Post # 46
brideandblue : I will definitely look into that app, thank you!
Supersleuth : My husband helps a lot! He generally is the one to make sure we have clean laundry- he also keeps up on taking the garbage out/emptying all the bins once a week. My one chore I have daily is cat litter. We both do the dishes but sometimes they pile up a bit. He doesn’t get home all that soon before me (30 minutes to an hour) so sometimes he will have dinner ready and other times not.
My husband is much better at tidying/cleaning EVEYTHING on the surface. He’s less good at the DEEP cleaning (he will try- but I find myself having to go over stuff etc.
My husband used to do like 80% of the housework, but now that his program picked up and he has more clinical hours (full time) on top of the same class work schedule as before he, like me, is struggling to keep up. I absolutely do not expect to be doing everything while he sits on his ass and I do not believe this is the case at all. I can’t struggle with my responsibilities while at the same time expect him to be perfect under similar time/energy restraints.
Unfortunately I am a bit ill/exhausted from my very draining work schedule. That should be changing soon. And once he’s out of school things will change a lot. Everyone has to make sacrifices for their families sometimes. Just came for advice on how to manage in this crazy time.
Post # 47
sunshinewhiskey : How cool- Id really like to try this!
Post # 48
Kslim13 : We looked into Angie’s list and Thumbtack cleaners and we may be able to save up for a one time clean. I discussed this with my husband and he is on board that this might be something worth it to do once and hopefully motivate us to maintain it the best we can. He will be done with school in December so this situation is only until a bit after then when he can find a job in his field.
But even with the private cleaning ladies it’s still a fairly high price tag. Maybe worth it for a one shot thing though!
Post # 49
I haven’t read the comments, but:
get organized/have less stuff – so everything has a place.
get in the habit of “picking up” every morning before work or eveynuvht before bed. Get a Roomba to do your vacuuming for you (works better if you’ve picked up.) if you don’t have to waste time tidying on the weekend, then you can take 10 minutes to clean the bathroom like no big deal.
Post # 50
A one time deep cleaning would be a big help. Maintaining a clean place is much easier than trying to get your place clean.
Post # 51
Can you get a cleaner? It seems luxurious but it can really be a lifesaver even if they only do bathrooms and change linens etc every two weeks. xo
Post # 52
Put things away as you use them. Pick one to organize a day. One day, wipe bathroom counters/floors/toilets. One day, dust the living room. Smaller, manageable tasks are easier to handle. Deep clean when you have time.
Post # 53
otterbee : Glad to hear that you and your husband are a team!
Can I suggest that instead of hiring a cleaner for the foreseeable future that you hire him/her/them for a day to clean alongside you both. This is much cheaper and it’s amazing what can done by 3+ people in a single day. Once that is done then you just have to do the shallow cleaning to keep on top of it.
The other thought I have is that you just need to aim for hygienic rather than gleaming. Some things are much more important than slaving endlessly over a house. Sanity for instance.
And if desperate follow the advice of writer Quentin Crisp: “There is no need to do any housework at all. After the first four years the dirt doesn’t get any worse.” 🙂