(Closed) Bees Vote. Ban Gem bashing on the bee.

posted 8 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Bashing other bees for their choice in Gem stone should be against the TOS on weddingbee

    Yes

    No

  • Post # 17
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

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    @Asia:  Just click through a bunch of Moissanite threads, and you will see the same individuals (mostly just one comes to mind though) who appear on the thread to say Moissanite is inferior and not really a gem in its own right, etc. I don’t notice it much either because I don’t really go on ring threads, but I’ve seen it enough to annoy me and feel sorry for the OPs.

    Post # 18
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    Buzzing bee

    I don’t think regulating people’s stone preferences and statements reflecting those preferences is the solution.  People are entitled to like what they like, and explain the reasons behind their point of view. 

    This is a respect problem.  

    People should learn to interact with one another in a respectful, dignified manner without insulting and antagonizing one another. Ganging up on someone is bullying.  I don’t care how much you disagree with their opinions or statements.  If you call them out by name, insult them, and encourage others to insult them, you are no better than a playgroud bully who breaks the nerds glasses and kicks the chubby kid.

    It is really disheartening to see how many grown women act like children when they get upset. When I don’t respect someone, I disregard their remarks.  I don’t degrade myself to starting a witch hunt to prove how wrong they are. If someone insults me, I stick up for myself to show I am not a doormat who will take it, and then ignore them and move one.  

    It’s better not to waste your time and energy on the small stuff in life.  There are giants to slay.  If you use all your energy on silly things, you won’t have any left to kill the giants.

    Post # 19
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    An opinion is an opinion. Perhaps those offended need thicker skin?

    Post # 20
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    This is dumb. I don’t think anything should be “banned.”

    If you have a disagreement, leave the thread. It is literally that easy.

    Post # 21
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

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    @red_rose:  do you mean why is it limited to gemstones as opposed to a ring entirely made of metal? because diamonds, sapphires, cz, moissanite…are all considered gemstones

    or at least according to wikipedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gemstone

    and according encylopedia Britannica, diamonds are gemstones as well: http://www.britannica.com/EBchecked/topic/161406/diamond

    ETA: I’m just asking because I assumed OP’s question was broadly including all stone types

    Post # 22
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    @MrsBtoBe14:  of course it is!

    but getting into a debate to prove how a diamond is better than a moissy or a vice versa is just petty and rude and will offend people

    To each is own. Why do you (and I don’t mean you personally) care about whether or not someone has a diamond/moissy/sapphire/cz?

     

    Post # 23
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Lesbihonest, it makes for great reading though. All sides need to cool down, step back and not take everything a complete stranger says personally to heart. Opinions are like butt holes, everyone’s got one. 

    Post # 24
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

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    @pineapplez17:  Oh my. CZ’s are gemstones now? I see a spin off coming! 🙂

    Post # 25
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @HappySky7:  I think people need to wash the sand out of their vaginas.

    The only “bashing”, which is a long shot, would be Moissy. Essentially, you want to create a new TOS rule to protect Moissy owners? 

    Most of the time, the debate is a fact debate. Telling someone their stone is not an actual gem isn’t bashing…it is scientific fact. 

    On one end, we have Moissy owners insulting diamond owners for being frivoulous. “Oh look at me. I got the same look for less AND I can make my house paymets. I am much more responsible than you.

    The other end, we have diamond owners that scoff at the fact that most Moissy owners won’t admit they wanted the look of a diamond without the price. 

    We should start replacing curse words with the word “kitten” and start referring to our breasts as “love pillows”. 

    Post # 26
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

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    @LilRhodyGem:  haha. well, just according to wikipedia “Some gemstones are manufactured to imitate other gemstones. For example, cubic zirconia is a synthetic diamond simulant composed of zirconium oxide. “

    so they’re a simulated gemstone…?

    but whatever………I think that it’s cool to get whatever you like! I like looking at the ring porn, regardless of what it’s made of!

    Post # 27
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    Buzzing bee

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    @bowsergirl:  I think the repeat offenders should be controlled. We all know who she is because she just can’t help but get involved in Moissy threads and annoy the crap out of us with her moissy bashing. 

    Post # 28
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2018 - SLS Las Vegas

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    @red_rose:  +1

    Post # 29
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    Helper bee

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    @red_rose:  +1

    I wouldn’t have joined this site if I couldn’t deal with the restrictions on bashing actual life choices.

    But honestly, diamond vs. moissanite is about as “bad” as Consumer Reports. It’s just a disagreement about the value of a purchase.

    If we can’t handle that, then yeah, there might as well be a blanket “no disliking anything” rule.

    Post # 30
    Bee
    11803 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

    To quote Weddingbee’s Terms of Service:

    “Please do not post threads or comments for the sole purpose of criticizing, mocking, or otherwise disparaging others’ wedding, waiting, or nesting choices.  Weddingbee is a diverse community with members across the globe.  No single culture is better than any other, and we value every member’s perspective.  We reserve the right to remove such posts as necessary.”

    I don’t think there’s a need to debate this, so I’m going to go ahead and close this thread now.

     

    Post # 31
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

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    @pineapplez17:  I’m a fan of sparkly stuff too! 

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