Post # 1
Recently engaged (2+ weeks), but been together for a while and essentially living as a married couple for over 2 years (own a house and dog together, until we made the engagement official we were calling each other “partner” in lieu of BF/GF). We have two weddings going on in Summer 2019 in our friend/family circles between which well over half our guest list will be traveling. Because we are doing a destination wedding (and even if we weren’t half the guests would be traveling as my family is in another province), we wanted to make sure our guests have time in between those weddings and ours to save back up both money and vacation days.
So, we are planning for January 2021. That’s 2.5 years. Doesn’t bother me any, but I have heard from other brides who have had long engagements that by the end you’re just tired of it and want it done and over with lol
I’m just curious about others’ experiences and, of course, open to any advice you may have 🙂
Post # 2
We’re having an engagement of just under two years and I’m over a year through it now. I’ve loved it so far, I’ve hardly felt stressed at all and I don’t think I will ever feel too stressed as we’re nearly finished with the planning now. The good points to it are:
Plenty of time to do DIY.
You don’t have to compromise on suppliers as they’ll probably all have availability for your wedding date.
You can have a life outside of wedding planning and not have to think about it all the time.
You can use the time to save money.
Plus I’m lucky in that everyone has been excited for us and nobody has told me I’m too early to be talking about my wedding or anything like that.
Post # 3
I’ve been engaged for over 2 years with 1 month to go. People say that they don’t feel stressed because they have all the time. I’m going to say for the most part, that’s true. I had time to do whatever I wanted, save money, and not rush. However, now that I’m a month out, I’m still stressed beyond belief and every day I’m doing wedding things. There are just some things you can’t do ahead of time. TBH, I just want the whole thing to be over, but I think that’s because I’m stressed.
Post # 4
sboom : I also am having 2.5 years between engagement and our big wedding. Over 9 months in, and everything has been great! We’ve had plenty of time to chose venue and photographer (the only things we plan on booking this year) and our pick as to whom we wanted, since everyone was still available for our selected date! It’s been really relaxing, and makes it easy to just enjoy the engagement.
Post # 5
I got engaged in Jan. 2017 and we aren’t getting married until Sept. 2019. So our engagement is over 2.5 years, which back when we set our date seemed like such a long time. It’s been nice to not be stressed though. I’m now inching ever closer to that 1 year mark, and I know from there it’s just going to fly by as I finalize my vendors.
I think the best thing about a long engagement is having your pick of vendors. I only had 1 vendor tell me that they were already booked for our date when I inquired. Everyone else has been open, so I really got to book the vendors I wanted, which was awesome. I also recieved some discounts for booking so early as well, which was very much appreciated.
The downside to a long engagement – people constantly asking if you’ve set a date, and asking when it is, when you’ve literally told them 10 times before. I don’t really expect people to remember that much because this day is much more important to me than to them, but seriously, by the 3rd or 4th time, you would think people would remember!
Post # 6
We intended for just under a 1.5 year engagement. It turned into 2.5. I’ve appreciated the extra time, because, like PP said, it gives you all the time in the world to get stuff done. However, I am a procrastinator, so it wasn’t going to help me. 4.5 months out now and I am feeling the pressure. I never wanted a long engagement. 1.5 years was pushing my limit. I’m excited to be married, and move on from engagement, and wedding planning. Pretty stoked for the day though!