(Closed) Bees who weren't TTC but got a BFP…how did you tell your SO?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
2452 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Breathe and take the test before you get too ahead of yourself. I’m trying and have thought I was several times when I wasn’t…a close friend had two surprise babies (very much wanted, but earlier than planned!)  and then really thought she was pregnant a third surprise time but it was a false alarm and her period was just randomly a couple days late.

Post # 3
1152 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

I would try not to worry about it too much until you know for sure. And Im just curious, if you find out that you are indeed pregnant, why would you have to cancel trips and things in the near future?

Post # 4
128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

He passed out… seriously. It turned out ok though. He’s a very loving father and wouldn’t change how it happened. You need to take a test first and then worry about how to tell him.

Post # 5
1662 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would take a test first. But, we had DD sooner than we planned. I put the positive test on the counter and waited for him to see it. He looked at it and said nothing, so then I put it in his face and he goes “ohh!!!!” We were super scared, but now DD is 10 months old and we wouldn’t change a thing, she’s the light of our lives. 

Post # 6
11760 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Unless you told him you were on BC when you werent I assume he knows there is a possibility?

When I got pregnant, we were using POM. DH didn’t pull out and knew it was a possibility I would get pregnant. He was shocked when I told him I was (because I told him I was going to get tampons but really wanted to go get him a card to tell him in a special way.) but he was also super happy (and nervous – as was I!) the timing wasn’t ideal but we ha planned to TTC later on And everything worked out fine and we couldn’t be happier or imagine life without our daughter!

i would take a test before getting worried. But really, if you’re having sex (even with protection) there is always a chance of pregnancy, so he shouldn’t be upset about it or anything.

Post # 7
2974 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

my husband and i took our nfp class together, so we talk pretty openly about my cycles and stuff, so he knew that my cycle was being kinda wonky that month and stuff like that and right away, he was like, “you’re pregnant!” and i kept telling him that i wasn’t. i blamed all my symptoms (cramping, fatigue, sore boobs….) on other factors. finally one day i told him i wanted to take a pregnancy test, so we went to the corner store to pick one up and i took it as soon as we got home. my husband wanted to be in the bathroom with me, but i made him wait outside. i had barely finished peeing on it when i got a very clear positive.

i was freaking out. i came out of the bathroom and wouldn’t let my husband go in until 3 minutes had passed and i kept telling myself that i must have read the instructions wrong and it wasn’t actually positive. but there it was staring me in the face….i showed my husband. he was thrilled. i continued to freak out and spent the the rest of the day crying, haha.

Post # 8
3727 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

misstreebee:  I had a pretty serious scare right before the wedding and a ‘rationally I know I am not pregnant, but I am showing all the signs’ at the worst possible time a few months ago. What I told DH was “hey, just to let you know, it may be nothing but (I’m late/I am nautious/whatever). I am going to take a test, but I wanted to give you time to mentally prep”. If it is positive, then you can go from there. You can decide if you will keep it and how to adjust your life.

My SIL had an almost marriage ending oops (as in the marriage was almost ending, they had a major fight, had makeup sex, she got knocked up, and they continued the cycle. The pregnancy was just fuel on the fire). It was not a good day when they found out– it impacted her job, their house, and all of their plans. They found a way forward (and a great marriage counselor) and 8 years later they have a great marriage. So even if you think this will ruin everything, I will most likely totally work out

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