Post # 1
I have tried typing this a million ways without sounding offensive but I cant so sorry i dont mean to offend SAHM’s with this post!!
Does anybody else who both them and their partner work full time ever have a day where FI is at work and you get soooo much done that you cant wait to be a mummy so your home every day to clean, cook ect?
I know it will be a billion times harder with a baby (obviously) and I think being a mum is the hardest job in the world so please dont get me wrong and it doesnt help that today i was machine basically because im trying not to think! But it was fantastic to be able to spring clean our ‘junk’ room and closet, iron, wash clothes, cook some cakes and pies, clean the kitchen, even made FI lunch for when he came home!
Post # 3
If either of us get to stay home with our future child, it will be DH. I love working and DH loves staying at home. He is good at doing “chores” and grocery shopping, cooking, laundry, etc but I am better at cleaning. I am guessing I will stay working FT, and DH may go down to PT if finances allow.
Post # 4
So I don’t work full time, but DH does. Actually I don’t have an out of the home job at all at the moment, but I just got one that starts in 2 weeks (at the moment I’ve been running my etsy shop of paper flower bouquets, so I have SOME work to do at home, but not like 8 hours a day or anything) I often spend allll day cleaning, doing laundry, buying groceries, etc, so I know I’ll be exhausted once I start my job and can’t spend as much time doing these daily house-wife kind of tasks!
Post # 5
I have a long ways to go (7-15 years) but my SO is already taking the steps so that I can be a stay at home mom! I CANT WAIT FOR IT! I am one of those people that LOVE to clean and organize things and take care of people. I’ve always made it very clear that I want to be able to do that and fortunately have found someone who wants to make that happen for me! I have very maturnal instincts.
Doesn’t it make you so good to be able to provide for other people? I love it.
Post # 7
My DH and I work full time plus I am a coach for a local junior high AND a local club volleyball team. Throw in my own schedule for playing volleyball and it is like a second job with weekend demaNds. I look forward to the days when I can drop the full time job and focus solely on my girls for coaching and any kids that come along. For now the ridiculous balance continues and I am thankful for a husband at not only is understanding but helps a great deal….especially on days I don’t get home until after ten.
Post # 8
We both work fulltime. I earn a lot more than he does at the moment. Unless he seriously gets his butt into motion to move up, I won’t be stay at home. He will be. Plus the whole stay at home mum isn’t for me. No thanks!
Post # 9
Yah I wish I could stay at home. For me, no matter how hard it would be, it would be much better than working.
Post # 10
We both work 40+ hour full time jobs and I am a part time, volunteer adoption counselor for a dog rescue. Neither of us will stay home when we have children. Yes, I’d love to have a day to stay home, clean, cook, etc. But I’m too ambitious to stay at home and not make money. I would also have horrible guilt at spending my fiance’s hard earned money.
Ideally, I would work at least 50% OR work full time from home. That, or we will balance it.
Post # 11
I can’t get anything done when my hubby is home – he’s VERY good at convincing me to just cuddle on the couch with him and watch a movie. We both work mon-fri, and the same hours, so the only time I get my cleaning done is when I send him out to the pub one day during the week after work.
Post # 12
I wish! This is why we are going to wait a long time to have kids… neither of us wants to stay home! We are both really engaged in our work and hate homemaking, but maybe it will change over time.
Post # 13
I’m planning on working when I have kids. I’m a teacher so it is a decent career when you have kids.
Post # 14
My husband and I have been talking about this issue recently because we are planning for kids in the next few years. Currently we both work about 50 hours a week. Technically I could probably stay at home now or work part time but I would feel guilty because we do not own house yet and we need a second car. WE have agreed though that when we have kids they will be our priority (as in we want one of us with them vs daycare/nanny). I’m very much looking forward to being a mom!
Post # 15
I do think I want to SAH when we have kids one day, but then I think I don’t…
I took the day off for my birthday a few weeks ago just because, and I was sooo bored with only Kathie Lee & Hoda and my cat to keep my company. I just get cabin fever, even when I leave the house! Anyway, we’ll see when that day comes.
Post # 16
Well this is what I thought before we had our son! Now that I’m home taking care of the baby, it’s actually harder to get things done than it was before.
Honestly, I manage to get the laundry done, the dishes done and to cook, but that’s it! I have to have my mom come over once a week so I can do the other stuff like cleaning the bathrooms and other stuff.
My son is almost 10 months now… He doesn’t sleep much, and when he does, it’s not for long. When he’s awake, he requires my attention almost all of the time.
So… yeah, sorry to crush the dream… Maybe when he’s older, it will get easier. But for now, the house looks like it used to when I worked 40h per week, except DH doesn’t have to do as much anymore (but he still does some of it).