(Closed) Bees… Talk me out of it please!

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
2418 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Don’t want to rain on your parade but finding a job right after you finish school is going to be important, especially in the legal field. i have a similar degree and I was offered my job while I was looking for an internship (that I had to have to complete my degree).

Post # 5
2418 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@pinkgreenandyellow:  Well, if it helps. I’m super baby crazy right now. Thankfully SO talks me off that ledge a lot.

But, the legal field can be hard to get into. You don’t want to go to school and then take a year off before looking for a job (at least in the area I live in. They are super difficult to find).

Post # 7
247 posts
Helper bee


lol. Going through this right now. 

What I do is remember to enjoy what I have right in this moment and picture what I want for my children. I want them to be raised in a household with a Mom and Dad who can provide the financial stability that I’ve always planned. I want them to see Mommy work and Daddy work so they know that that is an option. I want them to see that Mom got her degree, got married, and then had him/her. I don’t know what but looking at it like that ALWAYS calms me down. lol. That and I need to enjoy this phase in my life before I rush into the next one. Enjoy planning your April wedding with your daughter and Fiance. Then enjoy being a newlywed. Then enjoy school. Then enjoy the job hunt. Then enjoy your new job. Then enjoy ttc. Then enjoy your little one. Life is too short to not treasure every second. You can’t go back on decisions like that.  

Post # 8
1855 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think it depends on whether, from a financial perspective, you will need to take any paralegal job you can find (might have heavy workloads, unpredictable hours, long commute, etc) or whether you have the flexibility to hold out for the “perfect” job.  If you have the ability to wait until you find a job that fits your family/lifestyle/interests, then there’s not much reason to wait, keeping in mind that you’ll be less marketable the longer you stay out of the job market after graduating.  What’s your FI’s take on the timing?

Post # 9
5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I waited until I was 31 to start TTC.  I’m glad I had a few years to settle into a stable job, spend time with Darling Husband & our furbabies, travel, save up, etc…

Also, I have found that I’m more confident now in my 30s than I was in my 20s, which has made pregnancy a lot more fun.  I’m not stressed about weight gain or my rapidly changing body.  I am able to embrace these changes with an open mind and positive outlook.  If I were still in my early to mid 20s, that might not be the case.

It will be awesome for your daughter to be able to spend her early childhood with your undivided attention, and as she gets older and progresses in school, you will have more time to devote to your next child so he or she also gets copious amounts of undivided attention ๐Ÿ™‚

If waiting is right for you and your family, by all means- WAIT!  If in the next year or so you and your (almost)DH change your minds, that’s ok too ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
11270 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@arsing89:  finding a job right out of school is an excellent point.

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