(Closed) Bees, i am so emotional this morning it’s almost unbearable..

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2575 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Sorry to hear about your loss.


Not much to say, but ((HUGS)).

Post # 4
334 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

*hugs* Call your fiancé. He’ll understand that you need to share your feelings.

Post # 5
2947 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’m very sorry for your loss. 🙁

Post # 6
1933 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

So sorry for your loss 🙁  Just call your fiance and talk it out with him.  Don’t take on everything yourself!

Post # 7
9478 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m so sorry for your loss.  I wish there was more we could do to help.  (hugs)

Post # 8
218 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I am very sorry to hear about this.  Definitely talk to your fiance.  His ex does not have to be there.  He should understand how you feel.  If it kills him that much for her not to be a part of it, perhaps she can attend the ceremony and not the reception.  This way you don’t feel the need to have to talk to her.  And do not worry about the birthday.  You two chose that day for a reason, and it will be more of a reason for your stepson to celebrate.  (My two aunts chose the same exact day for their weddings.)

In the meantime, find a quiet place to sit and breathe.  Your health is the most important.

Post # 10
47449 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s hard when someone you love and who is such an important part of your life, and your childrens’ lives, passes away. Fortunately, nothing can take away the wonderful memories you have and the lessons you learned from her.

It sometimes does seem overwhelming when you still have all the duties of Fiance, mother, homemaker, wedding planner to get done. But, I think this is part of a bigger plan. These sometimes overwhelming tasks and duties might be designed to show us that life indeed does go on. As you go about these day to day tasks, you will gradually incorporate her loss into your life. 

You will think of her when you are making decisions. You may even find yourself smiling or laughing at the thought of something she might have said or done.You will know you are on the path to healing. She will always be looking out for you.

Post # 11
1718 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I am so sorry for your loss.  *Big hugs*  I can only imagine how you’re feeling. //  If it’s possible, you should give yourself a “mental health” day and have some r&r just for yourself. 

Post # 12
1332 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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@Rivendeler:  Letting yourself feel your emotions in a time of grief is the MOST important thing right now.  I know what you are going thru, and it IS HARD and SUCKY!!  You will have your awful days, and your Ok days.  You will have your happy days, and your sad days.  They will not go in order, but jump around.  Grieving is a life-long process, and the worst thing you can do is, well, NOT grieve.  Share your feelings to those whom you trust.  It ‘hitting’ you know, the incredible loss, is absolutely normal, but that does not mean in 2 months, it will feel ‘better’.  Loss is incredibly difficult, especially when it was someone so close to you.

As for the ‘other’ things, although they are stressful and difficult, please just remind yourself that life is TOO short to ‘sweat’ the small stuff. I am not saying these things are small, but certainly, a lesson that slapped me in the face after the loss of my mother not too long ago is that sometimes the best thing to do is to focus on the things that really matter – your love, your daughter, your future together with your soon-to-be DH.  


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