(Closed) Bees – I need your relationship advice

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 46
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3334 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

He is the one being crazy, not you. I also think you’re doing the right thing. You deserve someone who will treat you SO much better. I’m sorry you’re going through this, but you are being so strong!

Post # 47
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3093 posts
Sugar bee

Dealbreaker 

Super shady

Personally I think he’s cheating but I digress 

This would not fly with me at all.This relationship does not make you feel safe.He is acting single.I would give him what he wants.

Post # 48
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4698 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Lifes to short to put up with this shit! Good for you for walking away. Real men don’t treat people they love like this.

Post # 49
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4254 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

At the core, this is a lack of trust.  Trust is the foundation of a good, happy, healthy relationship and marriage.  This behavior is very shady, and I am upset for you.  It sounds like you have been having a bunch of issues in the relationship, especially given your past posts ON TOP OF this post.  I know you love him, I know you have a history with him, but if the trust is not there I do not think this relationship is worth it.

Post # 50
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326 posts
Helper bee

sortawaitingbee:  wow she sounds awful! I walk around naked in my house but when I’m visiting friends I wear actual clothes and a bra (Unless they’re girl friends who live with other women). She’s really disrespectful! 

And I can’t believe he called you a stalker? Sorry but a real relationship is based on trust and you clearly do not trust him. He gave you no reason to. I’m glad you realized your relationship isn’t healthy and that youre signing your lease. 

Post # 52
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1703 posts
Bumble bee

sortawaitingbee:  

I am sorry this story isn’t having the ending you hoped, but I think you know in your heart what you need to do…it will DEFINITELY be tough and there will be times where you second guess yourself and wonder if you made the wrong decision – remember how you felt when he turned the table and tried to make you feel crazy….remember how you felt waiting for him, not hearing from him…remember how you felt when his stories didn’t add up…you WILL meet someone new and better and DESERVING of YOUR love and respect!!

I wish you the best of luck as you start on your new journey! 

Post # 53
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1703 posts
Bumble bee

sortawaitingbee:  

I just read through some of your other posts…this guy has been jerking you around for YEARS!! 3 YEARS ago, you thought an engagement was on the horizon…I know you have “broken up” with him in the past, but it doesn’t seem like you were able to follow through…you NEED to move on – this isn’t healthy, it isn’t normal and it is NEVER going to get better!! I am sorry – I don’t mean to come across as hard on you, but I think based on your past posts, you don’t feel you deserve better…this so called BFF of his was only in his life 6 years longer than you…big whoop…I would NEVER choose a guy friend over my now fiance and if my guy friends EVER disrespected my fiance, buh bye! “Don’t make me choose” is a line that YOUNG guys and girls use – MATURE adults don’t think of it as a choice – they wouldn’t be friends with ANYONE that disrespected their significant other!

PLEASE stop wasting time with this asshole…you have wasted years…he is NEVER going to change…I think you know that in your heart, you are just struggling to accept that and I suspect part of you wonders/worries that he and his BFF will become a couple and you will feel even more betrayed…let her have him…he will do the SAME thing to her with someone else!!

Post # 54
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3036 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

You aren’t crazy… his reaction to you telling him “but I didn’t see your car there” pretty much cements the fact that he’s a lying (possibly cheating) dirtbag. 

I’m so so sorry you need to deal with this heartache right now, but keep repeating to yourself that you are not crazy and YOU ARE RIGHT. A bunch of random women on the internet agree that you are doing the right thing! Trust your gut and keep doing what’s best for you. 

Best wishes to you during this transitional time. 

Post # 55
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1032 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - His Way Church & Chesapeake Room @ Downs Park

Go with your gut.

“I found a place, just having a bit of a hard time signing the lease.”

The fact that you have actively been looking and have found a place is already enough of an answer. You already know what you want.

 

Post # 56
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231 posts
Helper bee

You said you’d been living together for three years. Where I live, three years of common law gives legal rights like marriage. When you’re married you certainly have the right to know where your husband is and what he is doing.

Post # 58
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9733 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Uh, no. Your problems don’t stem from you not trusting him, they stem from him being shady and not willing to communicate with you.

Post # 60
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1042 posts
Bumble bee

sortawaitingbee:  Why are you moving out? If you have the higher income, make his ass move out and put in the effort. 

The situation with his BFF was shady as hell and all the other situations as well. HE BROKE YOUR TRUST. He needs to be doing everything he can to repair it. Instead he is turning it around on you and making it your issue. Uncool. 

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