Post # 1
Bees! I need your advice on this seriously.
I admit I did not pay my baker in time. I admit that. I have been non-gainfully employed since March 2010. I worked 2 part time jobs that barely paid me enough to stay substainable.
My friend’s aunt had a bakery. She offered $175 for a cake for my 200 guests. Bottom line, I was going to pay her Friday but the money I had saved up sent to pay for my wedding gown alterations. I forgot I had to get my dress bustled.
What is bothering me is the fact that she called our mutual friend telling her to tell me she would not do the cake. Well, I understand that. But, my friend never called me. I justhappened to call her htis mornnig to say hello and the subject came up and she just told me out of the blue. I was floored. I asked why I had to call her. Her excuse? “I had to write a 3 page paper for school and I didn’t want you upset”. So what if I had not called you until Thursday?
So, I had been trying to call the former baker since Saturday asking could I pay her day of. I would have even paid more. I never got a call from her. But wait, she magically picsk up when phone when I leave her a mesage asking her why she just didn’t call me herself.
Now, my best friend is crying and I’m without a cake. Bees, I know I’ve had ample time to pay her. I can understand her upsetness. Butm what is bothering me is that she did not call me herself. She put my friend in the middle who in turn did not call me. Then when the baker does call, she is yelling at me for being a bad friend. Mind you, all my friend and her aunt talk shit about each other all.the.time.
I was so hurt at my friend right now, and angry at my financial situation. When Fi and I first got engaged, I had the money. Then my hours got cut. We have done everything to cut costs for this wedding: choose the cheapest venue, adult only, 1st cousins only, no children, silk flowers, church wedding but we had just enough.
Sigh, give me some common sense bees.
Post # 3
Want common sense? Hurry to your best supermarket and order a small beautiful cake. Have them bake a sheet cake in the same flavors. Get to Homegoods or marshalls and pick up a cake stand with presence and beauty. There’s your common sense.
Oh and call your friend and apologize for being a lil batty around your wedding date. Finally, get married and have one of the best days of your life.
Post # 4
Get a few of your friends together and make cupcakes. It will be much cheaper and there are tons of brides who are using cupcakes instead of a cake. Make a small layer as the center to cut and the rest will be cupcakes. It is easy to do yourselves and very inexpensive.
I found a great buttercream recipe that everyone loved with the cupcakes we made for our wedding. We had cake but I wanted to make cupcakes as well. If you are interested let me know and I will post the recipe.
Post # 5
@StormyRose: I’m interested in the recipe! 🙂
Post # 6
I’m getting 3 small cakes and displaying them myself on a Wilton cake stand. With the 40% off coupon (I can forward that to you if you want) at Michaels, it came out to under $30.
With the 3 cakes, you’ll be able to feed about half of your guests. As the PP said, get a sheet cake for the rest.
It will be so much cheaper this way!
Post # 7
Honest question, if you’re trying to cut costs why are you spending so much on the cake?? Go to a local grocery store and find some nice sheet cakes, or get some DQ ice cream cakes. I have friends that did these and they were great.
Post # 8
Do you have a Costco or big chain store nearby? If so, then get pretty sheet cakes and call it a day! I’m sorry that you found out the way you did, and money troubles suck at any time but so much worse when a wedding is in the mix.
Post # 9
@galloway111: The cakes around here start at $600. She offered to do the whole cake for $175. It was a steal, one which I still could not afford sadly
Post # 10
Here is the site I got it off of. We substituted different flavors. I had caramel, rose, and vanilla butternut flavors. We also used salted butter. It is not sickeningly sweet which is what we loved about it.
Post # 11
First, let go of the drama with your friend and the aunt. Its not going to get you anywhere and will only further upset you. Your friend was trying to do the right thing, but ended up making it worse and the baker is definately wrong for putting your friend in the middle. But at the end of the day the outcome is the same. No cake
I agree with @dodgercpkl: That Costco or a grocery store cake would be just fine. Order a nice sheet cake for serving and a small cute little tiered cake for the cutting. You dont have to have a multi-tiered large cake that feeds everyone that you cut into.
Alternatively, as others have suggested there are lots of great options! Don’t fret. I bet it will turn out great.
Post # 12
@LuvMySailor: I’m not talking about wedding cakes… I mean, why not go get some sheet cakes to cut costs in the first place? $175 is a lot of money on a tight budget, I’m on a small budget myself.
Post # 13
@heather25: <—- What she said.
I agree that it’s unprofessional for your friend’s aunt to call her instead of you when she had not received payment, but it also sounds like she was cutting you a HUGE deal as a favor. The way I see it, she was not doing this cake in a standard professional setup, but as a favor to you. Since this was not a typical professional situation, I understand her hesitance to call you directly. I don’t know why your friend didn’t call you right away when her aunt told her she would no longer do the cake for you, but I’m guessing she felt a little embarrassed or uncomfortable all around – her aunt was put in a bad position by you, and you yourself are having financial difficulties, which is awkward for friends to deal with.
Long story short – heather25 gave you GREAT advice. I suggest you take it!
Post # 14
Do a cake stand display. You can get serveral different size cake stands and cakes. A single tier cake anywhere is so much cheaper and it can still look great if its set up well.
Post # 15
I agree with the above it would be way cheaper to get a sheet cake or even make some cake or cupcakes. It may be a really fun project for you and your girls. 🙂
Post # 16
I second the cake stand / cupcake idea. I went to a wedding recently where the groom made the cake (yes, the groom). He used a cake stand and some cut flowers from local flower shop, and it turned out AMAZING. I’m pretty sure the cakes were from a box, but you couldn’t tell. I’m guessing it only cost around $50-$75 for everything and didn’t really take all that long either. You could probably even buy the cakes and add the flowers if you don’t want to take the time to bake them. Here’s a picture: