(Closed) Bees, what would you do?

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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1007 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

If this is your dream job, take it. You don’t want to regret giving up your dream because of him. Your relationship is a separate issue. It might be tough if things don’t work out. Would it help you get a similiar job somewhere else if you had experience at this job?

Post # 5
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1583 posts
Bumble bee

@MariaW:  NYC is huge. you’ll be fine there with or without him!

Post # 6
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334 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

It’s your dream job, you should absolutely take it. If your SO is the right guy for you, he’ll support you in your dreams. It sounds like he has some figuring out to do himself (i.e. counseling). You shouldn’t have to put your dreams on hold until he either 1. decides to propose, or 2. continues on without making a solid commitment to you.

 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Take the job … let the chips fall where they may.   Older people look  back on the things they didn’t do vs. what they did do…. This sounds like an amazing opportunity …grab it

Post # 8
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20 posts
Newbee

@MariaW:  Take the job if you get it. I have many friends in (or trying to get in) the NYC finance industry, and if you get a job in that sector (especially your dream job!) I think you’d be crazy to turn it down! I definitely do understand that you’re concerned about being so close to your SO in case you do break up, but NYC is a big city and I think it’ll be easy to feel farther away from him than you are – if that makes any sense. 

A big career opportunity can change your life, so don’t turn it down!

Post # 9
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6745 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

The likelihood of you moving to NY and breaking up with him and then bumping into him in NY is SO SLIM.  It’s huge, there’s so much to do all over, there are so many people.  This is your dream job, this is your dream.  I just moved out of NY and I kinda hate it, but I can totally understand the dream of living there and if you could do it, if you could work there and live IN manhattan, then DO IT.  It would be a GREAT experience.   And, there’s no better place to get over a breakup.  With so much to do, see, so many people to meet, you will NOT be sitting at home thinking about this failed relationship.  AND, that’s just assuming the relationship will fail!  It might secure the relationship and make it stronger.  Who knows? 

Follow your heart.  Follow your dreams.  Don’t let a man or the possibility of a lack of one ever effect your life path!!!

Post # 11
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20 posts
Newbee

@MariaW:  Hoping you get it, and that everything works out between you and your SO!

Post # 13
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6745 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@MariaW:  I was born and raised in NY, lived there for 28+ years.. unless you two go to lunch or happy hour at the exact same spot at the exact same time, that would be the only way you’d bump into each other.  There are so many places to eat lunch or go for happy hour, it’s such a busy city, there’s no guarantee that you will even lunch at the same hour as him, I honestly think it would be unlikely.  I lived in Queens, which is much quieter, smaller and less crowded and there are only a few places you could hang out, and yet I still never, ever bumped into any of my exes after we broke up.  In the town I lived, there is one strip of bars and that’s pretty much the only place you can go to hang out, unless you go to another town or into the city (manhattan is just “the city”).. so if I never bumped into my exes, not that I’m saying you would never, but I’m just saying it’s unlikely. 

But still, you need to follow your dreams and follow your heart.  I really feel like you would be regretful if you didn’t go, especially if you two didn’t break up – then you didn’t even follow your dream because of some fear you had that never transpired (thankfully)!  And, you can always quit and go home.. but you may never have this opportunity again!

ETA:  I realize you’ve made up your mind to take the job if you get it (yay, go you!), but I just wanted to give you more assurance so that you don’t second guess your decision!  GOOD LUCK!! 🙂

Post # 14
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5 posts
Newbee

Thank you so very much!  Nice...

Post # 15
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7480 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@MariaW:  Congratulations on landing that interview, what an exciting prospect! I wish you lots of luck. And I want to comment on this: “in the event I get this job I will probably look to it as a sign of some sort and not split with SO.” If you get the job, it is a sign that you are a confident, intelligent, and valuable person. It is a sign that you are (or will be) self-sufficient and do not need any man. I don’t know your background, how long you’ve been waiting, or any of the circumstances; and you said you’re not looking for advice on that anyway. BUT, since your walk date lapsed and you haven’t walked yet, it is apparent that don’t want to walk. That is definitely your prerogative, but please do not fool yourself that the universe is giving you signs. If YOU don’t want to walk, you don’t have to, but you should recognize that it’s your own decision and accept whatever consequences come with it.

Again, good luck. You have a lot of people here rooting for you. 🙂

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