(Closed) Bees who picked out their own ring before getting engaged

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Would you tell people you picked out your e-ring before you get officially engaged?
    Yes! I love it and want to show it off! : (26 votes)
    22 %
    No way, I wouldn't want to ruin excitement of the engagement : (45 votes)
    38 %
    I didn't pick out my ring beforehand : (11 votes)
    9 %
    Maybe but I would only show one or two people : (36 votes)
    31 %
  • Post # 3
    11233 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Nope! We spent 9 months shopping for rings before we finally found The One, and then I left it up to him.

    Post # 4
    148 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    @soontobemrsm11:  i only told my mother, and kept it a secret from everyone else!

    Post # 5
    4979 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    I told one friend who lived in another state. I couldn’t keep totally quiet, but I also didn’t want everyone to know. 

    Post # 6
    2162 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I went with Fiance and picked my e-ring…my 2 very best friends knew we were going. I didn’t take any pictures of the ring, but it’s basically the Tiffany Novo setting, and I shared the specs and design with them. It was too exciting to keep to myself! The ring took 2 weeks to be made, then another week to ship, and Fiance didn’t want to just propose immediately, so from the day he ordered the ring to when we got engaged was 30 days. It wasn’t any less exciting, because I didn’t know when he’d propose, I just knew he had the ring (it was totally kiiiilling me!). My parents didn’t know because they’re so traditional, they’d be too focused on being annoyed that I knew about the ring being purchased. If your ring is being made now, why are you waiting 6 months? That’s going to be tough :-/. I’d share the info with a few besties, and that’s it ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 7
    9548 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Resist the urge! It’ll make it so much more exciting at yourengagement!

    We didn’t really have a picture to show anyone since it was going to be custom made from 2 heirloom rings. We did have pictures of both rings before they got put together and the only person who say those were my Maid/Matron of Honor, who was helping my fiance get the ring together. And I’m so glad I got to show off my ring to everyone once we got engaged. Definatley helped get everyone excied and talking about the engagement.

    Post # 8
    430 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Keep the secret ๐Ÿ™‚  I had to keep mine secret for a week which was super hard to do!  I can’t imagine doing it for any longer.  Hang in there ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Post # 9
    8041 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @soontobemrsm11:  I wouldn’t tell anyone else. I think that people might feel like it’s ok to to comment more than if you actually had the ring on your finger, so you might get some upsetting comments. Kinda like if your kid isn’t born yet and you start sharing baby names.

    And yeah, people might wonder why you’re not engaged yet. I don’t see why you’d tell more people.

    I haven’t shown anyone pics of the rings we’re considering. I don’t see how it’s anyone’s business, and I’d only be telling them to show off, not to get opinions.

    If I wanted opinions then I would ask, but it doesn’t sound like you want opinions since you’re in the process of having it made.

    Post # 10
    652 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I’m pretty picky and had it down to 2 rings before leaving the final decision up to him. For the most part, I kept it to myself but did end up showing my mom, sister and best friend the choices just to get their thoughts. In the end, we all ended up liking the same one the most. Happily, it was the one SO could tell I preferred as well ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 13
    5001 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I told just a few people, but didn’t show any pictures. I had a family heirloom center stone though, so a few people knew that already. Don’t worry what other people think, if you want to show your BFF I think that’s fine, just don’t post it on facebook before he gives it to you!!

    Post # 14
    2162 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @soontobemrsm11:  That makes sense…same with us, we went looking, and I’ve heard of people looking for rings and going on multiple shopping trips…We happened to stumble upon a perfect stone and setting for us, and Fiance was all “Is it ok if I buy it, with you here?” We didn’t want to let it go, so he paid and the whole transaction was very open and honest. Fiance had told me he really wanted me to go w/him to pick it out, so being soooo excited, I had already gushed to the same 2 friends how I couldn’t wait. But, that’s also very me…I can’t hold back, very open with a lot, and it certainly didn’t take away from the “OMG” of the moment. Good luck!!

    Post # 15
    261 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We bought the ring in Colorado, then moved to New York 3 days before he proposed. So he let me “borrow” it to show my friends at work. And my mom. And my sister… basically I showed everyone but my dad lol. I did not visit Colorado for about 6 months after he proposed, and I didn’t want to wait ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 16
    1511 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I voted for the maybe option, but that’s only because it was closest to what I actually did.

    I told a few of my close friends and my mom that my fiance and I had gone ring shopping, and that I picked out a ring.  I didn’t give many specifics when I told them about it … I think I said it was an emerald cut diamond and the band was white gold with some additional diamonds.

    I didn’t show anyone any pictures, though.  

    I think it’s a personal preference.  I only had to wait about 2 months to receive my ring, so I really didn’t have to wait long to actually show it to people.  I think if you want to tell some of your friends, that’s perfectly fine.  It’s personal preference, though … If you’d prefer some sort of surprise when you show your friends, you could probably just give a somewhat generic description and tell them you’ll show it to them once you receive it.  If you’re too excited to wait, though, I don’t think it’s a big deal if you show them a picture.

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