Post # 1
– where are wedding rings worn in your country?
– is there a specific type of ring that is the traditional? ex: matching Plain yellow gold wedding bands
– is it tradition to use engagement rings? how are they? what’s the level of importance?
– any particular meaning in the engagement ring? ex: saving towards the ring meaning being able to save and manage money wisely to provide for wife and future family
– If an engagement ring is a tradition, on which hand is it worn?
– Are both the wedding and engagement ring worn on same hand?
also, if there is a difference in your country on where are rings work depending on religion the couple practices, please mention.
Post # 2
I’m in the UK. I’d say our ways align with those in the US.
Engagement rings are worn with a wedding ring on the ring finger of the left hand.
Rings are usually gold or platinum. Usually diamonds. Of course there are different gems and metals, but I’d say that’s the status quo.
Post # 3
Hi from Italy! What a nice thread!
– we wear wedding rings on our left hand, ring finger.
– Engagement rings are widespread. They are usually diamond solitaires or three-stone rings. They are normally smaller than in the U.S. (I’d say up to 0.5 carats). Usually, diamond colours range from E to H, not lower (probably because of the small carat size). Gemstones are not seen very often, not in the form of erings.
– It’s pretty uncommon for the girl to have a say in her ering. The boyfriend sometimes asks for her “casual” opinion, but then picks the setting and the carat size on his own. This is because proposals are complete surprises here.
– Engagement rings are worn on the ring finger until the wedding day comes. We move it to the other hand for the big day and then put it back on the ring finger. There are married women who wear their erings on their right hand after marriage though (my sister does that. I prefer to keep both rings together).
One big difference between USA and Italy is that we stick to the old tradition of having identical wedding rings- in some cases the woman may have a very tiny diamond on the wedding band, but that’s it. As for metals, gold is the preferred choice – I’ve never heard of other metals, except for platinum in very few cases.
I’m curious to read about the traditions in other countries!
Post # 4
USA, left hand, ring finger, can be anything but usually includes a band of some kind. The bride typically wears an engagement ring, the guy typically wears nothing until the wedding, then they exchange wedding bands.
My favorite tradition is from South America, where they typically exchange silver bands during engagement and then replace those with gold bands, so both bride and groom look taken throughout the entire process.
eta: I was rather simplistic about the e-ring. To some, this betrothal token represents the groom’s financial status and his ability to provide for a family. To others, it’s just a keepsake of affection signifying his commitment to his bride. So, the e-ring can be a big deal or not, depending upon the wearer’s or the viewer’s sensibilities.
Post # 5
received a call and couldn’t post mine right away. boo
Engagement rings are a tradition but there is not a huge emphasis on them. There is no pressure for men to get a certain type of ring or of a certain cost. There’s no meaning other than he wants to marry you. It’s worn on the left band
Wedding bands come in all types. You see sets, you see enhancers, and you see a lot of stand alone bands too. Everything wedding or engagement related is worn on the left hand.
In general, you see a lot of white diamonds although not huge and simulants too. Usually they are not frowned upon. Maybe also because as I said, there is no huge emphasis on them. It’s like “you are engaged? awesome!!! congrats on your engagement. Pretty ring”. Done. No details asked, no questions. I’d say emphasis is more in how he asked.
Post # 6
Poland – matching plain yellow wedding bands. Some people add tiny design – like print of spouse’s fingers etc. Or a single tiny stone. But wedding ring has pretty universal look.
Post # 7
hi there! thanks for sharing! I thought sometimes we forget the Bee is a community that connects bees from all over the world. And than means, there are different aspects ,traditions and etiquette rules for everyone!
That’s a cool idea of switching the engagement ring to the right the day of the wedding so the wedding band has more room and takes the spotlight on that day! 🙂
My husband is German and I’ve noticed they also stick to the matching bands tradition. Except as you say, more modern matching sets might have one or two diamonds or more feminine details for the woman’s ring. But it’s pretty common to see in jewelry stores identical plain yellow gold bands
Post # 8
hi! are they worn on the left or the right hand?
Love the fingerprint idea. So neat!
Post # 9
Swedish bee here!
In Sweden it’s not very common with proposals. If someone propose to the partner it’s a surprise proposal. The girl knows nothing about the ring or the engagement. We think it’s super weird like you do it in the U.S. where the girl waits for a proposal, when she already knows it going to happen and have already picked the ring and all.
The engagemang is usually a joint agreement and couples go ring shopping together, for a ring each. Some couples split and pay their own ring, and sometimes the guy pays for both. I think we tend to care more of the symbolic comitmentl then the price tag and looks when it comes to e-rings. In Sweden, both man and woman wears e-rings. Usually both have just a plain matching band. The rings are worn on the left ring finger. Lately, I guess we have become more inflated by U.S. and some women in Sweden also wants diamond or diamonds on her e-ring. (Solitaire, three stone ring or eternity) But here a 0,5 ct counts as a big rock! The most common metal I would say is 18K white or red (Swedish gold is not yellow, since we have more copper in it) gold.
At the wedding day the woman gets an additionally ring on her left ring finger. The man ring just get an upgrade and is then called wedding ring, but he usually don’t get a new one. Some men actually gets a new ring though.
Normally the date of engagement and name of your partner is engraved in your e-ring and after wedding the dare of wedding is engraved in the woman’s wedding ring and the man gets on more date engraved in his.
Adding: Super weird to me, BUT in Sweden many couples get engaged without even planning to get married… So just because a couple is engaged doesn’t mean they will marry. People seem to we engagement and marriage like two separate things. And if they plan to do it it can take many years from engagement to wedding. I don’t understand this though. For me, engagement is a promise to marriage and in a near future (max 2 years).
Post # 10
- Wedding: February 2017 - Hagakyrkan
Sweden here 🙂
We get engage after having desided so together, so no proposals. The couple goes together to get very simple, often matching and yellow gold, engagement rings. In the wedding the bride adds a second band, her wedding band, which is usually the same model as her engagement ring but with some tiny diamonds in a row. The man may add a second ring, usually identical to his ering, or keeps only his ering.
All rings are always worn on the left hand. Wedding ring on the outside. The wedding rings with diamond have small diamonds. Usually a few flush set. Ive never seen anything larger than 0.15ct stones in person 😛
The rings are almost always engraved with the spouse’s name and the date of engagement or wedding.
Oc now some people instead follow the American tradition of proposals and diamond erings, but its not the classical way 😉
My ering is a typical Swedish ering, and Fy has one identical to mine. They are inscribed with “loved by [FY’s name]” but not the normal date. I didnt want dates, I want to imagine our love being endless 😉
Post # 11
- Wedding: February 2017 - Hagakyrkan
haha exactly!!! 🙂
I also notice a lot of couples only getting engaged and never getting married. Mydad and his new Fy have now been engaged for ten years, and she even has a wedding band (the live in the US so its to sort of legitimize their relationship) and have no palns to get married. Bu i kind of like ot, its really all about the couple saying we belong together and the rings will show people we are taken, papers and ceremonies wont make it more real. However I FO want to get married 😉
Post # 12
- Wedding: November 2015 - Old Mill Boathouse
Canada! My Engagement Ring is on my left ring finger and my wedding ring will join it in November.
My coworker however wears her wedding band on her left ring, her engagement ring on her right.
I think it’s personal prefrence!
Post # 13
Hi from Switzerland
Here, traditionally you wear the engagement ring on the right ring finger and the wedding band on the left. However, it’s up to you if you want to wear the engagement ring on the right hand or if you want to have it on the left hand because engagements are not common anymore. But the wedding band has to be on the left ring finger.
Since my fiance is from the US, I have the engagement ring on the left side.
Tradition is also if the bride’s wedding band is smaller than the groom’s wedding band, he has to pay them and if the groom’s band is smaller she’ll pay for both 🙂
Post # 14
Ukraine: rose gold band on right ring finger. Ring usually intricate, bicolour or with little diamonds, or classic thin band. Rings are the same for wife and husband.
Israel: wide yellow or white gold ring (with carving, hammering gets) for women, classic simple ring for men.
Post # 15
Forgot to add couple of israeli rings
of course some still choose more dainty and classical look. but ‘ethnic’ rings are really a trend.
About engagement rings – in both countries this tradition is relatively fresh. In Ukraine it is totally ok to buy an e-ring with cz, but young girls expect diamonds and roses for proposal ‘just like in american films’.