Post # 1
I just accidentally found out the exact day my SO is going to propose. I had my suspicions that it would be the day already, just because certain circumstances aligned with what I’ve wanted for a proposal.
Basically I’m doing a photoshoot with my best friend, and her cousin, the photographer I have always and will probably always use in the future is shooting it. I’m positive the photoshoot is actually happening but then he will come in at some point.
Anyway, I feel excited yet slightly sad that I know when it’s happening. I am afraid that I will be nervous and have knots in my stomach all day because I know it’s coming.. And worst of all I’m afraid that because I know, I won’t be emotional or surprised since I saw it coming.. I don’t want to pretend..
so for you bees that had a pretty good idea of when the proposal was happening, how did you make it through the day, and were you still emotional even though it wasn’t a surprise? Did the fact that it didn’t come as a surprise put a damper on it for you?
note: I love my SO and I know I will be happy when he proposes because I want to spend my life with him! I’m just afraid it won’t be the same as it was if I were taken by surprise.
Post # 3
I knew my proposal was coming and I was still excited.
Unfortunately, my proposal was very sad because my husband didn’t plan what he was going to say. He blurted out some unromantic nonsense. Also, the location wasn’t very romantic either. I am still angry at my husband for messing up such an important moment.
I hope that your proposal is beautiful and memorable.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta
@FutureWifeyV: I knew when/where. I was kinda sad I didn’t just shut up and trust he would do it when he was ready!
But I was excited/nervous all day and I did tear up when he proposed.
Post # 5
I was super excited. I told my SO that I didnt think that we should live together unless we were engaged and planning on getting married (not to push him, just my belief) so sooner or later we started discussing moving in. I didnt want to push him into proposing if he wasn’t ready but he knew my beliefs too. (He lived in another city) so I had a feeling that he was going to propose. I said I didnt want him moving in if he wasnt absolutely sure I wanted to spend my life with him.
I thought it would be one specific day, I tried to give him ample opportunities – we went to a park, had a romantic walk, nothing. Went out to dinner at a nice restaurant, nothing. He was moving in so as we were driving home, I told myself I loved him and it was OK if he wasn’t ready. He proposed on my porch. It was super sweet. He said he wanted to do it where we were going to live our lives and raise our children. So even though I knew, it was still great. 🙂
Post # 6
@FutureWifeyV: I also accidentally found out the exact date. However, I was just not happy knowing the date so I chose to tell him. He changed the date so it would be more of a surprise for me 🙂 that was super important to me though!
Post # 7
@ebarnes0: that’s good advice honestly!
Post # 8
@soontobemrsm11: It took me THREE DAYS to get up the courage to tell him I knew. I felt like I was telling him I was cheating on him, it was that emotional for me! Totally worth it though – if I had woken up that day knowing it was going to happen I couldn’t have faked it through the whole day. He would have known immediately that I wasn’t fully surprised. He wouldn’t have wanted that either.
Post # 9
@FutureWifeyV: I had strong suspicions when he emailed me about taking me for a random picnic that night. Didn’t make it any less awesome to be asked though! And the lead up was still exciting because I didn’t know *for sure* – guys can always change their mind last minute. He was going to do it NYE but changed his mind last minute because there were too many people around.
Post # 10
I wonder this too. I didn’t accidentally find out, but my SO doesn’t know how to keep secrets from me. He literally told me when and where he wanted to propose. I told him the rest had to be a surprise…
The only thing I can say is either tell him you know, or try to be surprised. You never know, it might be a regular photoshoot… If you think about it that way, you might be more surprised if it does happen like you thought it would.
Post # 11
I had a suspicion it was going to be on a certain day, and then I saw my FI’s car in the parking lot of the place where he proposed, so I knew he was there/knew it was going to happen. It was great, lol. I got to fix up my makeup in the restroom beforehand, and it certainly didn’t make it less emotional/amazing. Still one of the best days of life! Haha, but I’m not that big into surprises anyway–they kind of make me nervous.
Post # 12
@FutureWifeyV: I knew it was coming and it was still amazing! I didn’t cry right then, probably because I was expecting it, but it was definitely one of the happiest days of my whole life. I really felt a whole shift, like now we’re definitely going to be together forever. It was incredible. He asked very simply at home “Will you marry me?” down on one knee. Then when I said yes, he put the ring on my finger and picked me up for a really tight hug. It was awesome.
EDIT: I also hate surprises.
Post # 13
I knew it was coming. I’d found the ring. We had plans that day and I checked the spot for the ring and it was gone… total giveaway.
However, I appreciated all of the thought he put into the proposal, enjoyed every moment of it and never told him I knew. 🙂
It was amazing. He proprosed to me in a significant place, after having dinner at my favorite restaurant and booked a night at my favorite hotel. It made me appreciate each moment and I made sure I was super nice to him! I think if I didn’t know what was happening, I might have ruined a few things.. lol.
As @fizzy8 said, it was definitely a shift towards this is real. omg.
Post # 14
@FutureWifeyV: My now Fiance told me the exact day that he would propose. It was still a pretty amazing moment when he asked me to marry him. I didn’t cry, but I did get amazingly smiley. It was definitely more of a “shit got real” moment.
He was so nervous when he got down on one knee. He actually asked me if he should give a romantic speech and when I said no he just went ahead and asked (and after the ring was on my finger he hugged me and said he had been wanting to do that for a long time).
If its really bothering you then I second what @ebarnes0: said; just gently let him know and see if he wants to change the plans to be able to surprise you a bit.
Post # 15
i knew pretty much exactly when my SO was going to propose because he is terrible at keeping secrets. nonetheless i was still excited when he proposed. just cherish the moment regardless of whether it is a surprise or not!
Post # 16
I knew it was coming that day, and the whole thing was still amazing and emotional because my love was asking me to marry him!!!! Ahhhh!!! I could have known one full year before and still had an amazing day when it happened. But if you’re worried, I agree with asking him to change the plan!!