Post # 61
noms…cake: Oh I LOVE it, that diamond is SO SO unique!
Ignore the rude comment from your mom, it’s YOUR ring; just remember her reaction when you are deciding who to take dress shopping with you 😉
My ring is very teensy with a unique setting, and I love it. Now more than ever!
Post # 62
noms…cake: i adore rough diamonds. i am sure your ring will be beautiful and unique!
Post # 63
I know the feeling – my mom is a negative nellie about everything. Ignore her comments and go with your heart. At the end of the day, the ring has symbolism in that it’s what you say your vows to, but if you hate it in 5 years, 5 months, or 5 days you can always buy a new one! The ring is just a hunk of metal and a stone, the marriage is what’s most important.
Also, it wasn’t too long ago that we didn’t even have rings to symbolize marriage – that is something that was created by De Beers to sell more diamonds. To this day, it’s one of the most successful advertising campaigns of all time. They effectively changed an entire society!
Lastly, rings that are “traditional” today will look “dated” in 10 years. Look at how trends have changed. In the 80s and 90s, everyone was all about yellow gold rings with a center stone and a few side stones and now it’s all about platinum halos. I guarantee that when our kids get married some different setting or stone will be all the rage.
Bottom line: Go with your heart.
Post # 64
noms…cake: Woah, your mom’s response was totally uncalled for!
I actually wanted an unconventional ring (jade and yellow gold – something you can find at most antique shops for around $200), but my partner chose one without knowledge or input: a trendy white gold and diamond one that cost several times more than I’m comfortable with. I still wish I could’ve gotten my unusual ring. I regret not spening more time drilling “jade/yellow gold/cheap” into his head (I did a bit, but not enough, I guess). The ring he got is lovely, but it doesn’t suit me – I’m frugal, not hip or trendy, and I don’t wear white metals. Oh, well.
I guess the point I’m trying to make is that if you love your unusual ring and instead get something else just because it’s more socially acceptable or trendy, you’ll probably regret it. You’re so lucky that you get a say in which ring you get! Choose the one you like best – you’re the one who’ll be wearing it every day. Your rustic diamond is awesome!
Post # 65
I guess I have a nontraditional engagement ring in that the center stone is an aquamarine instead of a diamond. I absolutely love it. Every one who is close to me remarks that it is totally me. I am a teller at a bank and thus complete strangers look at my hands a lot and I get all kinds of remarks about it. I would say most are positive, every once in awhile someone will make a negative comment. But honestly, I love it and that is truly all that matters.
Post # 66
I’ve been married twice. The first time I wanted a unique ring, halos were just coming out and I was dying for one! My mother threw a fit and said it was just a cocktail ring. Because of her opinion, I got a super simple setting. I always thought my ring was beautiful but just not “me.” I always wished I had gotten something different.
This time (I got married 10 days ago!) we got exactly what I wanted. It’s rose and white gold, double halo, intricate basket and a big ole diamond center stone. It’s not everyone’s taste and I don’t care. I literally think I have the most amazing ring in the world and that is all that really matters.
Post # 67
noms…cake: ive got a ‘non-traditional’ ring and I love it!! Remember you are the one that has to look at it every day. Trust your choices