Post # 1
bees i need your help!
my church recently moved into
a brand new building!
and we have been overwhelmed by
all the responses and requests to have weddings there
from members and non members alike.
the church recently formed a committee to come up with rules/policies for the day of weddings and other non-church related events and asked me to head it.
problem is, i have no idea! all the weddings ive been to have been in non-church venues. does anyone have rules/policies that the church they used gave you guys? Either a copy of a example contract or listing of policies?
thanks in advance!
would u be willing to email/forward it to me?
misolee [at] gmail [dot] com
Post # 3
I don’t have a set of rules…but a couple of things I can remember the priest mentioning to us as far as rules included….
Any items tossed, either in the aisle or outside, had to be cleaned up. (Petals, seed, etc.)
Flowers for the pews had to use their special pew clips
Receiving lines could not be held if the wedding ceremony finished too closely to a mass time
I’m not sure what exactly you are looking for but I hope that helps.
Post # 4
Usually there is a no alochol policy.
No real petals can be used, fake petals are required becuase they wont leave stains on the floor if they get crushed.
Any decoration you bring must be cleaned up or a fee will be charged to clean up after the wedding.
Some churches require the couples to go through a few weeks or months of counseling with the pastor.
No inappropriate music.
Wedding needs to be done by a certain time.
Whether you will allow same sex marriages.
Whether they have to use the church’s pastor or not.
Any restrictions on the dresses, i.e not too short or cleavage.
Thats about all I can come up with right now, hope it helps 🙂
Post # 5
A rules about if members and non-members are welcome or if members will get priority. Not sure of the denomination but will you have any rules toward what denominations can be married there.
You’ll want to get a deposit payment when the date is booked — a lot of places do 50%. and then the rest is due one week before? or on the day of the event.
Also don’t forget wedding rehersals — they are usually held the night before so you want to make sure there are rules for that.
Will you want to offer or suggest that the couple go through any sort of marriage counseling?
Will the pastor help to write the ceremony? Will they follow a traditional one? Are couples expected to create their own?
Definitely dont forget set up and clean up. Who is responsible? When can set up start and when must clean up be done?
Candles — make sure you check with firecode.
Hope that helps! I’m sure if you google it you can find a lot more information and probably an example. Or I would strongly consider talking to another church or even hotel venue and they could help you. You’ll probably want a lawyer to check it out before you send it to people!
Post # 6
these are all really helpful
its a baptist church.
its for members and non members having priority.
the pastor does require some sort of counseling before.
other than that, everything is free to come up with some sort of policy book.
in the past, we have been borrowing office buildings, schools, etc.
so this is the first time the church is experiencing this problem.
Post # 7
Here is the information for the church where we are getting married:
On that site, the links, "Wedding Booklet" and "Wedding Agreement" contain all the rules/guidelines. Good luck!!
Post # 8
You might not want people throwing anything or blowing bubbles as the couple exits because it can be a slip and fall hazard. Our church requires that if candles are going to be used during the ceremony that the candle holders be approved (to make sure that wax will not be dripping onto the carpet). We allow guest ministers to assist with the ceremony if approved, but one of our pastors must perform the ceremony. If you have both a small chapel and a larger sanctuary, you will want to provide rules for who is allowed to get married in which one (e.g. if you want to save the larger sanctuary for larger weddings). We require that Music Minister approve all song choices and performers. We require that all dresses cover the shoulder and come to at least the top of the knee. Set-up and tear-down time is also written into the contract.
Also, if you look at the websites for other churches in your area, particularly the larger or more desireable ones for weddings, you will probably find their policies for weddings.
Hope that helps!