Post # 1
Well. What I thought would never happen did. Long story short I found out my Fiance (ex FI?) was cheating on me. There was this girl at work and they’ve always been friendly but it was going into too friendly and when I told my Fiance I was uncomfortable with it he said he’d stop texting her/cease contact with her except for at work which I was fine with. Well, that didn’t happen. Over the past few weeks he had been really paranoid about his phone/computer. We’ve alawys had an open facebook/phone relationship. I’ve never looked at his phone or computer because I never though I needed to. Anyway, I went to use his phone since mine had died and found some rather sexual text messaging along with their plans to meet up. (again)
I got upset, threw the ring at him and stormed out. I’m currently at my mom’s house and I’m so upset.
What do I do?! He keeps calling me and texting me. I’m ignoring him as I’m trying to process but I don’t even know.
I just need a hug. This shouldn’t be happening.
Post # 2
Take your time. You can decide what to do later. I hope everything works out. HUGS
Post # 3
Ugh, I’m so sorry, OP. This really sucks 🙁 It really shouldn’t be happening. You don’t deserve this.
To answer your question, what do you want to do?
Post # 4
Oh my god. Hugs to you sweetie.
Can you block his number from calling and texting you? I’m pretty sure you can on iphone.
You seem to have made up your mind to leave him, and I commend you for that. Although be prepared to miss him and be tempted to go back over the next little while. Don’t cave.
I suggest getting a friend or family member to go over there and get your stuff.
Dont worry about notifying people the wedding is off. Or let a trusted person who is close to you spread the word.
When I’ve been in situations like yours, I told my friends right away. It really helped me avoid staying with him or going back because I know how bad that would make me look and I didn’t want to let anyone else down.
I’m just so sorry you’re going through this. You deserve so much better.
Post # 5
Im sorry your going through this. Take the time you need to process everything. Dont feel pressured to talk to him before you are ready.
Post # 6
That sucks! I want to say that atleast you found out before the wedding, but that is only of little help. I’m sorry. I’m glad you have your mother to turn to
Post # 7
That is awful, so sorry bee:-( I think you need time to process what’s happened, so take this time away and don’t feel like you have to talk to him unless you want to. You deserve better!
Post # 8
He doesn’t get the right to call and text you to make himself feel better. You take all the time you need and lean on your Mumma
Post # 10
It’s pretty simple, dump him. If he had brought home an std to you, then what? Once a cheater, most possibly will cheat again down the road. You should be happy, ypu’re not married yet.
Post # 11
Id probably have to walk from the relationship, I just would not trust him ever again. Cheating is a deal breaker for me. No amount of counseling would ever erase that memory for me.
I’d distance myself for a bit till you can clear your mind and then make a decision.
Post # 12
I’d leave ASAP. He screwed another girl, which is the ultimate form of betrayal. No going back on that one.
Post # 13
Ive been reading this sort of thing a lot lately! Why the hell are these “men” getting engaged if they cant keep it in their freakin pants!!! SO selfish and evil in my opinion! I have been cheated on. I was done. Im so so sorry you are going through this. 🙁
Post # 14
Speaking from experience, I had always thought I’d give someone a second chance, however when it happened to me I had absolutely no desire to stick around. His stuff was gone, I was happy because I knew I respected myself enough to make a decision based purely on facts rather than emotion, and 3 months later I met my current SO (the best thing thats ever happened to me)
OP- If your partner doesnt respect you, or your relationship enough to stay faithful, why does he deserve you?
Post # 15
I actually just had Marriage Prep class tonight, and we had to do this exercise where we listed our top values and see if they lined up. My fiance and I both listed “trust” or “trustworthiness”. I think for a marriage to work you must have this.
I’m sorry. Be strong.