(Closed) Bees who live with their SO… how long did you date before moving in?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How long did you date your SO before you moved in together?
    0-3 months : (28 votes)
    11 %
    3-6 months : (35 votes)
    14 %
    6 months-1 year : (47 votes)
    19 %
    1-2 years : (57 votes)
    23 %
    2-3 years : (29 votes)
    11 %
    3+ years : (40 votes)
    16 %
    I like turtles : (4 votes)
    2 %
    Other (explain) : (3 votes)
    1 %
    Still not living together! : (10 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    3943 posts
    Honey bee

    We moved in after 11 months. We would have moved in sooner (like 6 months) but we were both stuck in leases and had roommates.

    My family was supportive. I was an adult and they loved him. However, A couple of my friends were very judgemental, and to be honest it sort of put a damper on our friendship.

    I believe that when you know, you know. Its 5 years later and we are married and own a house. I knew it was right and neither of us regret our decision.

    Post # 4
    Member
    3947 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Have you always been in a long distance relationship with him?

    Post # 5
    Member
    1685 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I’m a firm believe that you shouldn’t live with someone unless you both believe that marriage is the next step (unless, of course, both parties never want to get married).

    I’ve had too many friends break up after a little bit and go through the painful process of splitting up the stuff, sleeping in different rooms, and have to continue to live together until the lease is up/someone finds somewhere else to live.

    And I’ve had friends who have stayed in unhappy relationships because they live with that person, and it’s just easier.

    I live with my fiance and we’ve been living together for 2 years.  It’s been wonderful, and I recommend living with someone before a marriage.  But every time you make a commitment to someone, it comes with it’s own risks.

    So as long as you are both of the same page as to where it’s going, you should find it an enjoyable experience Smile

    Post # 6
    Member
    1021 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    My fiance and I moved in after 3 months of being together (3 years ago). It sounds crazy and impulsive but when you know, you know.

    Post # 7
    Member
    3417 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

    My Fiance and I met in Sept 2009, we moved officially moved in together in Jan 2010 but we basically lived together all the months in between.  In Feb 2010 we got engaged.

    Post # 8
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    197 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2018

    We met while both working as entertainers on a cruise ship. He was my boss actually! We were on the ship together for 4 months and we’ve been long distance (I’ve been in Spain and he’s been in England) for the last 5 months or so. Tomorrow is the end of my contract here and I fly home to Scotland where he’ll meet my family for the first time! We’ll be staying at my flat in Scotland for a week before heading down to his for a week to meet his friends and visit his parents again (I met them on the ship and have stayed in touch since) and then were both going to drive back up to Scotland with all of his stuff and move him into my place officially! Overall we’ll have been together for 9 months when we move in together. I can’t wait – bring on tomorrow!!

    Post # 9
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    3553 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Fiance and I started dating at 16. At 18 we went to colleges 400 miles apart and did LDR for 4 years (it was a good incentive to graduate on time). As soon as I graduated (FI has one more online class to go) we moved in together. We moved as soon as we were fully supporting ourselves, but we’d been together for 6 years before that, so it wasn’t exactly early in the relationship. My parents and his father were ok with it, but his mom is upset because ‘we’re living in sin’. We’ve just decided we’re adults and we can make our own decisions, our families are just going to have to accept that. I think the same attitude could work for you.

    Post # 11
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    3947 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @MissCalifornia:   Oh okay, good to know!

    Before my Darling Husband, I was dating a guy and we moved in together after 3 months.  It was the reason why our relationship ended.  We were super in love before we moved in together, but once we lived together we REALLY got to know one another and it was such a disaster in the end.  I learned my lesson then that it would take A LOT for me to move in with someone else before marriage.

    My Darling Husband and I dated for two years before we moved in together and it of course worked out fine.

    But if you’re moving across the country to live with this guy, just be 100% sure that it’s not headed anywhere BUT marriage.

    Post # 12
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    2065 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    We moved pretty quick. I moved into his house about 5 months after we started dating. However, looking back, ideally we would have waited a little bit longer. The situation I was in kind of hurried the process along. My roommate that I was renting a house with – her fiance decided to take a year-long position in Guam and asked her to come with him. We still had 9 months left on our lease and I didn’t want to force her to be away from her fiance when I had been offered a place at my now-husband’s house, so I agreed to break the lease with her and move in him.

    Post # 13
    Member
    772 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    We’re moving in together this summer. We’ve been together for nearly 7 years but we were 16 when we first got together, so we’ve just been waiting to get ourselves through uni/ postgrad/ find jobs to get the ball rolling properly. So excited!

    Post # 14
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    3053 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    We too were LD so we moved in sooner than we probably would have if we were in the same city. We moved in between 9 & 10 months. Best thing we ever did IMO.

    Post # 15
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    11234 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @BeachBride2014:  And I’ve had friends who have stayed in unhappy relationships because they live with that person, and it’s just easier.

    Ugh, this was my last relationship.

    Fiance and I moved in together officially after 2 years, but he basically lived with me after a year.

    Post # 16
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    1124 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @MissCalifornia:  I met my now fiance in October 2009 and we moved in together in February 2010. Not necessarily because we wanted to live together, although that was a part of it, but because we both had to get a place so we decided to get one together.

    He made some bad life decisions and ended up moving in with his Grandmother for a few months to get on his feet.

    I left my very abusive ex and drove across country to get away and had no where to go so I moved in with my Grandmother. After meeting my now fiance, we dated a while and we needed to get out from our grandparents home and ended up moving in together. I was 22, he was 23

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