Post # 47
@emmylouloubobells: It isn’t childish, honey. You guys need to sit down and have a chat and you should tell him calmly but firmly that this is not you being childish or upset, but this is something in your life that is important to you, and something that he should take seriously and consider, not mock. Hopefully it’ll happen in time for you, just like the rest of us here in this thread!
Post # 48
I got engaged in August a month after 8 years together – don’t lose hope, good luck, ladies!
Post # 49
@elizabeth2004: Agree! Don’t lose hope Bee’s!
I got engaged after 8 1/2 years!
Post # 50
@emmylouloubobells: I agree with @VickyAurea
. It’s not childish. Having been with my SO only a few months less than you I definitely understand where you are coming from. I think it’s time to sit down and have a good discussion with your SO. It took some time with me to begin to come to terms with my waiting situation – and some days are better than others – but it has been a lot easier since we sat down and talked about a definite timeline and I explained how I was feeling.
Post # 51
@vickyaurea and @novela – thanks Bees – either my SO is reading this post or you guys are giving really sound advice… He came home last night from work, and initiated a conversation with me explaning why things are taking so long, mainly due to wanting to do things properly, saving 1 months salary etc. He apologised for getting snappy at me and calling me childish, and told me it’s only due to his frustration that he can’t save as quickly as he would like to. We spoke about timelines, and he said he’s just over half way there and that’ll be waiting for another 6 months or so. So thanks for your kind words, i’m feeling much more positive today, and just need to try and keep a lid on the crazy for the next 6 months! xx
Post # 52
@emmylouloubobells: That’s brilliant news. Glad you guys could talk it over. Keeping a lid on the crazy is something we all have up and down days with. When you have your down days, know that you can always come here and people won’t judge you – we all go through the exact same rollercoaster of emotions (and we’re all shocked when we first realise we’re not the only ones feeling this way).
Post # 53
My SO and I have been together for 7 years, 5 years which were long distance. He finally proposed on 11/11/11. I know a lot of you waiting bees are anxious to get the ring now! I know I felt that way plenty of times especially that last six months. But in retrospect I’m glad we waited. As much as I love being engaged, I didn’t have to worry about the distraction of planning a wedding while attending university, then grad school, and working through those laborious time consuming first jobs. My point is that the ring and proposal came at a time where both me and my SO can enjoy the next stage of our life without other distractions. I know this way isn’t for everyone. But no matter what ladies, have confidence! It will come! In the meantime, watch more Brideszilla!
Post # 54
I’m a new bee, but after being shown this website be a friend I was convinced I must sign up and be part of it all.
Me and SO have been together for nearly 7 1/2 years and i’m still waiting for a proposal!! we met a school and have been together since we were 17/18 and have lived together for nearly three years. Over the past year or so alot of our friends have got engaged (most of them haven’t been together for as long as we have) which has been difficult to handle and it made me feel like it was never going to happen to me. My SO lost his job last year and only until recently has been able to get back into work, which meant there was no way he could afford to save for a ring! We have been talking about marriage/engagement for a while and have no for ages that we want to make that commitment…just real life got in the way.
Anyway he took me ring shopping the other week, so hopefully sometime next year my wait will be over.
Its so good to read this board and hear everyone elses experiences. looking forward to making more post after my very first one 🙂
Post # 55
Hmmm… now, I will be together with OH 6 years this Spring. I started thinking about marriage at around the 2-3 year mark. He brought it up at around the 3 year mark. He said we couldn’t get married as we were not financially stable. I agreed. Then he got a job. I continued doing more degrees and he said we couldn’t do it whilst my future was so uncertain. I agreed… half-heartedly. Then I won a PhD scholarship, which will hopefully lead to secure work, albeit low paid secure work. He then said that we couldn’t get married as we didn’t have a house. Once more, I decided he was right.
We finally saved up enough and bought a house last year. Immediately after this, I had to live abroad for 18 months as part of my course. When I come back later this year, he will be all out of excuses. I’m hoping to get a ring before then. But then… if not… how long should I wait? Because if he doesn’t propose by the time I get back then it will be for no reason I can comprehend, understand, or accept. This worries me. It worries me because I am not getting any younger. I am 28. I want to have children. I do not want to have children outside of marriage. He says he wants children soon as well, but… to be honest, within 18 months then there will be a crunch time, I think. Because if he doesn’t want to marry me, I need to get out there and form a lasting relationship with someone who will. Sounds heartless, and I’m not a kid-crazy woman, but if I never have them then I will be very bitter in my old age, and will also make life terrible for him as a consequence. Not willing to risk that…
Anyone get where I’m coming from?
Post # 56
I’ve been with my SO for 7 1/2 years. We’ve talked about getting engaged at some point and we both know it’s heading there, but we’re still traveling and aren’t quite ready to “settle down”. Probably over the last six months I’ve really started wishing for a proposal (is there such a thing as engagement-clucky?) but I know it probably won’t happen for another year or so.
Post # 57
We have been together for 3 years and 4 months. I think I am feeling especially impatient because we are 49 and 50. Tired of waiting!
Post # 58
Glad to find this thread! Me and SO have been together for a little over six years but I have only been “waiting” for the past year or so. The long timeline here is mostly my fault as well because there was a (weak) proposal on his part years ago (three years ago-ish) but I just wasn’t ready at the time and felt too young to get married (I’ll be 25 this year). Now that we’re both on the same page I’m getting impatient…and considering a leap year proposal.
Post # 59
SO and I have been together for almost 8 years (we’ll be there in May). I would say I’ve been waiting for the past year and a half, since he left school, but the waiting is much more intense now that we are both in the working world, bringing in solid incomes. Hopefully I won’t be waiting too far into our 8th year together…
Post # 60
I was with my BF for 11 yrs before I got a proposal. Hang in there girls!! Your turn will come. What I learned is that you really need to communicate about it. I know everyones situation is different but think a lot of guys need an extra push. : )
Post # 61
BF and I have been together for 8.5 years, living together for nearly 4 of those. I think I can finally expect a proposal by the end of the year, were we will have been together for 9 years. Geez…makes me feel like such an old fogey, and I’m only 23!