(Closed) Bees who suffered from Abuse (verbal, emotional, physical)…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

My abusive ex did remarry eventually.  But then he abused her, too.  So, now he’s divorced again. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

My abusive ex has a kid with the woman he cheated on me with – that’s all I know, as we don’t keep in touch and I don’t really care!  I would be surprised if those types of men are able to have a successful relationship, at least based on my definition of “successful relationship”

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

He stalked me for a year. He did end up getting another girl pregnant and they got married. Apparently he never stoppped doing drugs and wasn’t very good to her. He ended up passing away last year after a drug over dose. I think there are some people who will never be capable of being in a healthy relationship because they as people are not healthy (mentally).

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think FH was emotionally abused, though I’ve never heard him use those words. She took total advantage of him and degraded him as a man. She thought all his ideas were stupid, etc. I met him while he was filing for divorce. He began to build confidence once he was away from her. She’s still bitter, had a baby randomly by a boyfriend, but is VERY single. No one wants to be with her bitter self. Laughing

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My FI’s exwife was emotionaly and physiclly abusive. I met him a few days after she left him for another man. (her second affair in their 3 year marraige.)

She dated a few guys, one of them a police officer. She cheated on him too. And also started running an escort service out of her house. Yes she was a hooker. ew.

She commited suicide almost a year ago after her boyfriend found out what she was doing.

 

Just like @ieatunicorns:  said, some people arnt able to be in a healthy relationship, because they themselves arnt healthy.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

mine has been in a series of relationships that never seem to last very long (~6 months) since we broke up in 2007.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My ex cheated on me with some girl whose brother beat him up soon after we broke up.  And then, he ended up calling me and stalking me for another year after that.  I know he is in a relationship now but they are only dating.

I seriously doubt that men (or women) like this will have successful relationships.

 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Honestly I dont know and it has been sometime. I wish him the best however I don’t believe I want to ever see him again in my own fear that I may do something that I might regret. I am by no means a mean spirited person but what he put me thru was a very long and hard process to get over. Thank God I didnt have children by him it could have only made things worse. But I was rescued and put in the hand of someone whow at the time I thought was great. But now I am where I need to be.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I was actually able to forgive my stalker ex and we’re friends from afar….very afar.  He quit drinking (major reason for his issues) and has been married for a couple of years.  His wife is pregnant, she lost the first one at 8.5 months.  I honestly felt liberated that I was able to let go of all the shitty things he did to me.  It literally consumed me with fear for a looonnnngggg time.

Post # 12
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602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

as far as i know my monster ex is with someone else now lol. Good luck to that chick! Between him and his evil mother i was demented

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I don’t know if he ever got married or had kids, but I think he was or is in some kind of program because about a year ago I got one of those “Making amends” letters where he apologized for all the shit he put me through. My husband and I read it together and I haven’t thought about it much since.

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

My emotionally abusive ex (family was involved too) was shocked I had the courage to leave though there was another girl in the picture.  My ex and this girl stayed together for 5 years.  I was told the girl was a bitch and my ex wasn’t happy.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

You know, I’m not sure. My ex was emotionall abusive, controlling, manipulative, etc. I’ve only seen him once in the almost four years it’s been since I left, and it was only a couple of months after (shocking, since he’s a police officer in the same city I live in). I was actually with my now fiance at the time, just meeting up as friends with another friend, and ex happened to be at the same place. I was having a drink (I “wasn’t allowed” to drink when I was with him) and he got all pissy because I didn’t say hi when I walked in (hello, you treated me horribly and I left you!), so he stomped over and said, “No, it’s cool, we’ll leave!” (he was there with friends of his) and stormed off, flirted with the trashy waitress (we were at a pool hall), blatantly got her number, and had them play Eminem’s “You Make Me Sick” on his way out. Classy dude. 

It’s funny because some of his coworkers shopped where I used to work and a few of them were like, “Good for you for leaving him and finding something better” and things like that, and then one of the guys that I was really good friends with didn’t even want to hear my side and just said, “Well there are two sides to every story.” I, immaturely, countered that one of those sides is always right in an abusive situation, and being that I’m not one to LIE about that sort of thing, I’m sure he’s going around and telling people that I’m a cheating whore, etc. 

I feel sorry for any woman he’s dating/dated. 

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

He started dating some other chick and eventually married her. I don’t know if they’re still together but I would bet money that he’s the same asshole that he was back then.  

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