Post # 1
I’m 36 and a half and we are just starting to TTC. I want to be realistic about how long it might take so as not to get too stressed out if it’s not a quick thing.
I’ve been reading TCOYF and finding it very informative…going to order myself a basal thermometer so I can be sure I’m ovulating still and roughly when.
I came off the pill at the end of October but we have waited and used condoms for a bit as I was recovering from an illness. My cycles off the pill are usually short…between 22-26 days and I’m just starting to get back to that kind of cycle again.
I hear conflicting things about short cycles affecting fertility so any input or personal experience on that front would be useful too.
Thank you Bees!!! Excited to be trying…it’s been an incredibly long time coming 💗
Post # 2
Conceived baby 1 in one cycle at age 35. Baby 2 took nine cycles when I was 37, almost 38.
Post # 3
started TTC at 38. Got a bro after 4 cycles. Had a MC. Got a BFP 4 cycles after that and that’s Dear Daughter who’s now 3 1/2. Got a BFP at 41 but had another MC. OB told me to look into IVF since the MC we’re likely the result of old eggs that had chromosomal problems. I made an appt with an RE but got a BFP on my own and that’s DS who is 1 1/2!
Post # 4
Four cycles for first BFP at 38, which ended in miscarriage at 11.5 weeks. Two cycles later another BFP, miscarried at 8.5 weeks. That was a partial molar, had to wait six months, then BFP on first cycle trying again (now 39). I’m due roughly two years after we first started trying.
Post # 5
Got pregnant the first time in life at 36 after first month. MC at 7 weeks. Got pregnant after 3 months of trying after MC. Still 36. I had a 3rd trimester loss with my daughter. After a looooong break I got pregnant at 38 first month trying. Then we stopped trying, I got pregnant again in July at 39 while using natural family birth control and I’m due this coming April.
35 is definitely not old. It may take a while, but averages say you still have good eggs left. Good Luck on your journey!
Post # 6
I have a GREAT ARTICLE for you!! I read this like 3 times. I also looked up a couple of the papers that it cites and will link them as well.
I’m 35.5 so I ha e the same concerns as you and we started TTC this month. We want at least two kids ideally, so I’m thinking through the whole timeline for that 😬
Sorry some of the text is huge, I’m copying and pasting on my phone.
Here are some of the primary stats she cites: It found that with sex at least twice a week, 82 percent of 35-to-39-year-old women conceive within a year, compared with 86 percent of 27-to-34-year-olds. (The fertility of women in their late 20s and early 30s was almost identical—news in and of itself.) In another study, among women having sex during their fertile times, 78 percent of 35-to-40-year-olds got pregnant within a year, compared with 84 percent of 20-to-34-year-olds. A study headed by Anne Steiner, an associate professor at the University of North Carolina School of Medicine, the results of which were presented in June, found that among 38- and 39-year-olds who had been pregnant before, 80 percent of white women of normal weight got pregnant naturally within six months (although that percentage was lower among other races and among the overweight). “In our data, we’re not seeing huge drops until age 40,” she told me. In Dunson’s study of modern women, the difference in pregnancy rates at age 28 versus 37 is only about 4 percentage points.
And here are the two papers cited:
Post # 7
Also, you absolutely want to be timing sex during your fertile window, so it’s smart that you got a thermometer.
With the short cycles, in my understanding, the major possible concern is if your luteal phase (ovulation to period) is too short, like under 9 days. I think that makes it difficult for the fertilized egg to implant. I would track your next cycle (or this one if you haven’t O’ed yet) and see how long your luteal phase is. Maybe track for a couple cycles to see (and to time sex properly). If it’s short, IMO it would be worth it to meet with your OBGYN to discuss any possible treatment to lengthen it – there are various ways to do so. No sense in waiting around for the recommended 6 months if you know the luteal phase may be problematic. I would think they’d see you if you had data on it to show them. Anyway not to scare you or anything. But it’ll be good to have some data on your body and go from there. Good luck!
Post # 8
Haven’t experienced it but my aunt is 36 and got pregnant after 2 cycles. She just announced to everyone she is 5 weeks along. Good luck bee!
Post # 9
nurseybee55 : Only took one try at age 35 (and a half). However I have never been on birth control so there was nothing to get out of my system first. I don’t know if that makes any difference. I have an unusual cycle that can vary from 20 days up through 35 or so but that didn’t seem to matter. I think you’re going to find a pretty big variety in your responses.
Post # 10
Started trying at 35, it’s been 18 months, we need IVF but it probably doesn’t have anything to do with age. It’s male factor issues. We probably should have moved to IVF faster. I think starting at 35 your age really only makes a difference in that you should seek fertility treatments sooner if you don’t get pregnant because if you have an issue it’s best to get going with IVF while your eggs are younger.
Post # 11
Trying to conceive my 3rd baby- I had a miscarriage at 38 and then it took about 9 months to conceive again- so I had my baby 1 month shy of 40.
Post # 12
I was 37 when I finally decided I wanted to have a baby. I went off the pill in February and found out I was pregnant in May (one month along). So it happened pretty quickly for us. I had been on the pill for 20 years and I had no trouble getting pregnant. All the best to you – very exciting!
Post # 13
nurseybee55 : We conceived after 10 cycles at the age of 36, but we had male factor issues. I second your idea of temping. I found OPK’s very useful to confirm ovulation along with bbt.
Post # 14
nurseybee55 : I’m 38 and conceived after 1 night of unprotected. I’m in the process of miscarrying tho :/
Post # 15
eeniebeans : may I ask did the doctor give you any meds to take for your 3rd baby since you had miscarried before? I am in the process of miscarrying and wonder is there meds to take it I get pregnant again to prevent a miscarriage. I’m 38 myself