(Closed) Bees who waited to take a honeymoon- advice please

posted 6 years ago in Honeymoons
  • poll: When did you take your honeymoon? Did you regret the timing?
    Right away- and we loved it! : (6 votes)
    27 %
    Right away- wish we had waited and saved more : (0 votes)
    2-5 months- and we loved it! : (6 votes)
    27 %
    2-5 months- wish we had gone sooner : (0 votes)
    6-12 months- and we loved it! : (9 votes)
    41 %
    6-12 months- wish we had gone sooner : (1 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    6892 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I voted 6-12 months and we wish we’d gone sooner. I realize we’re not 6-12 months out, but we have no foreseeable plans to take our Honeymoon in the next 5 months. We just don’t have the funds right now without putting it on a credit card and don’t want to do that.

    I’ll admit I’m disappointed. We DID go on a “mini-moon” which made it sting a little less! But yeah I already regret waiting. I didn’t think I would at all! I’m normally not that type of girl, but for whatever reason it felt wrong to be back at work during the following week.

    Post # 5
    6 posts
    • Wedding: March 2013

    We aren’t married yet, but we plan to take a couple days right after the wedding and “get away” somewhat close to home, then take our “official” honeymoon sometime during the following summer.  The reasons are 1. so that we can save some extra money first, and 2. I will be taking some classes then, and won’t be able to get away for long.

    I think all the reasons you listed to postpone it are completely reasonable.  I also worry about the “life getting in the way” thing if we wait, but I figure if we make it a priority it shouldn’t be too much of a problem.  The way I figure it, it gives you something else exciting to look forward to once all the wedding day stuff is over.  🙂

    Post # 6
    6892 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    @FloretteLiz:  Wow, I could have written that. lol. We haven’t gone on a trip just the two of us either! Other than our mini-moon. Our mini-moon was fantastic. We only went 2 hours away to a place called Callaway Gardens. We stayed in a private cottage and did all the attractions and had a lovely time, but yeah, I do feel like we missed out a bit by not staying longer or not going somewhere new and fun.

    We may go somewhere for our anniversary, but only if our finances improve. We are both recent college grads and neither of us are making good money yet. We also worry about the idea that “life will get in the way” of us taking a real honeymoon. I mean it isn’t the end of the world, but it would sure be nice!

    I don’t think waiting a few weeks would be an issue – I think THAT would still feel like a honeymoon since it wouldn’t be too long after your wedding. Even a Chicago mini-moon – how long would you guys stay for a mini-moon? We only stayed for 3 days/2 nights, and I think that had a lot to do with being bummed. I keep thinking that staying at least 4 nights would have somehow felt “better.” I know, I sound crazy. Lol.

    Maybe you could do an “extended Mini-Moon” (<– like 4/5 nights) in Chicago and still have time to save up for Virginia a year later? Btw, Virginia is pretty all the time but I prefer the fall months. Why? It isn’t so damn hot! haha.

    Post # 8
    428 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We have lived overseas for 2 years and don’t really want to travel when we finally get home and get married, so we will not be taking a honeymoon. We are just going to be happy settling down in our new place and enjoying married life. 

    Because of the nature of our jobs, we will probably not take a honeymoon unti 2-3 years after the wedding. I am totally fine with this, and actually think for us I prefer it. I think the wedding is celebration enough for the beginning of our marriage, and it would be fun to use the honeymoon to celebrate our first few years as newlyweds, something else to look forward to. We will proably start thinking about kids 4 or so years after we are married, so taking a big, wonderful trip before that seems just about perfect to me 🙂

    Post # 9
    10367 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    We took a long weekend right after the wedding, but our “real” honeymoon was an 8 month backpacking trip through Asia and New Zealand that we started a couple of weeks before our 1-year anniversary. Zero regrets here!

    Post # 10
    2195 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    We were married in November and went on our Honeymoon in February. I work for a school, so I had to wait for school vacation and we didn’t want to go over Christmas/New years.

    I liked having something else to plan and look forward to after the wedding, but I will say it would have been really nice to get away the week after the wedding. I was so tired and overwhelmed after the wedding and had to go back to work…I cried every day for a week. We also didn’t really get any time to process the fact that we got married until we finally got away together.


    That said, I loved our Honeymoon and probably wouldn’t have changed anything…maybe we should’ve gone away for a night or 2 after the wedding…like a mini moon? Just to have time to be alone and realize how awesome being married is!

    Post # 11
    224 posts
    Helper bee

    we have both agreed that we want to go the day after the wedding. as much as i realise how exhausting it is, we won’t be getting a really early flight (1pm) and we’ll have the entire day on the plane to chill out a bit (9+ hours as we’re going from London – Disney Florida).

    we both felt that we wanted the wedding to last ‘over 2 weeks’ instead of 1 day, and we figured that if we went straight away it would feel like it’s all part of it.

    i think what really convinced us was when our friends went on their honeymoon 3 months after their wedding and they referred to it as a ‘holiday’ which was a shame Frown

    Post # 12
    1684 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @pinkandsparkly:  this. exactly.

    While I will say I wish I had taken a mini-moon right after – even booking a nice hotel room and doing a few couple-y things in our own city right after the wedding would have been awesome. You just need that time alone together after the craziness, to snuggle together and let it soak in that you’re flipping married.

     But we waited to take our honeymoon for financial and weather reasons – we were married in late October and took our honeymoon in February. We did a week on the coast of Spain in February instead of enduring yet ANOTHER week of 30 feet snowdrifts and -40 windchill. It half felt like an awesome vacation (first time for Darling Husband flying overseas) with an extra special twist. No regrets.

    Post # 13
    1701 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We waited for financial and timing reasons. A bit of a bummer before the wedding but our wedding was Out of Town for us, so it was one less planning pain. It also was fun to plan all winter long.

    If you are doing Virginia in the fall, wait until mid-October if you can. Beautiful with  the leaves changing!

    Post # 14
    4193 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    We’re doing the mini-moon/ later Honeymoon, mainly because we’re going to New Zealand, and their summer is during our winter, so we’ll honeymoon in December. 

    Our mini-moon will be something close and drivable, within 2-3 hours, where we’ll stay probably 3 nights.

    Virginia will be a lot nicer (less humid, etc) in September than October. Where in Va are you looking to visit?

    Post # 16
    7 posts

    My husband and I really wanted to go to Europe on our honeymoon but knew it wouldn’t be possible right after the wedding (11/11/11) for financial and timing reasons.  So we took a mini-moon to NYC for five days right after the wedding and then went to Europe for eleven days four months later.  Granted a lot of people gave us a TON of flack for this saying most people would be overjoyed to have a five day honeymoon to NYC and that we were being selfish calling it a mini-moon, but in our eyes that is what it was.  I’m very glad we did the NYC trip though, because I do think it is important to “get away” right after the wedding.  So get away right after, even if it is just for one day, and then have fun planning your longer trip for later.  My husband and I had an amazing time on our honeymoon even if it was four months later.

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