Post # 1
I’m making mockup of our invitations right now and I just don’t know what to do about the wording. My Fiance and I are paying for about half of the wedding. FI’s parents’ are paying for all of the food (about half as well). My parents are divorced. My mom has helped a little financially and she’s helping me with my DIY projects and is currently making my ring pillow. My dad can’t really help financially (he’s letting me borrow his laser printer for the invitations though).
While the generic “Together with their parents” is probably the easiest way out, my Fiance thinks his parents’ names should be listed. While I agree with that, I just don’t know how to go about making it happen.
Post # 3
Is he open to mentioning both sets of parents? I just think “together with their parents” is more streamlined even if everybody was paying when you get “complicated’ family relationships.
Post # 4
He thought it was very strange that his parent’s wouldn’t be specifically named on the invitation. So the “together with their parents” while easiest isn’t going to happen. 🙁
Post # 5
We listed everyone’s names, as painful as it was, to avoid hurting any feelings, even though Fiance and I are paying for most of the wedding. My parents are divorced, which added an extra line too. It went like this:
Ms. RKB’s mom and Mr. RKB’s mom’s fiance
Mr. and Mrs. RKB’s dad and stepmom
Dr. and Mrs. FI’s parents
Request the honor of your presence
At the marriage of their children
I thought it would be a little wordy at first, but with our names big and colored they really pop and it looked great and doesn’t actually look wordy at all. Hope that helps!
Post # 6
We did the “together with their parents” even though our parents pais for different parts of the wedding (mine paying most). I’ll show you how mine turned out, and yes it was the easiest way, but it turned out to be the best way for us, because we didn’t want my FI’s mother (divorced/single) (FI’s father died a few years ago) to feel she didn’t pay as much as my parents.
Here is our invitation (just ignore the typo in the date):
Post # 7
If your Fiance wants his parents listed, then I agree that you should list all the parents.
Post # 8
Yeah, I’ll probably use @rkbecker:‘s wording. Do you think something like this gets a bit wordy though?
Love was meant to be shared
with parents, family and friends
Melfirst Mellast and FHfirst FHlast
together with our parents
Melmom1st and Meldad1st Mellast &
FHmom1st and FHdad1st FHlast
Invite you to share our celebration
of lifelong love and commitment
in the ceremony uniting us in marriage
Saturday, the nineteenth of August
two thousand and six
at half past five in the evening
Name Of Site
12345 Main Street
Dinner and merriment to follow
Post # 9
I agree that including all of the names is your best option (even if the funding is lopsided), and think your wording is beautiful. On the right invitation, with correct spacing/sizing, it will not be too wordy. I think more and more couple are starting to do invites this way as it’s not usually just the brides parents hosting anymore.