(Closed) Bees who didn't know about the ring or the proposal, at all!

posted 7 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Did your FI do a good job picking your ring

    Yes, it's absolutely perfect!

    I hate it! I'll explain why below

    It's okay, I'd change it if I could

    It took a bit of getting used to

    Heck yes, I was sending him pics of what I liked from way before!

  • Post # 3
    3668 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @Baybeejulia:  DH proposed with a cute ring he got when we were in high school. Later on we got a diamond ring and my engagement ring became  RHR (the ring didn’t fit and the gold paint had been worn down). I love the original ring and the new one I got! I am not a ring person and was happy with the first ring but DH was kind of ashamed of me showing it off. 

    Post # 4
    108 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @Baybeejulia:  I never worried too much about a proposal or the ring before DH and I were engaged – I guess I was busy with school haha. We both knew that we would end up married one day, but when DH would bring up marriage or a ring or a proposal, I let him know that it was up to him. I would have been happy with anything that he gave me, but what he chose was absolutely perfect for me! It suits me SO well! I love that I had no idea when the proposal would be coming or what the ring would look like!


    Post # 5
    2113 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    @Baybeejulia:  I can sorta answer! I didn’t know Fiance already had a ring in mind and was planning on proposing. So, I decided that I didn’t care about being proposed to or having a big engagement ring and since I wanted to marry him, I might as well ask him myself.

    We were already engaged when he surprised me with my ring. It’s exactly what I wanted, but the funny thing is, it was his mothers ring. He didn’t shop around or ask my opinion. My perfect ring was right there. I was shocked, completely, but it’s everything I would have told him I wanted had he ever consulted me about it. I love that the focal point of the ring isn’t the diamond, but the metalwork. Plus, I love yellow gold and all the sentiment attached to being an heirloom ring. It’s spot on.

    Post # 6
    130 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

    My fiance surprised me by proposing on a weekend away in the mountains. After over 5 years together, I had given up hope of a proposal, and was pretty happy living separately. Little did I know, he had something planned. He had gone to our local antique store and bought me a two tone metal, sapphire and diamond trilogy ring, with engraving and filigree. And he said that he wanted me to wear it until I chose a ring to wear permanently. We had my permanent ring made for us, which took several months. I now frequently wear my proposal ring on my right hand.

    It was beautifully done. He took me totally by surprise, proposed romantically. And he was ever so happy that he had been able to keep it all a secret from me.

    Post # 7
    537 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    We had been together for 3 years, and it was my 29th birthday. He’d totally thrown me off months before in October by saying that “we should start looking at rings next summer.” When he proposed in December, I was so surprised- I was literally holding a ring box in my hand thinking “oh how sweet, he got me earrings for my birthday” lol. I had no idea what kind of ring I wanted, and what he chose is unique and something he loved. I loved it too πŸ™‚ Sorry for the mega size!

    Post # 8
    14043 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    DH did an awesome job with mine.  I loved it from the first second I saw it.  It’s a pretty ring, but really, I love what it symbolizes more.  It’s a visual representation of his promise and commitment, that he made on his own, without me pestering behind him.  I wouldn’t change anything about it.  I really would have hated to have been involved in the process of ring shopping.

    Post # 9
    2587 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

    @Baybeejulia:  I didn’t expect my ring at all, but now I have it I can’t imagine having anything else!

    Post # 10
    6515 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @Baybeejulia:  DH had asked me what kind of rings I liked and I said I like cushion cut diamonds. Then whenever we saw a ring on Tv or on someone elses hand he would ask “what do you thunk of that one”…he was a very good detective lol he learned all the things I liked and didnt like. And he did an amazing job.


    Post # 11
    550 posts
    Busy bee

    I was surprised – I didn’t even think he was considering marriage at this point. To say I was shocked would be an understatment. Since (years ago) we had talked about picking a ring together and choosing to get married together, I was very hurt and upset that he completely cut me out of the whole process. It was a very lovely ring and he was very thoughtful about choosing the one he did but it was white gold and I do not like white gold at all. Aparently someone at the jewelry store said all women love it. Right. Fortunately I ended up allergic so we exchanged it for the same one in yellow. So I sort of was included but I still regret that I wasn’t involved in choosing the piece of jewelry that represents us choosing each other. I’m hoping that in 20 years it won’t matter since I ended up with him. πŸ™‚

    Post # 12
    876 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - A Beautiful converted Barn

     @Baybeejulia:  mine was a COMPLETE suprise – classic solitaire, i was instantly head over heels in love with it! which is funny coz i always thought i would want a black diamond or coloured stone. just shows DH knows me better than i know myself! LOL!

    Post # 13
    6488 posts
    Bee Keeper

    @Baybeejulia:  My proposal was a complete surprise πŸ™‚ I mean, we’d obviously discussed marriage at length and knew we wanted to get engaged, but I thought it would happen summer 2011 at the earliest, and it actually happened Feb 2011!

    As for the ring: I’d showed him my dream ring on-line; I wanted something very specific and had this image in my head, but couldn’t find it ANYWHERE until I stumbled across mine online. He bought it (I didn’t have a clue!) and my first words after saying ‘yes!’ when he proposed were ‘Is it the ring?’ (I didn’t have my glasses on and couldn’t see). I was thrilled when it was!

    So, while I didn’t know he’d bought the ring, he didn’t choose it himself πŸ™‚

    Post # 14
    732 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: City, State


                           I had no clue my Finace was going to propose. We’d talked about it quite a bit and he had told me he wanted to propose on our 5th anniversary trip to NYC but unfortunately we had some unexpected things that came up and we just couldn’t afford it on top of the trip we had already planned.  When he did propose he handed me the ring, I tried to like it but it was yellow gold (I’m a white gold girl) and it made my finger look fat and just wasn’t my style. I didn’t say anything until he said “I just went into the store and picked one. I didn’t know what you’d like, if you want to retun it and pick something that is you, we can go shopping together”. Once he said that I didn’t feel guilty since he didn’t put any thought into picking it out. I ended up getting a stand in ring until I finished school in April and in May we picked out a ring we both loved together. 

    Post # 15
    413 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2014 - Windstar on Naples bay

    While we discussed rings and I briefly mentioned the styles I liked the ring he picked was totally up to him. My biggest concern was that he didn’t spend thousands of dollars on a ring he couldn’t afford so my biggest “push” suggestions were for off beat places to look. I live jewelry so I would have been happy with anything and honestly knew he couldn’t afford much so when he proposed I was pleasantly surprised by the ring he presented me. It was much bigger then i expected (not that it was important for my ring but I had hoped! Lol!) The proposal I didn’t know was coming but I had a feeling it was? It’s hard to explain. 

    But yes I love my ring!!!!

    Post # 16
    11 posts

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    @weird_bunny:  I spy some Harry Potter! I like you already.

    No way. I shudder to think what he would have chosen.

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