(Closed) Bees, I need help… (long)

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
3520 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

If YOU have made the decision to go through with it, then leave her out of it.  She’s told you how she feels, and you need to respect that as her friend.  Also know, though, that she’s feeling that way because of how YOU felt at the time… friendship is sometimes stronger than other relationships that way.  She’s entitled to her opinion.  From your post, you already know this.

Post # 4
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5096 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

That’s painful.  Unfortunately, I don’t think there is anything TO do.  You made your decision, she made hers. I think it speaks really well of you that you are not immediately writing her off as a bad friend.  All you can do is tell her you love her, and that although it breaks your heart, you understand her decision.

Post # 5
Member
7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

YOu can’t fault her for how she feels, and unfortunately, there isn’t much you can do at this point. I just hope you are really doing what is best for you, and not getting married because you feel you need to at this point.  It would be nice to hear some back story, but I understand if you don’t want to put it out there. She feels how she feels, and only time will tell if one or both of you will grow to regret this.

Post # 6
Member
5761 posts
Bee Keeper

I’m always a proponent of getting things out there, but sometimes you can vent to the wrong people (and maybe not realize it at the time). Knowing her and how she is, I guess you now realize that whatever you shared with her she is now using as judgment against him. You’ve gotten over it, but she hasn’t.

I think there isn’t much you can do at this point since you can’t take back whatever you said.

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