(Closed) Bees, do you ever tempt guys & seek their attention?

posted 4 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll:
    Hell yeah... Always & I love it! : (13 votes)
    6 %
    Hmm...Sometimes : (54 votes)
    26 %
    Nope, never felt the urge or need to do so : (135 votes)
    64 %
    Other (please state) : (9 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 31
    1352 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’ve never felt the need. With everyone I’ve dated (husband included), it was clear to both sides from the moment we met that we’d date. I didn’t have to really do anything – just let things develop naturally. 

    Post # 32
    3885 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    Like some of PP, I’m a naturally bubbly person. I smile a lot, am big on hand gestures and have been told that I come accross flirty a lot to both men and women when it’s completely unintentional. My Fiance and I have been together for over 8 years and he knows that it’s just my personality and I’d never try to get another guy. I think some people really think that any hint of kindness from another person means that they are in love with you and that’s just silly.

    OP, there’s nothing wrong with flirting when you’re single! Get out there and chat it up with whoever you want!


    • This reply was modified 3 years, 10 months ago by  missinthecity.
    Post # 33
    261 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    Okay are you asking if we flirt with guys? Because when you say “tempt” I’m picuring heavily flirting with married or taken men and trying to get their attention away from their SO and onto you. OR I picture a married or taken woman heavily flirting with men and trying to get their attention even though she’s taken. 

    There’s a HUGE difference in flirting and “tempting” in my book.

    Post # 34
    1977 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

    OP are you asking if you should be overtly flirtatious when you are interested in someone? I don’t really understand what you are asking. I did flirt with my Fiance before we got together but I think that was just natural and I didn’t notice I was doing it.

    When you are in a relationship you don’t flirt with other men to get their attention unless you are wanting out of your relationship. 

    Post # 35
    1039 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’d love to know the point of the OP’s question. Even better, I’d love to know if she’d ever ask men this same question– like men don’t get “flirty” and “tempt” women for attention… just us vipers over hear who happen to be born with vaginas. *note sarcasm*

    Post # 36
    2733 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    Flirting while single because you’re interested in someone – yes.

    Trying to seduce other men while you’re in a relationship – no.

    Dressing provactively and seeking any and all male attention just to boost your self-esteem whilst teasing men by making them think you’re interested when you’re not – nope.


    what is this?

    Post # 37
    5072 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Nope.  I watch a lot of Discovery ID.  I don’t want any attention from anyone but Darling Husband.


    Post # 39
    2509 posts
    Sugar bee

    Umm this is weird…

    But anyway, when I was single then yes – I flirted with men I was interested in dating in hopes of it going somewhere, not just for attention. I’ve never flirted just for the ego boost, chances are it’d backfire anyway πŸ˜‰

    I flirt with my husband all the time now.

    Post # 41
    7903 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    No further explanations from the OP? 


    Post # 42
    674 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    When single: flirting happens only when I’m interested in the person, but not to the extreme of wearing provaocative clothing, because that’s just not me lol. I don’t flirt purposely to “seek attention.”

    Married now: I flirt with my hubby πŸ™‚ But not with other guys.

    Is OP trying to figure out when to flirt?

    Post # 43
    2109 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Nope, never feel the need. I get all the attention I need from SO.

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