(Closed) Bees who wrote your own ceremony…

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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1798 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@jude7186: You can pretty much write it however you want. We just read our vows without any “I do”s by basically saying “I promise to X Y & Z forever”. If you want to keep the “I do”s you can format your vows so that either the officiant or your partner asks you questions (“Do you promise to X”, “Will you always Y”, etc)

Post # 4
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315 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 1997

@jude7186:  Most couples I have worked with do not say the “I Do” part of the vows. They usually express the love and the friendship they share. They make their promises to love each other and talk about how they will cherish each other. Then they put in the unique personal peices that make the vows truly special.

Oh, one suggestion I have is write your vows on small index card size paper and have your Fiance stick them in his pocket. It just doesn’t have the deeply romantic feel when the officiant is having you repeat your very personal vows. So practice and read them during your ceremony.

Post # 5
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7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@jude7186:  You know, we’re trying to figure this out too, right now.  Fiance likes the idea of writing our own vows, but I’ve always pictured the “repeating” type of vows in my mind and don’t want to miss out on the “I do”.

It definitely sounds like you can write them however you want them, but RevMic made a good point that you wouldn’t want to be repeating your personal vows as spoken by your officiant.

Post # 7
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21 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Juliepants:  My fiance and I are reciting poems to each other, but are also saying the “I do.”

It looks something like this:

Fiance reads poem

Offi: Do you, Fiance, take bride to be your blah blah blah

Repeat for mine.

In the end, it’s all up to you!  That’s the beauty of it being YOUR ceremony! =D

Post # 8
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65 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m working on this part of the ceremony right now too. I think we’re going to say our personal vows then have our officiant say her, “Do you promise to…?” then we’ll say, “I do.” I definitely want to keep the I Do part but I don’t like the repeating part. 

Post # 9
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835 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

we did both….written vows then the small part where we do the I dos…. it was very important for us not to cut out the I dos….. 

Post # 10
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97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

It’s alaways up to you.

It’s  your day! It’s your ceremony!

I am pretty sure your officiant will be able to accomodate you.

Post # 11
Hostess
11167 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

I am in the middle of this right now. This is what we decided on and we aren’t doing the whole “I do” thing. Thisis what I have written based on loads of research and samples:

Exchange of Personal Vows

Exchange Wedding Vows: Join hands and repeat after me…

I (X/Y) take you (X/Y) to be my friend and my one true love.  I will love you more each day than I did the day before. I will trust and respect you, laugh and cry with you.  I will be yours in times of plenty and in times of want, in times of sickness and in times of health, in times of joy and in times of sorrow, in times of failure and in times of triumph. I promise to care for and protect you, to comfort and encourage you from this day forward for as long as we both shall live.

 Exchange of Rings : I give you this ring as a symbol of my love and devotion.

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