(Closed) Bees in their Twenties – How long did you date before getting engaged? (POLL)

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How long did you date before getting engaged?

    Under a year

    1-2 years

    2-3 years

    3-4 years

    4 years +

  • Post # 31
    4060 posts
    Honey bee

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    carolynne:  we met when I was 20 and he was 37 (July 2010). We started to officially date at 21/38 (July 2011). And we got engaged at 25/42 (Feb 2015)

    Post # 32
    37 posts
    • Wedding: March 2016

    We dated for almost 8 years and he proposed a month before our 8th anniversary. We met during our first year in uni and it explains the long wait before we are ready to go to the next stage – we are finally financially stable now.

    Post # 33
    2663 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    6.5 years. I wanted to be over 25 when I got engaged. I was 26.

    Post # 34
    1306 posts
    Bumble bee

    Dating for a year in your early 20’s is a lot different than late 20’s, but FWIW, we dated for about 3.5 ish years (started dating when I was 21) and were engaged for a little less than 1.  He is 2 years older.

    Post # 35
    467 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2016

    We’ve known each other since we were 13/14, started dating at 20/21, got engaged at 24/25, will be married at 25/26. It’s earlier than I envisenged for myself but it made sense with him moving across the country for me to follow my career dreams (for a second time) and the path our lives were taking together, so I was ready for it. 

    Post # 36
    153 posts
    Blushing bee

    We met when we were 21 and 22, engaged at 25 and 26, and married at 26 and 27.

    We were together four years when we got engaged. Given our circumstances, I would have waited no more than four years. I wasn’t willing to have kids or buy a house without being married. We met later in college (my junior year and his third semester of his senior year), so the last 2.5 years we were dating we were legitimate adults- finished with school, good jobs, cars, living together, etc.

    Post # 37
    253 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    We got together when I was 25 and he was 24. We dated for 9 months when we got engaged and then got married 1 month later. I think the longest I would have waited is 2 years before I started questioning him seriously only because we knew pretty quickly that we wanted to be married to each other, so going from 100 to 0 would have alarmed me, depending on the reasons why.


    Post # 38
    298 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    We got engaged after a year and one month. I was 25 and DH was 30. If he was younger, the wait may have been longer, but we were both at a good place in our lives when we met and he doesn’t want to be an “old dad.” Lol!

    Post # 39
    73 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    I answered under 1 year, because he proposed about 2 weeks before it would have been a year since he asked me to be his girlfriend. It was basically a year though. We dated unofficially for a couple months before that too.

    Post # 40
    1863 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Dating at 21 (me)/25 (him).  Married at 22/26. We’d been dating for just under a year when we got engaged and married 4 months later. We’re coming up on 3.5 years married and going strong. 

    Post # 41
    676 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

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    carolynne:  We started dating in high school and got engaged on our 7th anniversary! We are getting married in Sept and we’ll both be 23.

    Post # 42
    2869 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    Started dating at 26 and 28, got engaged 11 months into our relationship, married 14 months after that.

    Post # 43
    497 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    We got together at 18 and it was over 7.5 years until we got engaged.

    4 of those years were at uni, 1 was back home living with parents & then backpacking and then we moved in together. I didn’t even think about marriage until that point.

    We got engaged within 6 months of having a do-we-think-we’ll-get-married talk, so we were definitely ready. Now we’re at a place where we can comfortably afford the wedding we want and we have enough life experience to go after what we want, a couple of years I’d have been shy in negotiating and being decisive. 

    In terms of waiting I wouldn’t have like to have got to 10 years together without taking this next step.

    Post # 44
    697 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    I had just turned 21 when my fiance and I started dating. He was 25. This was back in January of 2011. He proposed to me on our 4 year anniverary, I was 25 and he was 30. We are now 26 and 31 and will be getting married in 5 months.

    In regards to waiting, I probably wouldn’t have waited past 5 years.

    Post # 45
    2168 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception/The Gallery

    There’s definitely no magic number and a lot of it will depend on where you both are in life and financially.

    For us, we started dating right about when I was graduating from grad school, I was 24 and he was 25, just about to turn 26. We moved in together just under 1.5 years later and then he proposed another 18 months after that, in May, a month before our 3rd anniversary. (We had looked at rings the previous December). I was 27, he was a month shy of 29. We’ll be married this coming September, he’ll be 30, I’ll be a month shy of 29.

    I will say, living together was a very important step for us, we really learned a lot about each other and it definitely allowed us to work out some issues before we got engaged. It brought us much closer and made us much stronger.

    I was getting anxious to move forward around our third anniversary as well, but we were in the right place to do so. I think you should talk to him, make sure you’re on the same page about what you want and when.

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