Bees who studied f/t with a baby/small children, please share your experiences!

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Post # 2
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Helper bee

 

I did this! 👩‍🎓 hands down the best decision I  ever made. 

I studied nursing full time and then midwifery shortly afterwards.  I started studying full time when my youngest was nearly 3. I was 26 then. 

That was 10 years ago. 

It was full on.  Nursing school is very full on but midwifery really took the cake! This could differ on other countries but here in australia,  there’s a large clinical component to both areas of study and working full time in hospital for about 1000 hours for nursing alone.  

I am quite determined once I get started on something,  that assisted me greatly.  I studied every single weeknight when the kids went to bed.  I never missed a night. Not one night off ever during the week. Ever! I always wanted to ensure my kids didn’t “miss me” too much and I found night time study the best way to make sure they didn’t miss out on time with me.  I went to uni with a couple of other mums and they both dropped out about a year into the course but I know they got behind sometimes with their study.  Mums cannot do that,  you’ll never find the time to catch up! But I simply couldn’t had done it without help from my mum.  She looked after the kids,  dropped them to day care and had them pretty much full time while I was on placement.  There were weeks at a time where I had clinical that was hours away from home.  It was hard but it really depends on your level of commitment.  I was wholly committed to my studies.  

Was it worth it? My god, 10000000 x YES! I lecture at university now and make x4 the salary I could have made if I didn’t study.  I work casually in both maternity and the emergency department.  My kids can go to the school I pick instead of the local school,  we go on great holidays now.  Like yourself,  my husband could have supported us all on his wage but having me working means all the nice extras in life.  

Anything worth having is hard to get.  Good luck with your studies hun xxxx

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2021 - City, State

Although I’m not a mum I can say that if you’re hoping to *only* do women’s health in physiotherapy that’s not possible, you don’t get to choose for a few years, you have to do rotation to get to know everything in physio. As above there’s also 1500 clinical hours you need to complete each year. Dependant on your educational facility they can not be very supportive of you being a parent – my classmate had huge issues with our university.

once you graduate even then the only women’s health related item you might get to do is pelvic and that’s all pelvis issues and not just women. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee

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rosadiaz :  I went back to uni/college as a single mom when my kids were small. It was great and totally do-able BUT I also had family support. Day classes were fine because the campus had an excellent daycare where they also trained ECE workers and a special rate for students- however if you have any evening classes/ clinical rotations etc, you’ll need to arrange alternate childcare and a support system is a huge help. Daycares are almost always only available daytime hours Mon-Fri and don’t really accommodate schedules that don’t mesh with this. 

While I found school totally do-able with a school aged child and a toddler, I can’t imagine doing it with a young baby- when I had my first child I was totally unprepared for how truly exhausted I felt the first few months- and I was young and healthy and had a healthy pregnancy/ baby. Still exhausting! 

While overall it was a great experience for me, that’s not to say it was a piece of cake. Financially it was a super tight budget. There were a handful of days I missed school to stay home with a sick child. I didn’t participate in any ‘campus life’ stuff at all- my kids were my priority and there was no time or money for that kind of stuff. I would definitely do it all over again though 🙂 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

I did! I can’t take much credit because if I didnt have my dh I don’t know how I would’ve managed. I had my daughter while studying for my bachelor’s in biology and Spanish—-This was rough because I was going to school fulltime and I worked as a registered medical assistant fulltime. ( before this I was doing my medical assistant classes at the same time I was doing my bachelor’s classes while working as a part time bartender) on top of that since I was planning on going to medical school I had to volunteer (I volunteered at a Hispanic clinic which helped with my Spanish), shadow doctors, do research, and studied for the MCAT. I was probably only getting 3 hours of sleep at night. I had a lot of breakdowns and would not recommend this to anyone but I was determined and I had excellent physician mentors who I worked with that helped prepped me for the MCAT and my medical school apps. 

After I graduated I took a gap year to just work because my DH and I had a financial plan before I started medical school. Since he would be the only income we downgraded our expenses- from 4 bedroom 2 story house to a 2 bedroom apartment, we paid off our cars, meal prepped and our savings account quadrupled. I had my son my first year of medical school but I must say- I’m a 3rd year med student but my didactic years (first 2 years of in class learning) was a breeze. I didn’t really struggle at all because 1. I wasnt working anymore 2. With my degree I had already studied a lot of the courses 3. I worked as a medical assistant in internal medicine. I found my self often saying “omg my old patient had this” or ‘I saw this and Dr.blank treated it like this.” So everything clicked for me. 4. I was getting sleep lol.

All I had to do was go to class and be a mama to my kiddos which was awesome and once my kids went to sleep around 7:30 Dh and I were able to hang out for a few hours alone and then I would study before bed and as soon as I woke up which is at 4:30 am. I just started my 3rd year so now I’m on rotations and its not too bad. The hours are different with each rotation but its definitely doable. Compared to undergrad this is a walk in the park. I’m just curious about residency because DH and I plan to have another baby during that time and our roles will switch- I will be working and he will be working less (probably not at all) I don’t even know what I plan to specialize in yet. I have 4 that I’m going back and forth with and I need to make a decision soon. Luckily when I shadowed, I only shadowed women with children to see the work life balance in the different specialties and to get their opinions on things. I will say though at my hospital the chief of pediatric neurosurgery and chief of trauma surgery are both married women and moms with multiple children and they are badass so it gives me hope. 

My professors were awesome I had a pumping room, a place to store my breastmilk, able to take my kids to their doctors appointments. In undergrad I remember I had an online assignment due at 11:55 pm and that night I fell asleep while putting my daughter to bed. I emailed my professor ( who btw was a professor, wife, mom of 2 who homeschooled her boys AND she was in school to get her Ph.D) so I didnt expect any sympathy but it really was an accident and I’m not the type to miss deadlines and she made me feel so much better. She said, “you needed that sleep! It’s ok, send it to my tonight.” She was amazing!  In my undergrad chem class there was a couple in class who just had a baby and the school allowed them to both be enrolled but they would take turns going to class while the other stayed with the baby. It was awesome. So I’m sure you wont have any problems with your school accommodating you. Especially since there are laws. 

Sorry this was long! Good luck OP! You will do great especially since you have a great support system!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

Replying to follow! I’m considering starting a master’s program part time next year, with the thought that maybe when we eventually have a baby, it’d make sense to switch to full-time and stop working (classes are at night). It seems tough, and the stories so far have been very impressive!

Post # 9
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Busy bee

 

My LO was too young to be in school. Fortunately I had my father to look after him sporadically for most of my classes.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

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dianaj17 :  if you’re financially stable, I say go for it. You will be with your baby during the day and in class while (s)he’s sleeping. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

I went to college on and off from about ages 27-35 as a single mom. I tried a couple different programs at our technical college and then ended up at the university and got a degree in Social Work. I mostly did my homework after my daughter went to bed. She went to her dad’s most weekends so I also did a lot of work/wrote a lot of papers on Friday nights.  

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