(Closed) Bees, I need your help! Who does what?!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1598 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

In my experience, the bride’s mother (and sometimes Future Mother-In-Law, close aunts/god mothers/cousins) and the bridesmaids plan the shower.

The bridesmaids plan the bachlorette.

I’ve never been to an engagement party (they aren’t very popular where I live, unless you’re rich lol) so I can’t be of much help there.

One of my friends who got married a few years ago had an aunt who was from the South (we live in the North), and the aunt planned her an AWESOME bridal luncheon the day before the wedding. I’d never heard of a bridal luncheon before, but this was very nice and a pretty cool experience. I believe close female relatives of the bride plan this.










Post # 4
5778 posts
Bee Keeper




These are pretty much how my family does it, but it can often be switched around as to who offers to do certain things for the bride. Oftentimes Moms inherit these additional expenses, but traditionally and technically, immediate family members are not supposed to host the gift giving events. An Aunt or cousin or even family friend will often act as hostess, with others helping out.

I’ve only ever known the parents of the engaged couple to host the engagement parties, but they aren’t very common here either.

Post # 5
1966 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

The maids usually plan the shower and bachelorette party. Moms sometimes help with the shower if they want to. You plan your own engagement party unless someone offers to throw one for you. 

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