Post # 1
I love the dress I chose for the Maid/Matron of Honor but I feel like the only reason why I picked the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses was because it was the 2nd best the store had, not because I loved it. Now I’m kinda going back and forth thinking should they all wear the same dresses or not. My Maid/Matron of Honor is highly against this because she wants to stand out from the rest and my BMs don’t really care what they wear. Plus, I’m having a bit of price guilt for the dresses. How did you ladies pick your Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses? Did you make your Maid/Matron of Honor stand out from the other girls?
Post # 3
i didn’t have a bm but my dh had his sister stand up with him so she wore a bm dress. personally, i didn’t care for it. it was ok but not what i would have chosen. i let her pick whatever she wanted so long as it was black and preferrably long. i did send her pictures of what i liked. she just waited so long to get it, maybe that was all that was available.
Post # 4
@mypinkshoes: Thanks. I guess I’m getting Bridesmaid or Best Man dress regret which makes sense since I’ve changed my mind at least 3 times on every decision I’ve made for my wedding so since I’m on a roll… why stop? 🙁 It’s really frustrating that I’m this indecisive 🙁
Post # 5
My bm’s kept saying whatever you want.. They would have worn anything I liked. But I was adamant that they liked it and felt comfortable. And they did which was excellent. My bridal party was too small for the Maid/Matron of Honor to have a different dress, plus I’m not really into them wearing different dresses. So for her to stand out, I had different color ribbon on her bouquet. But honestly, you didn’t see that as well as the florist said you would, so she didn’t quite stand out…except for her height 🙂
Post # 6
I sort of worked backwards. I knew I needed to accomodate:
– Very different body styles
– Maid/Matron of Honor wanted some sort of sleeve/shrug/bolero
– Very likely 2 of my bridesmaids would end up pregnant (and they did – they’ll be 35 weeks)
– All somewhat modest
I preferred short dresses (like knee to tea length, not super short) over long.
All of that led to me having them custom made with a local seamstress. We were able to pick up the fabric and supplies for $60/dress and the seamstress is only charging $40/dress. She suggested a pattern that would work well (fuller skirt to accomodate a pregnancy, wraps around the waist so pregnant gals can wrap it higher, the non pregnant Maid/Matron of Honor can wrap it more on her natural waist).
I am not doing anything different for the Maid/Matron of Honor.
My choice was less about “OMG I LOVE THESE DRESSES” (and I’m not a fashion person anyway) and was more about making sure all my bridesmaids felt comfortable in what they were wearing, didn’t break the budget, and could accomodate their unique needs.
Post # 7
I like my bridesmaid dresses alot. I think they are classy and beautiful. I dont LOVE them but I have come to the relization that im not going to fall in LOVE with a bridesmaid dress. They go with my theame and will look good next to my dress. They are long and have one sholder and a little bling on the shoulder just like I wanted. Plus it keeps my girls covered enough for a church wedding.
I have 7 bridesmaids and 1 maid of honor. Everyone is wearing the same thing.
I have a suggestion for you tho if you want your maid of honor to stand out but you want all the girls to wear the same dress. have your maid of honor wear it in a diffrent color then the rest of your girls. for example but wedding colors are blue and silver. I could have all my girls in blue dresses and my maid of honor in a silver one.
I went to davids bridal with my sister (maid of honor) and my mom only and had my sister try on the dresses. I picked what I liked and what I thought would look the best on all of them. it was much easier then bringing everyone along and having 8 diffrent opinions thrown at me.
here is the dress on my maid of honor/sister (not in this color)
this is the color but WAY too big on her
Post # 8
I LOVED my bridesmaid dresses! I actually wanted one for myself! They were comfortable and very flattering for everyone. I had 2 maids of honor and 4 bridesmaids, but everyone wore the same dress in the same color.
Post # 9
My bridesmaids are all in the same dress(Alfred Angelo 7205) and my 2 maids of honor each chose their dresses. I did give the bridesmaids the option of keeping the dress strapless, adding straps to the dress, or altering it to be a halter(for those who are more busty and want a little extra support/coverage). This is the bridesmaid dress(colors will be claret with champagne accent for the ones with colors):
One of my MOH’s dress:
My other MOH’s dress:
It basically comes down to what you want. The bridesmaids/MOH can either suck it up and not get exactly what they want, or you can let them do what they want(within limitations, ie: if you don’t want strapless at all or can’t be a long/short gown/has to be certain fabric, etc).
Post # 10
My goal was to not have a cookie cutter satin dress from a bridal store, and to make everyone as comfortable as possible. My Maid/Matron of Honor REALLY wanted something long and flowy, I actually preferred soemthing shorter and was worried going into it. But the dress we chose REALLY is great, and I never would have considered it unless my Maid/Matron of Honor really seemed to want long and flowy. Although I admit it’s a shade or two different from the blue color I wanted originally, but I like the blue color a lot so I may shift my colors to match that blue.
Post # 11
I LOVE my Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses so much, that if I had the right body type (small-medium boobs instead of DD’s), I would buy one for myself!
Post # 12
I love my bridesmaid dress, but the search took forever. My bridesmaids wanted whatever I wanted, I had minimal input except ” I need to wear a bra” lol. this is what I ended up with.
Post # 13
I love my Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses!
Post # 14
I only have Maid/Matron of Honor and no bridesmaids. I pretty much don’t like her dress. I mean, it’s a nice dress but the colour doesn’t go with what I wanted. I wanted something pastel or neutral and she wants to wear a deep wine/purple colour. I don’t really have ‘official’ wedding colours and I guess the lighter colours would not look great on her so its not unfair that she’d rather wear a more flattering colour. She also wants to wear a dress she already has. This is the problem really because since she already has it I have no say, and we can’t compromise. I never wanted a full wedding party but I kind of wish I had one at this moment so it was less about what one person wants.
Post # 15
@Lafayette: 🙁 my Bridesmaid or Best Man were kinda giving me too much input when I was trying to decide. I almost went with a darker color dress. I am sooooo glad I followed my “vision” and chose a light colored dress. I would have beem bummed looking back if I hadn’t. I think you should pick a dress that fits your dream. It is only one day, she SHOULD be willing to wear whatever. I know I would and have in the past when I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in other weddings.
Post # 16
Originally I wanted all of my bridesmaids to wer the same dress, but I was having a REALLY ard time finding one that I liked that would look good on everyone. When I found out one of my bridesmaids was pregnant and would have her baby a week before the wedding, I said screw it, everyone pick your own knee length dress in this color from this store. I was fine with that, but the pregnant bridesmaid decided to (understandably) step down after everyone else had bought their dresses, so now I’m a little upset that I could have had what I wanted, had she stepped down earlier… Oh well!