(Closed) Bees.. What did you wish you would have spent more time on??

posted 7 years ago in Logistics
Post # 4
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3374 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I wish I had just hurried up with hair and makeup and started pictures quicker. I ran out of time for pictures.

Post # 5
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4824 posts
Honey bee

Honestly, I think I would have spent less time on things. The day of you dont notice much and guests really dont notice much. Most of the details only really get captured in the pictures.

You want to enjoy your time before the wedding and during the wedding because it really is a special time.

Just make sure you photog as a list of all the pictures you want because that seems to be the biggest problem/regret with a lot of brides that they didnt tell their photog about something they wanted a pic of (extra of the groom, of a special nanna etc)

Post # 6
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3367 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I wish I had designated someone to keep me (and everyone else) on schedule.  A DOC, I guess.  I didn’t realize how brain-dead we were going to be, especially me, and there were moments when Darling Husband and I just stood there waiting for something to happen and everyone was looking to us for the lead. 

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

@PinkMagnolia: i second this! my makeup took forever – i was finishing up at the counter 15 minutes before i had to be at the church.

other than that though i wish i had given myself more time to make my rounds visiting guests during the reception and i would have danced a hell of a lot more with my husband! while we were side by side most of the night i felt like we hardley had time to wallow in newleywedded bliss – we were constantly entertaining and socializing. i wish i would have taken 20 minutes or so to just be alone with him.

 

Post # 9
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6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I will say that I didn’t want to stress about hotel gift bags and bathroom baskets or wedding favors so I just cut this all out. Looking back, I really wish I had at LEAST done the hotel gift bags because it’s kind of expected by Out of Town guests and I’m sure it looked a little bad that we skipped this. Even though most people don’t end up using or even keeping the favors (which is why we skipped it) I wish we had done it – even just a small candy station. It’s just good form and shows your appreciation that they are sharing the day wtih you.

Post # 10
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23597 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

It’s not that I wish I spent more time on this one actual *THING*, but here it is:

Spend more time taking it all in.  You’re getting married, it’s (one of) the happiest days of your life!  Seriously.  Things are just…things.  Take it all in.  Seriously.  And…try to get enough sleep! (Yeah right, I slept a total of 2 hours I was too excited.)

Post # 12
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5886 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Make sure to pad your schedule. Thank God we had planned to take some bridal party shots before the ceremony– that hour got eaten by makeup and hair and we were able to squeeze in bridal party photos when we did all the other formal photos. Also give yourself at least 30-45 to get dressed after makeup. It takes alot longer to get into a wedding dress, especially if it’s corseted. 

Along with your schedule, make sure you know who is driving which car and when. You don’t want to spend 15 mins playing musical cars. Also, you don’t want to leave the next morning and have an extra car at the hotel (because you drove over separately). We didn’t have a limo, so on my schedule I wrote that when the Bridal Party leaves the hotel in the morning–I’m in car X with A&B, car Y has C&D along with the decorations, etc.

Know where your groom is going to hide if he shows up early and you don’t want him to see you. My poor Darling Husband was stuck in the bathroom while we ran around and set up

Only do the details that matter to you. No one will notice or care as much as you. If you are doing it for people to oww and ahhh over it, don’t do it. But if you can look at it and smile and it makes you happy, then do it. We didn’t do Out of Town, no one mentioned it. All the other stuff I did, most of it, no one mentioned. But I love looking at the photos, they make me happy, thus they were worth it.

Def need someone the day of to be your DOC or stage manager. I was the director of the show (and star), but once the curtain goes up, I can’t be in charge. Someone else needed to be behind the scenes making sure the ‘props’ were where they were suppose to be. I put my Maid/Matron of Honor in charge. I told everyone until I walk down the aisle, I’m the director, come to me with issues. Once I go down the aisle, my Maid/Matron of Honor was in charge. Everthing should go through her. I then told her, I have 100% confidence for you to make the right decision-I will back you up 100% whatever your decision is.

Post # 14
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2580 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@KoiKove: I love your analogy of the stage manager…I might have to steal that to tell my bridal party. That’s a great way to describe it!

Post # 15
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5886 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

@MM423: I gave everyone a job based on the theater. My Maid/Matron of Honor was the Stage Manager. Once the show got started, she was the boss and in charge of the big picture and timeline. My Bridesmaid or Best Man was the Prop Master. She was in charge of the little details– is my lipstick smeared, is my dress crooked, making sure we have a plate of appetizers to eat while we are having our pics taken, making sure I could get away from talkative guests (she was my bad guy, “I’m so sorry but Bridesmaid or Best Man says I have to be over there, please excuse me). My Man of Honor was also the officant. He was the MC and was in charge of announcements and moving people. The Best Man did lots of the DIY for the decorations, so he was the Set Director making sure that everything looked good and moving the flowers from the cocktail tables to the reception. Obviously everyone helped him, but he was ‘in charge’.

Using this model, really helped everyone know what was expected of them. 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I wish I didn’t arrange for a limo to pick me up at a specific time. when the limo came, I wanted to keep partying! I surprised myself– I assumed I’d be too tired at the end of the evening, but I wanted to stay out with my friends. 

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