Bees that received e-ring without helping to choose a design… are you pleased?

posted 2 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Did you like ring chosen/designed by your FI?

    Love it

    Don't like it

    Neutral about it

    Like it but would change X about it

  • Post # 16
    561 posts
    Busy bee

    i had no involvement whatsoever (no hints to a friend or anything) and i love my ring!  he did a great job. 

    Post # 17
    725 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    My husband showed me the ring he was going to get me, and it was gorgeous, but too expensive. I ended up asking him to downgrade certain elements because my car was on its last legs. Now I have a beautiful ring AND a new car. 

    Post # 18
    129 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2019 - Hyatt Regency Grand Cypress

    My ring (and proposal) were a total surprise. I had probably mentioned casually over the years that I didn’t like anything “flat”, but we never had an actual conversation about rings. He far far surpassed anything I could have imagined—shape, size and side design that I never would have imagined and absolutely love. I get tons of compliments on my ring, and even more importantly, I love it and wouldn’t have anything different! DH has mentioned getting anniversary rings to wear on my right hand, but I’d never upgrade this ring.



    Post # 19
    14 posts
    • Wedding: October 2020

    We never discuss rings at all, he just knew I prefered rose gold but that was for jewlery in general.

    I always though I wasn’t going to like what he would choose, because once he left his search history in plain sight with really awful rings, but the one he actually picked I LOVED IT. 

    He got some help from my sister, but still the ring and proposal was spot on, loved everything.

    Post # 20
    196 posts
    Blushing bee

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    bliss1991 :  can I ask what carat size is your ring and what’s your finger size ? I always have an eye on diamond but I have missive finger at 10.5 I dont want him to spend $$$ since he already got me the sapphire one

    Post # 21
    1501 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

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    kmbumbee190618 :  “It still shocks me how involved women are with their rings. Idk, call me old fashioned but I like the element of a proposal being a surprise and that includes the ring.”

    I’m glad that you got the “surprise” you wanted, and that you love it, but it sounds like you yourself were involved since you sent ideas to your husband and y’all looked together. I’m totally not judging because my opinion is that women should be involved in this decision if they want to be, but if you really didn’t want to be involved then you would have declined to be involved at all. In the context of that, it’s surprising you are shocked that other women are involved to varying degrees in picking their own rings.

    Personally, I think it makes absolutely no sense that there is an expectation that women should hve no input into a gift that their partner would spend hundreds/thousands of dollars on… not to mention that they are expected not to exchange an engagement ring due to sentimental value and that they will likely wear it daily. Any gift should be about what the recipient will like, but especially you’re spending that kind of money on that kind of gift, it better be something the recipient loves. But that might just be the pragmatist in me. 😉

    Post # 22
    186 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2019 - Green Bay, WI

    I had no input or say in the ring choice and I LOVE it! He said it was obvious to pick rose gold because all my jewelry is rose gold and that technically is my favorite color as well. He said he went with a vintage + girly setting, since that’s my clothing style as well (I wear a lot of floral dresses in older style cuts). 

    Side note: He’s a video producer and a graphic designer so he’s got an eye for design in general. 


    Post # 23
    210 posts
    Helper bee

    My husband did a great job. He designed a beautiful, simple diamond solitaire. Even though we had never talked about it, he knew that I wouldn’t want anything elaborate or encrusted with diamonds. The setting is a little higher than I would have picked maybe, just because I sometimes bang it into stuff, but other than that, it’s perfect.

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