(Closed) bees i feel so guilty and maybe just need some reassurance

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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221 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

i wouldnt even worry about it. you were honest and told your fiancee you didnt hear the guy, so please dont worry. you havent done anything wrong xo

Post # 4
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1239 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@ashley050406:  not at all, also if you had gone back to ask him that would have been super awkward & im sure the guy was only making polite small talk & he would feel like you thought he was a sleaze if you asked him what he had said.  I would just forget it and not worry about it all all anymore.

Post # 5
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331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Even if it turned out the guy was hitting on you, it hardly matters that you laughed. You didn’t hear the guy! Everyone does the fake laugh/nod and smile at loud parties one time or another. Don’t lose sleep over it

Post # 6
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2702 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

He could have been saying anything. I wouldn’t worry about it. If he ends up hitting on you in the future you can just politely shoot him down. I don’t think you should be so upset over this. You told your Fiance, life is good!

Post # 7
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2651 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I think you’re good! You told your Fiance, he said NBD your in the clear!  Besides it was an honest mistake.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Not to be mean but you’re being kinda silly. He could have asked you if it’s raining outside for all you know. Don’t get yourself so worked up!

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Relax and let it go. It could be a lesson though. I hate it when someone is playing on their phone, texting or making a call at a social occasion. Unless you are expecting an emergecny call, turn your phone off and leave it in your purse.

Post # 10
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

you are over thinking a non issue but next time stop playing on your freaking phone when someone is speaking to you so you dont have to keep asking them to repeat themselves and still not give them the courtesy of listening – thats rude

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2007

I wouldn’t even worry about it.  I think you are overthinking it and stressing yourself out.  I probably would have done what you did too. Just let it go…

Post # 12
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423 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Yeah, I think the guy was probably just making conversation.  He probably thought you were bored, because you were playing with your phone instead of enjoying the party.

I agree with the other posters who suggest leaving your phone in your purse at parties in the future. 

ETA: You definitely have nothing to feel guilty about, as far as accidentally flirting with someone, or whatever you’re worried about.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

And what if he was saying something that was absolutely appropriate? You don’t know what he said. Feeling guilty for something that may not have happened that you didn’t consciously participate in is a whole lot of wasted energy. It’s fine. 

Post # 14
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996 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@ashley050406:  …..i am confused

Is there some reason why you think the guy said something inappropriate?

 

 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

How old are you? I’m asking because this is totally a non-issue.  And also because its rude to play on your phone instead of making small talk (though believe me i hate small talk more than anyone)

Post # 16
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818 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Let it go.

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