Post # 1
Does anyone else get super frustrated when blogging Bees get married and then basically never post again besides a recap or two? I feel so cheated! I love seeing the weddings come together and all the small posts about wedding details culminating in recaps where you can really see how everything turned out. Sometimes a Bee will come up with something I think I’d like to try and so I’m curious to see how it works out for her. I guess I just don’t get why they would blog for the duration of their wedding planning and then just sort of disappear once the wedding is over.
Post # 3
@ohheavenlyday: i miss bakerella. she had the best diy projects. she might still be on her honeymoon, though.
Post # 4
It is definitely nice to see everything come together when you have followed the preparation for so long…I think so many wait for all their pro pics, but then life happens and they don’t really get around to it 🙁 However, there are some bees who are great at recaps!
@Mrs. Meowerson: She is back! She had posted pics of their honeymoon in this thread yesterday – on the gorgeous exclusive island (yes, I am jealous!). She did have some great DIY projects!
Post # 5
@Mrs. Meowerson: She’s back, and probably doesn’t have pro pics yet. I got married the same day as her, and my photog has fast turnaround, but we won’t have our pics for almost another 2 weeks.
Post # 6
Ive definitely noticed this with some bees and yes it is frustrating, however, I can understand why it happens. Once you are married life only seems to get more busy. I cant imagine having to blog about everything that happened during the wedding because it is nice not to have anything to do around the wedding anymore. Some bees may not have time, others may not have loved their weddings as much as they hoped and others may not like their pro pics…like Mrs Moonbeam who has been posting lately!
Post # 7
wow how did i miss this??
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony: Catholic Church, Reception: Hotel Ballroom
@ohheavenlyday:I can attest to what @dance said about waiting for pro pics, and then “life happening”! Life after the wedding can sometimes be more busy than life before the wedding!
I think part of it is that recaps are really hard to write sometimes — how do you put into words something that is so life changing and monumental? It can be tough. Also, writing recaps is hard because recap posts tend to be the least commented on by ‘bee members. We know people enjoy them and are reading them (and that’s awesome!) but sometimes the lack of comments can be a bit disheartening.
I know that a lot of bees put a great deal of effort into their recaps, and sometimes those that you think may have “disappeared” are just waiting for pro pics or for life to settle down — hang in there, they’re probably coming!
Post # 9
I can say, I’ll probably hitch and ditch 🙂 just because I think after the wedding, I’ll likely never want to talk about wedding planning again!!! I might post a recap, but maybe not.. and then unless we start TTC right away, I will likely focus my attention on something else. Sorry about that, but I can totally understand why people would detox.
Post # 10
Oh girls I don’t expect apologies! I just get sad when a Bee I REALLY liked never says much about how the wedding went.
Post # 11
@Mrs. Meowerson: *blush* Ummm you missed me?! LOL! I’m ridiculously flattered and somewhat flabergasted! I’m here! We just got in LATE Sunday night and yesterday was spent on the couch trying to recover from 14 hours of traveling. Ugh. I haven’t received any pro photos yet, and I’ve checked my photographer’s blog and it seems like he’s on the road A LOT over the next four weeks, so I think it’s going to be a while before we get ours back unfortunately. I’m trying to post more in depth posts on my blog about the wedding day, if you want to check that out. Once I get some detail shots from my photographer I’ll do a few more DIY posts as well.
I am enjoying coming back and sharing though. I thought I’d be sick of it, but I was excited to share with the Hive and to hear what else was going on and see if I could offer any “sage advice”. I do have to say though, it’s also an avoidance tactic so I don’t have to deal with the post-wedding chaos of my house. It’s an absolute disaster around here!!!!
Post # 12
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
i think that recaps just get difficult because they are SO much more time consuming than regular blogging. the resizing of photos, sifting through photos, etc. alone just takes forever and a half. it’s also nice post-wedding to sit on some things and be able to objectively think about them.
some people start recaps and then trail off because recap posts tend to have a fairly low response rate, and it gets a little demoralizing based on the amount of work put into each post!
i, for one, have been a bit of a slow poke on recaps because i was trapped sans internet after a move, and also had to sit on a few things that i realized i was terribly cranky about. i didn’t want HULK ANGRY and pessimistic recap posts, so i waited. the bad points will come out in later posts, but for now it’s nice to be able to separate the two.
Post # 13
I think the other reason is that wedding planning often becomes an ALL-consuming activity for a lot of Bee’s. So once the wedding and honeymoon is over some are probably happy to get back to their normal lives.
When I was planning I stayed in a lot of weekend nights because I was working on wedding projects but now that we’re married I’ve been going out and catching up with people in my daily life that got “ditched” because of the wedding planning.
Like Scissors said – it’s time consuming sorting and resizing photos and remembering all the details. Plus professional pics don’t show up until a few months after the wedding – by that point usually there are other things taking up their free time so the recaps never get written. I don’t think it’s an intentional thing though.
Post # 14
- Wedding: April 2011 - The Tribute Golf Club
@ohheavenlyday: I will admit, before I became a blogging Bee, when I was reading archives, I would get so upset when there were little or no recaps to see how all of the projects came together on the big day.
I’m not married yet, but I can totally see how what Mrs. French Fries and Mrs. Scissors said would be true. Waiting for pictures, going through all the pictures, and life getting in the way. If you love the recaps, be sure to let the bees know! Comments really do make our day!
Post # 15
+1 for the phrase “hitch and ditch”!
Blogging after the wedding can be a lot harder than it seems! Especially now that pro pics tend to almost universally require post-processing and can take months to appear…
Post # 16
Just as a note for people who find the resizing of photos to be a huge PIA, try FastStone Photo Resizer. It’s free and awesome! I’ve been using it for ages and I like it more than any other photo resizer I’ve used.