Post # 1
Soo a little background.
My Pastor got my dates mixed up and planned the church retreat for the weekend of my wedding, this was announced on Sunday, my heart dropped. I helped write the proposal and reminded the coordinator of this. My date has changed LOADS a couple of times, so I kind of get the confusion.
I did tell my one of my Pastors about the mix up after church, she was absolutely horrified and they are currently trying to change the dates. I should hear from them this week.
I could look into changing the venue date, but this was one of the only dates I could get my photographer. I don’t want to move it up to another part of the year. Since I have attended this church (3 almost 4 years) we have been through so much together and I don’t really want to be married by anyone else. I.e I don’t love my church building aesthetically, but if it meant not being married by them, I would deal with it.
Then ON THE SAME DAY I found out the guy I wanted to be my MC is attending a friend’s wedding, where he will MC. I am saddened by this as this means that I don’t get him to be an MC, neither will his wife, who is a friend be able to attend.
I am waiting to hear from my church. I don’t know what I will do if a date change can’t happen as I wanted some members of my church family to be there and my Pastor’s daughter was going to be a bridesmaid.
I will most likely get married in another church (A local C of E) if so.
I had a total melt down, tears, snot, the lot (v.attractive) and now feel like I need to try and stop this happening again. I do feel calmer, but there is that worry.
Now the advice part; Should I invite those people who I wanted to be in the wedding party/ have special roles now and disrupt my schedule of waiting until Christmas out of sheer panic as I didn’t want to advertise the date just yet, or relax and stick with my timeline?
Post # 3
I would recommend sending everything out early – but that’s me. I get crazy anxious over these things and would rather people just know ASAP.
My wedding is in September 2013 and I’ll be getting our Save The Dates out as soon as we get our engagement pics done. But I can’t just sit around…
I’m sure everything will work out for you – it’s good that the church are wanting to change their date! 🙂
Post # 4
I am sorry to hear all of that. I would try to stay positive, it seems like the church is trying to change their weekend so maybe its still possible to have it in your church. Don’t completely stress yourself out or make changes until they get back to you. And as for the friend, I mean that unfortunately happens. Its impossible to pick a day that works for absolutely everyone so I am sure it will still be an amazing day! Once you finalize everything with the church, I would definitely send out a save the date this way everyone who will be invited will know this is your date! Good Luck and Keep us posted!
Post # 5
@lookingglass: I am glad someone else understands the need to get THINGS DONE!!!
@VermontBride13: I am trying to stay positive and not focus on the things that can go wrong. Gotta have faith.
Thanks so much ladies. It really did help to get some perspective. Once I have a confirmation from my church of dates, I will send out the Save-The-Date Cards I think. I happy to be part of such a great church, they are truly awesome. I wouldn’t want to be married by anyone else.
I gave Fiance until Christmas to give the official proposal. Didn’t want to send out the Save-The-Date Cards before that, he might have to hurry up. lol.
Post # 6
Don’t worry. You’ll get it figured out. Maybe the conflict with the church date and the MC’s schedule is the universe’s way of telling you something. Can you find out what other dates your photographer has available and start trying to make a back up plan that will get you your church, your MC, and your photographer?
Post # 7
@Elvis: I wish the universe would send me an email or something. MUCH less stressful.
We have had a rough couple months and really didn’t need for anything morBut b to go wrong. Being the worry wort that I am, I have worked through a few scenarios to see what could happen. Right now it is a case of waiting to hear what the church says and going from there.
Post # 8
Good news, my wonderful, wonderful church has moved their dates to accomadate our wedding.
I am going to wait on sending the save the dates, but I will be sending ‘invites’ asking them to be a part of our wedding party etc. Most people have been asked informally. I just want to get them to save the date as my bridal party /makeup artist are important to me.
The rest of the guests will get theirs in December as planned.
Thanks for keeping me sane bees. xx
Post # 9
Hang in there chica! Your wedding is almost a year away! I think it’s kind to ask people to be a part of your wedding party (bridesmaids, groomsmen, etc.) as far in advance as you can because they may have costs associated with the wedding (travel, attire, etc.) that they need to save money for – but for the rest of your guests, I’m glad you’re waiting until December. Honestly, I don’t even have a 2013 calendar yet, so if I were a guest I would have a hard time planning this far in advance! 😉
Glad your church was able to rearrange their calendar! If some people do fall through closer to the date, hang in there – it WILL be okay I promise 🙂 We’re a little over a month from our wedding, a few things have fallen through the cracks, but at this point we are just so excited to be married. Sounds like you’re totally on top of things if you’re booking a year out, so I am sure everything will work out great! Happy planning!
Post # 10
No worries, I sent my Save-The-Date Cards out last month (later than planned, but whatever) and have basically everything else done.
Post # 11
@charlii.rouge: Yay! Definitely now that everything has been finalized, you should finalize all your vendors and your bridal party. There’s no such thing as telling people too early on, unless of course nothing is definite. So go ahead and get those invites out for the bridal party and vendors and get on those STDs! You only have 8 months left!
Post # 12
@MsVoyageur: I get you about the 2013 calendar, I am still trying to get over the Christmas is in 2 and a bit months, lol. Most of the people I know are exactly like you. It’s a new thing to even receive save the dates for most of my guests. But I want to give them a heads up at least!
@vorpalette: I have kind of designed my STD’s but I have yet to finalise them. I feel like I am falling behind, lol!
@futuremrsk18: I read your post and was terrified, so much less time than I thought… I am sticking with counting it as 9 months…lol. I think because it was so far away, I feel like it has snuck up on me! Time to get those skates on I think.