Bees who get mistaken for being waaay younger, why do you think this is?

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Post # 31
146 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2018

I’m 5’10” so it’s not height for me, but I’m 41 and people ALWAYS think I’m in my early 30s.  When I was in my late 30s they thought late 20s.  I have a very unwrinkled face (genetics, my mom looks really young, and I have kind of oily skin so I think that helps).  I also dye my hair to keep the gray out, and keep my hair very long, which I think makes me look younger (my mom agrees).  When I was marrying my husband last  year people kept asking if I was going to have another kid (my daughter was 9).  When I’d say no, I’m too old, they’d act all shocked and say they thought I was like 31 or 32.  That felt good 🙂  My husband tells me all the time that he can’t see the difference between pictures 15 years ago and now, that I look exactly the same.


I  have several younger friends too (late 20s/early 30s) and I think they keep me young.


I hope it sticks.  I think the only thing that makes me see older is my weight, and I’m trying to get about 50 pounds off–I think that’ll make me seem even younger!

Post # 32
1599 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - City, State

I think mine is mostly based on my demeanor, with a tiny bit of stature.

I used to be mistaken for much older than I was – from around 14 on, people that I knew through my job often thought (after knowing me for quite a while) that I was in my mid twenties. I think the main reason was due to my demeanor – I was very reserved and very professional (rarely joked or smiled, took everything very seriously, i.e. I was a stick in the mud). Far beyond what a lot of adults expect from a 14/15 year old. Add to that I was already very busty, people assumed I was much older. 

Now I am in my mid twenties and people think I’m in high school. I don’t particularly think I have a baby face, but I am quite petite at 5’3″. I’ve also become a lot more comfortable with myself, so I’ve loosened up a lot and am not quite so rigid personality-wise. 

Post # 33
264 posts
Helper bee

This happens to me a lot. I think because I am short, thin, and have a young-ish face. I am fortunate to have gotten a lucky break so I’m kind of ahead-ish career-wise for my age and field. However, people always think I’m somewhere I shouldn’t be. I spoke on a panel a few weeks ago and someone thought I was there to help set up tables. People have asked my boss right in front of me why I’m in a meeting. I am frequently called “kiddo” by people that are older but at my same level professionally. It makes me feel kind of inadequate but I try to embrace it. My boss reminds me that it is more embarrassing for them than it is for me. A couple times, people have asked “Is this your assistant?” And he replied, “No this is my attorney.” And he loved that.

Post # 34
1353 posts
Bumble bee

I have the Asian gene so I guess that’s part of it. LOL. I’m older – in my 40’s now – and I get told all the time that I look like I’m in my 20’s still. I am still petite and slim, I don’t have any grey hair yet, and my skin still looks very youthful.  When people see photos of me from when I was younger, they say I haven’t changed.  I am hoping this will work in my favor as I age into the retirement years!!  🙂 When I look in the mirror, I see myself as aging gracefully…I’m not where I was ten years ago, but I can still get looks from men half my age so that must say something!

Post # 35
1152 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Tacoma, WA

I dealt with this all the way up until I hit my 30s, and I used to hate it. I always looked way younger than I was, and people would constantly mistake me for being much younger. It may seem like a silly thing to be irritated about, but it really did affect my ability to get certain jobs, my dating life, etc., because people always thought I was “too young” at first glance. So, there’s that.

Now that I’m nearing my mid-40s, though? I’m actually glad I tend to look about 10 years younger than I actually am, and I used to HATE it when people would tell me I’d be grateful for my younger look when I get older. 😂

Post # 36
127 posts
Blushing bee

Probably being I’m 5ft 2 and still wear a lot of Harry Potter clothes. It always confuses me because I have a pretty prominent tattoo on my wrist (so you’d hope I’m at least 18!) but I’m 25 and get ID’d a lot including on a game which was a 16. My partner never gets ID’d and I think it’s because he has a massive beard. 

Post # 37
661 posts
Busy bee

It happens to me too. I’m 38 now, but I could probably pass for 25. When I was 30 and pregnant, all the ladies in my office really babied me. I didn’t understand why as they didn’t treat other pregnant women like that. My age came out in casual conversation one day and they were all shocked. They thought I was no more than 20 years old. It’s probably because I’m small, bubbly and have a “small” voice. 

Post # 38
2216 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise

I’m 41 and still get carded often enough that I always make sure I have my ID. I literally got turned away from a bar a few months ago because I didn’t have one and the bouncer refused to let me in. The rule here is if you look under 35…

My face hasn’t really changed substantially in the last 10-15 years. There are photos of me from 2007 that could easily be passed off a current.

My mom is also very youthful looking; she’s in her 60s but easily passes for much younger when her hair is dyed.

I give the vast majority of the credit to genetic luck and living in the PNW. The sun will AGE your ass. And face. And body. Since the sun only comes out about 1/3 of the year, it’s pretty easy to avoid too much exposure. 

The really fun part is telling people I have a 20 year old. Ooooh, the double takes; they do make me giggle. 

Post # 39
1930 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

keikochan :  I am 29, but still get mistaken for a high school teenager. It does still bother me, though I’ve heard all my life that I’ll appreciate it when I’m older. I don’t appreciate the thought of turning 30, so that might be true I guess, but it still is annoying to hear it all the time. 

I look young, because my family has oily skin, and all that extra moisture prevents wrinkles, we also all have round cheeks, and I’m short. When I’m at my goal weight, I’m petite (I have fine bone structure), and when I’m a bit chunky I just look more like a chubby kid. My mom is taller than I am, but she’s also always been mistaken for much younger. When I was growing up, people would mistake my dad for her dad, and he’s only two years older than her. 

Post # 40
796 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

I think it’s my voice, the fact that I don’t wear makeup or jewelry, don’t do my hair, and the fact that I don’t have a particularly commanding presence. Teaching middle and highschool was definitely muddling at times. I don’t love it because it means that sometimes people don’t take me particularly seriously. Dealing with the realtor was a disaster when we bought a house. She was so condescending. 

Post # 41
100 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

I’m only 5 feet tall so I think that has a lot to do with it, and I’ve been told I have a “young looking” face. People CONSTANTLY mistake me for my fiancées nonexistent daughter which is super weird because our age difference is only 6 years, but it happens in stores, restaurants, and even from a coworker most recently who asked why she brought her kid to work (spoiler, I drove there myself to drop off lunch!) I have also been asked by the movers we hired a while ago where my parents were upon answering the door, and then the cable guy said someone over 18 needed to be home and that he could come back once someone else got there. I used to get really annoyed by it, but now it’s kind of funny how often it happens 🤷‍♀️

Post # 42
459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

chelbell23 :  To me happened something similar. When I was about 16 years old, everyone thought I’m older and I think it was also due to my personality.

Now I’m 29, I’m 5″7 and while I’m slim, I have some curves because of my hips. So in my own country people don’t comment so much on my looks and age, but here in Mexico, I heard a lot of comments about me looking much younger. While I think it’s not necessarily a bad thing, what makes me get annoyed at it, is that people seem to judge you by your age, meaning that I often get the feeling that they take you less serious.

I was also looking at my face and asking my family why they would think that I’m younger. Looking at the women my age, they normally have more wrinkles, begin to have white hairs etc. My mum also looks very young for her age, so I’ve just concluded that it’s genetics.

Post # 43
688 posts
Busy bee

keikochan :  that had always been the case for me, until recently. At age 30, I was playing the role of a 14 year old. 

But don’t worry. There will come a time when it will stop abruptly, and then you’ll miss it terribly. 😂

Post # 44
4087 posts
Honey bee

Interesting thread. Can someone post very recent self pics?

Post # 45
869 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’m 5 even and I don’t wear make up I have always looked younger than my age. I’m 27 and I get mistaken for very young as well I have no problem I’ll just continue to do my beauty regiment to keep those crows feet away. Resting bitch face for as long as I can when appropriate 

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