Post # 1
Hoping you can help me by sharing pics of what dress you would wear in this situation. I’m super stuck!
Here is the brief:
I have DH’s boss’ wedding on Saturday day/night.
They are well off and like to splash cash (and good on them!) so I’m assuming it will be quite an event. It will be 250-300 people.
They are of European descent, the ceremony is at an Orthodox church and the reception at a ballroom type place.
I asked DH to ask his boss what the dress code was or what other people might wear, and he said “people can wear whatever they want” (Sigh) When I asked him to press further, his boss said “Formal, but guys don’t have to wear ties” (WTF?? Wish I had a way to get in touch with his fiance) I’m going to make DH wear a tie anyway.
It’s winter here in Aus, and will be quite cold ranging from 17″C (62″F) to 10″C (50″F)
Body type – I’m sort of skinny-fat. Probably a size 6-8 in US sizing (10-12 in Australian) and an apple shape at the best of times. I’m regular height at 5’5″
I will be 9 weeks pregnant on Sat. Obviously I’m not showing yet, but I have a heck of a bloat belly that I would like to somewhat conceal, or draw attention away from.
I don’t know any women going so can’t gauge how people in their circle normally dress. I would like to not appear too overdressed OR underdressed. Since it’s DH’s bosses (It’s a father and brother owned business). I just don’t even know where to start. I’ve never had a problem with what to wear to a wedding before.
So bees, please! Post pics of a dress you would pick in my situation.
Post # 3
As an Australian of European heritage, I’ve been to plenty of weddings you described in your post. You need to dress up and I’d make sure your husband is in a tie. The younger guys might not adhere to the tie for formal but I’d personally not want my partner to attend a formal wedding at a ballroom without one.
It’s also pretty common at European Australian weddings to do an outfit change between the church ceremony and reception. (Especially with orthodox weddings because you have to be more conservative with your outfit choice for church and your reception outfit might be deemed too revealing)
Looking at some dresses now. Will come back and post them when I have a few.
Also from my personal expirience having attended a lot of European weddings that are formal in Australia, formal doesn’t necessarily mean you need to wear a long dress. Just above knee length or longer is fine. Just no super short mini skirts. 😁
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Post # 5
Girll, you’re probably an expert then! That’s funny you mention the outfit change – one of Dh’s coworkers who is also of the same ethnicity (DH is actually the odd one out as the token “white” guy at work hehe) mentioned that he was changing between the church and reception and DH mentioned it to me because he thought it was strange. Makes more sense if that’s a done thing. I’d love to see your options 🙂
Thanks for the suggestions! I’ll be buying a new dress, but probably in store since I’ve left things to the last minute.
Post # 6
I hate being overdressed, it looks attention seeking and like you are trying to upstage the bride so I would dress wedding appropriate but not ‘flashy’ to be safe. So I would wear something like a little black dress, appropriate cocktail dress or a long but ‘casual’ maxi dress (nothing that looks like a prom or bridesmaid or red carpet dress but rather something you could wear to a beach or resteraunt).
btw we are having a ‘no tie’ wedding and its casual with jeans and boots you cant be formal and ‘no tie’.
I would play it safe for church and cover your shoulders and don’t have crazy cleavage or anything.
Post # 7
Are you near a sheike or forever new?
Post # 8
When you say European, where in Europe do you mean? I’d avoid a maxi dress – usually seen in less classy weddings as an attempt to ‘dress up’ / competing with bridesmaids here. Something from this brand – knee length, shoulders and cleavage covered for the church (pop on a jacket or wrap) would be what I’d probably choose. https://www.phase-eight.com/clothing/dresses/matching-jackets/
Post # 9
I’m not sure what stores and Brands you have available to you, but I find browsing Rent the Runway to at least be good for getting ideas and help narrowing down what you want and don’t want in terms of styles to at least show clerks when you go to stores and try to get help.
I agree with avoiding maxi dresses. They tend to come off a little too much like a beach cover-up in many instances. I would find something with a bit more structure for a wedding of this nature. I don’t think you need to go full-on gown but I would definitely stay at knee length or below and cocktail level attire or above in formality. I would try to find sleeves or at least something conducive to wearing some sort of jacket or cover up particularly for church. And if you want to be safe I would probably avoid patterns, particularly Florals, unless they are on a thicker more Luxe fabric. While they can be semi-formal to formal, I find that most patterns and especially florals on your standard variety dresses available at department stores tend to come off a little bit more daytime brunch or garden party unless they’re on a more Luxe fabric.
Post # 10
While I’m a US bee – I am of European descent and I work with a few people of European descent as well. My grandparents are from Eastern Europe if that helps at all. But for us and the people I know, it’s a blingy style of dress. Definitley floor length for formal. The dress SEPT20 posted – the burgundy one is great if you can find it floor length.
So lacey/blingy/fancy looking would be your best bet.
Side note – I chuckled a little and some jealousy ran through me when you said it would be quite cold at 50-60F. I’m in the midwest – Chicago area and 50-60 is gorgeous for us! I know you’re in AUS and the climate is different but still a little chuckle 🙂
Post # 11
Midi length structured black dress all day. Nice midi dresses are totally appropriate at formal weddings but it saves you from feeling overdressed if people go more the cocktail route
Post # 12
maybe something like that, empire waistline, ankle length or midi dress?
Post # 13
Thanks everyone for your help and advice! With your recommendations, I was able to buy a dress within an hour and I was completely on point with the rest of the guests.
It was a gorgeous wedding, and we had an absolute blast!
I owe you internet points! I bought that first black floral dress from Forever New! It was $50 and it’s stunning, especially with my pregnancy boobs haha. Thank you!
Post # 14
That’s awesome! I thought it looked pregnant friendly with a little side of sexy haha