We are having a long engagement to save and are on track with about 100-200$ a week. 

  • This reply was modified 7 years, 6 months ago by coffeedrinker.
Post # 108
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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SoNLoveWithHim:  Love this thread — it’s great to see what other people are doing for a Paid N Full wedding!  We’re paying for our wedding 100% and I’m DIY’ing everything I can and plan to recoup some of the spending by reselling everything after (should net me ahead of rentals).

So far, we’re budgeted for $26k, which is less than the regional average of $34k. Our total may be lower, depending on what I can resell for. Even if I can’t resell anything after, we’re still paying for it in full.

In addition to staying within our budgets, we’re also putting everything we can on our credit cards for the points (I typically get a free trip a year from points alone) and paying it off every month to avoid interest and fees. 

I’m also a fan of rebate sites like Fat Wallet and eBates because every little bit adds up — so far, I’ve gotten $40 back on wedding stuff. I only buy what I plan to buy anyhow, so it’s like free money. 

Post # 109
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

 

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SoNLoveWithHim:  I may throw 1k on a credit card for the sunset sail welcome dinner that we cannot pay in advance, but otherwise everything is paid for. We are doing a destination wedding, so while the ceremony and reception total cost just 3k, we have travel and lodging expenses that we had to deal with. I think all total cost combined comes in around 10k not including our spending money and meals while we are down there. We also had a long (2 year) engagement and knew that we did not want to go into any debt due to the wedding. We typically travel every spring so it only seemed fitting that we get married while we are at it. 🙂 I took a second job for about 8 months just to help offset any extra expenses. My mom actually paid for the reception, which I wasn’t expecting, so that was nice. The funny thing is my fiance doesn’t quite realize how inexpensive our wedding actually is. He thinks I’ve spent an absurd amount of money on everything. I’ve tried to tell him that we would have spent as much, if not more, on a wedding at home (with probably 10x the guests) and would have incurred all of the travel expenses of a honeymoon besides! I guess he thought we were going to get married in our backyard? 😉

 

Post # 110
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Well I had budgeted 10k while my Fiance budgeted 15k and it looks like our final budget will come in right under his numbers. So for the honeymoon and wedding we will be paying around 21k (excluding flights) and we have been paying it off little by little, month by month. So when it’s all said and done we will have the entire thing paid off in cash.

Post # 111
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

No debt for us but we did save a little and spent money that could otherwise go into other things (pay off school loans for me or new car maybe?) … We ended up paying $55,000 out of our own pocket Excluding wedding ring and honeymoon at later date (we have a large guest list)… So far we’re not stressing out about the money yet but it’s definitely a large sum… My parents help with officiant fees, invitations and accommodation (hotel) for close relatives… We have a lot to be thankful for….

Post # 112
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse

we thought about how much we wanted to spend on a wedding…and neither of us could fathom spending more than $5k for a party so that was our budget.  We kept the guest list smal (24 people) and made sure to put most of the money into making sure our guests were properly hosted.

That being said, we did decide to put about $40K into our backyard renos and a new epic man garage :)…Fiance is pretty excited, and I;d rather have the money put into increasing the value of the house than on a one day party.

Post # 113
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

We are paying for our wedding ourselves and estimate it’ll be about £12-13k when all is said and done. We already had enough saved to pay most deposits and the rest we are saving each month. I am also trying to buy one or two things with each pay check so it’s not all left until the last minute! 

Post # 114
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

We paid for our wedding upfront, but we only used 25% of our savings for our wedding so it wasn’t difficult.  My mom helped with my dress and my Mother-In-Law helped with part of our photography.  Neither my husband nor I have any student loans, car loans, etc., so getting into debt for a wedding seemed silly to us. 

Post # 115
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

yup. my dad is paying for it and he doesnt use credit cards.

Post # 116
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yup. 25k Destination Wedding paid in full before stepping on the airplane.

Post # 117
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Newbee

I’m proud to say we’re paying everything ourselves in cash. 2 yr engagement our budget is about 32k.

Post # 118
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I paid for our wedding myself.  Well the majority of it.  I paid for the catering, the venue, the photographer, transporatio, DJ, etc.  my father did pay for my dress and my mil helped out a lot by buying the fg and rb outfits and shoes, making ties for gm, getting my caketopper….plus my fil paid $100 towards the alcohol.  I also did a lot of diy, including the invitations which hubby did himself.

Post # 119
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

1 year engagement and we are saving every month to pay it off… 25k

no debt!!!!

Post # 120
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I am paying for the whole wedding and already saved 3/4 of the costs which according to estimations will be around 55k total.  Parents asked if I need any help, and I told them no..considering the money gifts I will be getting, I think I have saved enough and still more than a year to go (so will continue to save money until the date and hopefully reach the estimated costs by wedding and keeping the monetary gifts as a gift).  But this month, parents insisted that they want to pay for the catering themselves…so basically I saved more than I need..Im so happy, I can use the extra money saved and monetary gifts towards our house that we are building 🙂 

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