(Closed) Bee’s, I DESPERATELY need your help. Terrified for my sister!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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9483 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MissComicBook:  Yikes.  Sounds like such a sticky situation.  You’ve obviously pleaded with her to be careful and get him to prove who is.  She’s not listening and I’m not sure she’s going to listen.  How old is she?  My suggestion?  Make sure she never, EVER decides to meet this person 1:1.  Just tell her that you would go or have someone else go to support her, yet make sure she is safe.

All of this certainly sounds shady/creepy.  >.<

I wish you the best of luck.  I really wish I could do and say more to help.

Post # 4
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1235 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Anything you say will make her resent you and she will rationalize anything. I think you have to let her make her own mistakes :/

Post # 7
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9483 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MissComicBook:  He definitely isn’t who he is then.  Either he’s a creeper or some really geeky/ugly (hate to use that word) person trying to be someone he’s not.

Post # 8
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1104 posts
Bumble bee

It sounds like you’ve said all you can, and hard as it is you might have to let her make this mistake on your own. When you were in an abusive relationship, did people try to talk to you about it? Did you listen? It can be really hard for a lot of people and they usually have to come to the realisation on their own, even if it’s blindingly obvious to the people who love them. I have a friend in a similar situation, her sister is with a total a** but the family has had to wipe their hands. If she leaves him, she knows they will be there to support her but they can’t keep helping her stay with him when it’s so bad. Assuming your sister is an adult, you might just have to do the same 🙁

Post # 10
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5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Oof, she sounds like she’s stubborn on this, and very naive. Does her cell have tracking/GPS locating? I’d really be sure to keep an eye on her (but not in her face, she’ll start hiding). He does not sound legit :-/

Post # 12
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9483 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MissComicBook:  How exhausting it must be for you though.  It’s irritating that she sits there to claim she understands certain points, but goes along with everything.  She’s young and has plenty of time to find that special someone.  Obviously he doesn’t want or try hard enough to please her with the smallest favors.

Post # 14
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

how old is she?  if the dude wont send her a his photo holding up a sign with her name and a toilet brush (i joke about the brush) then something is very sketchy and her pride and love-blindness is getting in the way

im guessing hes either older, a creeper or married/in a relationship

sadly sometimes people have to hit bottom before they realize there is something wrong – please tell her IF and WHEN she meets him you (someone else) needs to be there for her own safety. 

Post # 15
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9483 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MissComicBook:  It’s a shame girls feel the need to have man to validate who they are.

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