(Closed) Bee's asking if their rings are too small/big (closed)

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 62
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@gelaine22:   lol

Post # 63
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

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@thegreeneyedkri:  I didn’t know the stone to finger ratio thing either until my sister in law started making jokes about how her stone better be bigger than mine because her fingers are bigger.

that irked me a lot.

Post # 64
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@mrs_brownie:  I was wondering if the mods would close this thread. I got flagged once bc I called a poster a troll over a thread she started which also happened to be her first post. I think this falls in line with criticizing or mocking others’ choices even though we all kind of agree the ring/dress threads are ridiculous.

Post # 66
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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@deetroitwhat:  Hahahahhahah

“zomg I haz engaged but my bling sucks”.

Post # 67
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

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@JaneyDcat:  I agree, very thin people who start entire threads about how they think they are disgusting hippos and they don’t feel like a bride and how can I wear a wedding dress when I’m so huge…that really bothers me for a number of reasons.

Posts like that send a very clear message to the reader that “If my body is not OK, your body is most definitely not OK”. I understand the saying “You are your own worst critic” but when you are a size 2 and crying on the internet about how big you are and posting pictures of yourself, it’s either an ED, body dysmorphia, or you just flat-out want attention, praise, and reassurance. It can be very triggering for some people who have actually had to deal with real ostracism because of their weight to read things like that. Those types of threads can even trigger eating disorders. I’ve dealt with one myself in the past so it’s an issue I take very personally, therefore I avoid all posts that ask “Do I look fat?”.

I think that’s what really gets under people’s skin about some of the “Is my 1+ carat diamond large enough?” threads. A one carat diamond is very expensive (and can be out of this world expensive depending on its stats), and are out of reach for many couples. In some contexts, the “Is my diamond big enough?” threads can come across as someone complaining about privilege. They subtly imply “If my large diamond is too small, yours is tiny”.

As an aside, I don’t agree with tearing the OP’s face off in those types of threads. However, I can much more easily understand the contraversy behind a thread regarding a large diamond being too small as opposed to an OP getting ripped to pieces for something as simple as starting a thread about gently bringing up the idea of changing her ring setting to her fiance. I don’t understand why another woman wanting to change her setting or upgrade her diamond would bring out emotion in someone they don’t even know.

Post # 68
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Like the time I called out that superficial chick posting about the 2c or some shit and not being happy about it, then she asks if she should “put in 3k” for a bigger stone, finishing up with saying how many “philanthropic” shit “she does” and how we all must “wonder what other fabulous” traits she “has”.  Laughed my ass off at how the more she posted, the more her real personality came out.  

And someone wrote earlier that the dress threads were like this also?? No.  Staying out of those also.  I try to help others in the Emotional board SOMETIMES but then you get one poster that threaded-up something and midway when everyone is giving clear, logical solutions and words of comfort, that threader just pulls a back-flip and then defends the SI/situation she’s in. ??!!  That’s when I exit and you clearly see that that person just wants you to waste your time and suck your energy/attention.  Give a few months on here and one begins to discern when to hang and help and when to move along and skip over.

 

Post # 69
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Agree~!

Post # 70
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Honey Beekeeper

Hey everybody. It doesn’t seem like this thread is headed anywhere positive and is instead just criticizing other members of the community. I’m going to go ahead and close this one (sorry!) but I hope everyone has a great weekend! 🙂

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