Post # 1
My Finace and i have been together for 8yrs and are getting married in april on the beach. We have decided not to have a bridal party (less stress/money) and we both have people that will be there for us regardless.
so im trying to decide how i will be walked down the aisle. My dad has an illness and isnt to stable on his own 2 feet and my mom has passed away from cancer.(which by the way any idea how to incorporate a special moment or action in rememberence of her and other loved ones who arent able to be there with us?)
So was thinking about asking my older brother to walk me down the aise. also had the idea of meeting my fiance half way and then walking together the rest of the aisle.
We have no idea what we are doing or where to start as far as the ceremony. We have had a few replies from officients that we may choose from letting us know they are available but…i guess we just dont know how to choose. Niether of us are very religious so that doesnt matter to us..
do we tell them what readings we want? does it normally cost more to write your own vows? any good place to find readings or inspiration for vows?
also what are some alternatives for the unity sand and dove relase? we want to do something different any ideas?!
i know i need lots of guidance ! lol help me out bees !
Just a little about us, we are both a lil off beat and comical.. my fiance especially so i want to make it fun but also romantic and meaningful..were not so traditional i guess you could say.
Thank you in advance ladies!!
Post # 3
hi there – i have about 6 sample ceremony readings that i can send you from my officiant. it doesn’t cost more to do your own vows, it will be the same cost – but i find they vary significantly between people (ours is $200 and i found others for $400 in alberta, canada).
i think your brother walking you half way sounds very nice, and then your fiance meeting you the other half.
let me know by pm if you want them – i have only figured out how to email them
Post # 4
I like the Fiance walking you down halfway; we’ll be approaching our 8 year anniversary when we marry so I really like that idea. You’ve been together SO much you’re basically already married.
We’re doing a wine mixing ceremony instead of sand/dove release; someone else on the Bee told me about it. Here’s a link to my post in which I asked your very same question and got 30 replies of different ideas: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/not-unity-candle-sand-or-wine-box-ceremony
Post # 5
My Fiance and I wrote our own ceremony too! We spent a day googling wedding ceremonies of all different religions/non-religions/cultures, and picked the parts that we liked best, and just kinda meshed it all together.
I found a lot of good inspiration for our readings here: http://offbeatbride.com/2008/07/wedding-readings
Offbeat Bride has several other posts with wedding reading suggestions, as well. We’re using a traditional Irish Blessing and the traditional Apache Blessing — you can google them if you’re interested.
Offbeat Bride also has a bunch of alternatives to the unity candle/sand ceremony! Here they are: http://offbeatbride.com/2011/04/unity-ceremony-options
Good luck! If you’d like me to email you our ceremony that we wrote, I’d be happy to!