Bees who get mistaken for being waaay younger, why do you think this is?

posted 5 months ago in The Lounge
Post # 46
180 posts
Blushing bee

I used to really hate that I looked so young but I’m really coming around now that I’m in my mid-30s.  After I graduated law school at age 24, if it came up in conversation I would tell people I had “just graduated” and I got several “which high school?” or “which college?” responses.  I really could have passed for 17-18 at that point. Several coworkers have recently stated that they thought I was 25-27 until I told them my real age (34). I still get carded every time I order drinks (they have to card if you appear under 30 most places). I had to show one bartender my state bar admission card to prove I was legal drinking age (you couldn’t possibly have one of those before age 21, right?) a couple of years ago because I had left my ID at home. I’m 5’2″ (rounding up), doe eyes, a bit of a baby face, generally petite, elbow-length hair. However, I don’t know how anyone could think I was that young after talking to me for any length of time. No one under 30 could be this cynical…

Post # 47
441 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

I am almost 30, and constantly asked “what highschool do you go to” no joke. I am shortish (5’4″), not particularly skinny (120ish) so i don’t look like a higschooler, or at least not what i looked liek during highschool! I think some factors that contribute for me are that I have dimples, I don’t wear makeup, and I don’t really have much wrinkles yet (even though my nephew told me my forehead looks like a maze LOL when i wrinkled my forehead). 

Post # 48
39 posts

I’m 28 and still get mistaken for a high schooler. I’ve honestly just gotten used to it. I think it’s cuz I’m short. Also Asian, so I’m gonna look 16 until I’m 65 and overnight I’ll just look 82. It’s fine. I did get asked for two forms of ID once though, LOL. 

Post # 49
2811 posts
Sugar bee

Your size likely has something to do with it. 88lb is pretty little and a lot of people seem to automatically associate SMALL = YOUNG without thinking. 

I often get mistaken for being at least 10 years younger than I am and I think it’s mainly because I’m only 5″2 (and I’m average weight/athletic, probably happens even more when you’re quite thin).

It also varies a bit depending what I’m wearing. It happens more when I’m in regular street clothes than when I’m dressed for work. If I have to make an impression at work I have to get a lot more polished than some people. 

Post # 50
323 posts
Helper bee

I’m tall, in my 30s, and people think I’m much younger than I am. Usually they get confused because I look younger, but once they talk to me it throws them because I speak in a pretty educated and mature way. Honestly I think skin has a lot to do with it, take care of your skin and don’t wear too much makeup and it’ll takes years off!

Post # 51
323 posts
Helper bee

Oops, duplicate 🤦

Post # 52
133 posts
Blushing bee

I am a few months from 31 and have gotten mistaken for 22 and 24.  I honestly think that I take care of myself…I gave up heavy drinking at 26, never smoked, and I focus a lot of time on stress management. Not sure if the way I dress hurts or helps…I can be quite casual but I work hard to look somewhat pulled together.  I am a midwestern living on the east coast, so I think sometimes I come across as super optimistic and naive when I’m just being polite and friendly (I dont complain much at work either, my family is very much about work even when in pain) so I think around the beautifully blunt and outgoing east coast girls I’m around, I come across as younger. 

Post # 53
646 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Interesting thread…not saying anyone has a skewed perspective but I would also like to see photos or a ‘guess my age’ post lol.  If posters on this site can believed (from this and other posts), 95% are RICH, earning big money and SUPER YOUNG looking.  It may that this website attracts that demographic? 

Post # 54
84 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

For me, I don’t have to guess because I know I have a major case of baby face unless I’m wearing heavy makeup. When people find out how old I am they’re like “WHAAAATTTT?!?!”

I was on vacation recently though and I was amused because I sat in the exit row of the plane and the flight attendent asked me my age because she wasn’t sure I was old enough to sit there. Then later that night I ordered a margarita at a restaurant and wasn’t carded.

Post # 55
4818 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

ozbee :  well then count me in the 5%. I’m not rich and I have always looked much older than I am, starting in my early teens to now. Womp womp.

Post # 56
138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

keikochan :  I love Botox. Every 3 months like clockwork

Post # 57
390 posts
Helper bee

I’m a middle school teacher but if I’m wearing jeans and little makeup parents have mistaken me for a student. 

I think part of it is that I’m 5’1 and have strong babyface. I worry that people don’t take me as seriously because of the fact that I look younger than I am. People say all the time “when you’re older you’ll be thankful!” Well, I’m 27 now and I’m still waiting for the thankful part lol. 


Post # 58
327 posts
Helper bee

keikochan :  I’m black and Asian and they say “black don’t crack” and apparently Asians don’t either lol I got mistaken for a high schooler the other day and I am almost 30. It was a nice feeling to have the guy at the car dealer try and do the math when I said I had a 7 year old lol. Just be happy you don’t look older than you are 🙂 

Post # 59
1461 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I’m a 31 year old physician. I get told by my patients every single day that I look like I’m 16/too young to be their doctor/etc. It’s like they think it’s a novel thing to tell me. (PSA: Don’t say things like this to strangers. You’re probably not the first or even the 10th person to tell them!)

It’s frustrating to me because I honestly do not look 16. I look 30. 

I think a lot of the older generation don’t hang out with many younger people and don’t have a good concept of what a 20, 25, 30 year old looks like. I also think that the way teenagers are portrayed on TV skews everyone’s perception. When 35-year-old actors are playing high school students, it’s understandable that some people can get confused.

Post # 60
4093 posts
Honey bee

This on ozbee ( and don’t forget either a US size 2, 4 or 6 max, have their houses paid off with at least a master’s degree and beyond). I’m following this thread because I like guessing people’s ages in general. I have been waiting for photos since yesterday. Yet after 50-plus replies, no one has replied with a single one. I’m especially interested to see the original poster.  ozbee :   lifeisbeeutiful :  

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