Post # 1
I weigh 118 lbs at 5’4″ and have been at this weight with minor fluctuations for about 1 1/2 yrs. It puts me at a size 4. I once weighed about 220 lbs & was size 22, so I’m glad to be keeping it off, I’m more comfortable at this size. I eat healthily & excersize, so no issues there. I’d like to get down to 115 lbs, just because.
My problem is my occasional “cheat day”. I get totally out of control. I don’t just allow myself to splurge a bit, I pig out. I try to cram in everything I don’t normally allow myself. Mind you, my regular diet is not one of severe deprivation. By the end of cheat day, I’m thoroughly disgusted with myself. My weight will spike 3-4 lbs for a week, maybe even longer & my progress has been set back.
Does this sound like an ED? I should point out that I never allow my Cheat Day to go on more than one day & I’m an older bee. My thyroid is on the low end of normal range & I just started getting meds for that.
Thank you everyone.
Post # 2
It doesn’t sound like an eating disorder, but your body might be comfortable at it’s current weight. Are you very strict the days besides your cheat day? Because if you are TOO strict, this might be why you go crazy on the cheat day. That being said, it’s not like you binge every day, and the 3-4 pounds of weight gain is probably due to water retention after not eating so well. Try drinking more water on your cheat days, and maybe trying to find an exercise routine so that you don’t have to feel so bad about cheat day.
Post # 3
Ok you need a licensenced psychologist to diagnose you, but here is the DSM V criteria for binge eating disorder. Regardless of whether or not you meet the criteria, if it is a problem to you, you should get help.
Binge eating disorder is defined as recurring episodes of eating significantly more food in a short period of time than most people would eat under similar circumstances, with episodes marked by feelings of lack of control. Someone with binge eating disorder may eat too quickly, even when he or she is not hungry. The person may have feelings of guilt, embarrassment, or disgust and may binge eat alone to hide the behavior. This disorder is associated with marked distress and occurs, on average, at least once a week over three months.
Post # 4
I didn’t vote. I do think you know you have a problem. Is it a very serious problem physically? Probably not. But it’s a problem for you mentally and emotionally. I suspect that you binge on your cheat days because you are depriving yourself the rest of the time – do you think that’s true? I suspect that you’re really caught up on losing those extra 3 pounds (when it is entirely unnecessary) and maybe if you let go of the idea of “getting down to 115 just because” that might help with going overboard on your cheat days. (What would happen if you had a cheat MEAL instead of a whole day? You could try it and see.)
Post # 5
Totally agree with the above poster. I also know how terrifying it can be to have weight creep back after losing it. What sorts of things are you having on your cheat day? Chips? Chocolate? Fried foods? If its chocolate I would allow yourself a small piece of dark chocolate a day to help with the cheat day binging.
Post # 6
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I didn’t vote either. Eating uncontrollably on your cheat day might be a sign of anxiety towards your weight goals or towards something else; I would check that out with a professional. Also, is 118 lbs your ideal weight (your bone built is part of the ecuation, not only the height)? What is healthy eating for you: are you having a balanced and adequate calorie intake? Cheat day should be to pleasantly indulge yourself, not to compensate for deprivation to the point of feeling guilty afterwards. I would first make sure you are keeping a healthy and balanced nutrition to maintain your ideal weight. If the answer is “yes”, then I would look into possible anxiety issues with the help of a professional.
Post # 7
sassy411: Oh I’ve been in your shoes! I’m currently around 120 lbs (5’3) but have been as heavy as 180 lbs in the past. For a few years after I had lost the weight I would also have days when I would pig out. Basically eat until I felt so disgusted with myself that I would call it a day and go to bed, not wanting to have anything to do with myself. I then meet my husband, and that pattern totally disappeared. The only reason I can think of why things changed so dramatically was that before, I didn’t have the support I have now when I was feeling down/stressed. Food then became a way to take my mind off those things that bothered me (homesickness being a big part, I’m living on the other side of the North Atlantic from my family).
If I were you, I would sit down and try to figure out if there’s anything that triggers these episodes. Do they happen after a long stressful week at work? Or when you feel lonely? Or the weather has been crap for ages? Then, if anything really strikes you as a trigger you might want to go to a therapist and talk about that.
Oh, and congrats to the weight loss – that’s such a life changer!
Post # 8
Wow, what a change! It is insane how much weight you lost!! I voted “a bit off” because from what runner bee said, it sounds like your cheat/binge day falls under the def of an ED.
still, as long as you are eating normally the other 6 days of the week, I doubt it will do much damage. But then, I’m no doctor – maybe some or a nutritionist will weigh in and give their advice.
I would also expect after a few years for your body to adjust to less food and for these cravings to lessen. 1.5 years really isn’t that long. I doubt your cheat days will be so out of control 4 years from now.
Post # 9
sassy411: I don’t think a cheat day is a good idea for you- I think you need to learn how to moderately eat what you love 7 days a week.
it helps me when I want to go nuts on something to take a breath and say “I can have more later, I can have more another day”. It can cut the urgency to realize you don’t need it NOW NOW NOW or never.
i would also talk to a therapist who can help you work towards a healthy relationship with food. And congrats on your amazing weight loss.
Post # 10
Interesting suggestions & ideas I would never have thought of on my own. I dio exercise daily & eat a satisfying, but low cal, hi fiber diet.
The Cheat Day has its roots in dh’s & my enjoyment of eating out. We used to do that a lot, hence my heavier weight.
Robyn0214, you may be right about 118 being my correct weight. I alwys end up there.
Post # 11
I think it’s a bit odd, but maybe your body feels “deprived” of these things because you don’t eat them and then allow yourself to once in a while. After a lot of research and speaking with a trainer/dietician she said a cheat day is usually sabotage for your weight loss/maintanence because most people don’t have self control in this area. I think maybe you should try either cutting out the junk food that you binge on all together. It would be hard at first, but eventually you would no longer crave those foods. Another option would be to stick to your diet everyday, but allow yourself small portions of the food you love. Eating a piece of chocolate or small serving of frozen yogurt once a day is much better than having a full Hershey’s bar, bag of chips and quart of ice cream over an 8 hour period of time.
i would also talk to someone about the habit. I think when you have taken fats and sugars out of your diet and then allow cheat days it just makes your body go into a mode where you NEED to eat everything.
Post # 12
sassy411: It is possible that you do have a serious problem. I say that because what we eat (aka “cram everything down!” and “not deprived” are completely subjective) If you could give us a better idea of what a normal “cheat day” looks like food wise and a normal “not deprived” day looks like, it would help.
I am saying this as someone who was very similar to you (I lost 100 lbs), when I began having anxiety about gaining it back I went into full blown ED mode which landed me in the hospital as a 28 year old (10 years after I had lost the original 100). It all started with eating well and exercising regularly, then I would have a cheat day…then it went from “thats ok, i’ll exercise a bit more tomorrow” to “I just ate so much food, I can’t eat tomorrow” which then turned into “I just ate so much food I have to purge AND not eat for 2 days” which turned into “I ate some chips, I am so horrible, I can only eat carrots the rest of the week, and I have to run everyday, and I should probably purge for good measure”
Post # 13
I think a lot of people eat well throughout the week and then have a splurge day. Yesterday I had pasta and sangria and ended the night with some cookies. And today I’ll work out and diet to get rid of any weight I gained.
I wouldn’t say my splurge is “out of control/can’t stop” though. Not unless I’m by some Nutella 😉
Post # 14
sassy411: While you may not be restricting throughout the week, are you allowing yourself any indulgence?
I follow a pretty strict diet/lifestyle, but I definitely allow for daily indulgence since otherwise, I’m sure I’d find myself at 3am finishing up a jar of Nutella. I also have a cheat day on Sundays, when I go out for a really high calorie brunch, and buy myself one piece of cake for the evening.
I think that most compulsions are based in something else, some other need. If you’re not getting enough good fats or salt throughout the week, your body may be instinctively craving it. If that’s the case, I would meet with a nutritionist to ensure what you’re eating is adequate.
If the compulsion to binge is based in anxiety or other emotions, therapy may empower you to face these emotions head on, rather than to eat them.
Post # 15
sassy411: As someone who has been hospitalized 6 times with eating disorders (four with anorexia nervosa, two because of bulimia nervosa) I would have to say that that is not exactly eating disordered behavior. I
believe that majority of americans have disordered eating, but not eating disorders. And I believe that you may just have some disordered eating.
BUT. The thing about eating disorders is NOT that is is a weight/weightloss thing. It is more of an emotional problem, which we take out on our eating habits to cope. If you feel like this is something relating to or affecting your emotions or state of mind, definitely go talk to a psychologist. Definitely do not go checking yourself into an ED clinic or anything, though. lol