(Closed) Bees with 18 month- 2 year engagements, are you happy with the length?

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Is/did your 1.5-2 year engagement go fast or slow?
    Faster than I thought! : (40 votes)
    31 %
    Some months were slow, but at the 12 month mark time was going faster : (46 votes)
    35 %
    I really wish that our engagement was a bit shorter- too much time to plan : (21 votes)
    16 %
    I wish our engagement was A LOT shorter- it is going/went so slow : (16 votes)
    12 %
    Other- please tell me : (8 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    2515 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    we had a 21 month engagement. it went slow at first but once we hit the 12 month mark, it started to go faster. we needed the time to save up money though so we didn’t mind waiting. we saved a lot of money because we were able to lock in rates for our venue and photographer since we booked a year and a half in advance. 

    Post # 4
    779 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014 - Catal Restaurant

    When I get married I will have been engaged for 3 years. It hasnt felt that long and I get the feeling that the rest of this year is going to just fly by. The extra time just means you guys get to save up more which is great!

    Post # 5
    750 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    We are six months in to our two year engagement, and so far it’s passing quickly 🙂 We didn’t start planning until a month or so ago, and now I’m thrilled we have so much time! 

    Post # 6
    3276 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We’re having a 19 month engagement, if it was only up to me I probably have an 8-9 month engagement. My dad said we had to wait until I graduate college so we respected his wishes and are having the wedding next June. Sometimes it’s nice having first pick of vendors, but theres sooo much time to rethink and overthink things that I worry about picking them for so long its stressful. It was also annoying in the beginning (and still) when people are like “oh, that’s soooo far away” 

    Post # 7
    384 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    2 year engagment here, I’ve loved it so far! There are times when I wish it was sooner but, it gives me more time to do stuff I wouldn’t have time to do if we had a short engagement and to change my mind multiple times!

    Post # 8
    79 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I would have appreciated an engagement a bit shorter, but I’m glad we went longer because I would have been SO stressed trying to finish my degree overseas and plan a wedding. In the end, I’m really, really glad that we took that time.

    Post # 9
    413 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2014 - Windstar on Naples bay

    i feel both like i want to get it done now, and want more time to save money…. but the now is more a long the lines of all the drama/stress wedding planning has brought on. 🙁

    Post # 10
    3101 posts
    Sugar bee

    @sunshinewish15:  19 months was absolutely perfect!  We really got time to enjoy engaged life.  The entire time I appreciated it as something special and finite.  I loved every minute!

    Post # 11
    4929 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    Ours is 22 months, and we’re about halfway done. We needed a longer engagement, and I sort of wanted it, but it’s frustrating sometimes. I do think it’s been going faster lately. 

    Post # 12
    1133 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I’m nervous we won’t have ENOUGH time!  I got engaged June 9th, 2013, and we are looking at May 2015, so just about 23 months. 

    In that time, we are both finishing up our last year of school this year, working full time, moving into an apartment together next summer, and planning a wedding.  Time flies when you are busy!

    Post # 13
    596 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @sunshinewish15:  We are getitng married July 18, 2014. We got engaged August 4, 2012. This long engagement was ideal as I just finished grad school in May and I won’t be working ft until September. So it gives us some time to save some money and for me not to be stressed between school and wedding planning.

    That being said – I had all the vendors booked by January of this year. I haven’t done anything wedding related since, aside from weddingbee and randomly hours on pinterest.

    Now that summer is here, I find it crazy that I’m getting married next July! It’s gone by so quickly. I’ll have to start doing some little things this summer.

    Post # 14
    1070 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    By the time we finally get married, we’ll have been engaged for 32 months. Honestly, I LOVE being engaged and planning a wedding. We are taking our sweet time and saving up to pay off our dream wedding in cash. Sometimes it feels like its never coming (especially when I see friends and relatives get engaged after me and still tie the knot before me).


    Post # 15
    374 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    15 months and now that there is 9 months left i feel as if im running out of town. i have everything in mind but havent done much besides pay the photographer and caterers. Hopefully i will be booking the reception venue this month and dj next month but finding a decorator have been my biggest challege thus far.

    Post # 16
    765 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    We didn’t really have a choice. Our dream venue is outdoors, so we had to go with September, since that’s when the weather is nicest in our area. We might have done this September, but my fiance’s brother is getting married then…and they got engaged almost a  year before us.

    It’s funny…initially I was a bit bummed at having to wait. After all, 18 months seemed like a REALLY long time, especially after getting engaged on our four year anniversary. However, now that I’m planning it, I’m SO glad that I have the time. 

    1) Lack of stress. I have so much time to get everything ready, do all the DIY projects that I want, or shop for deals on flowers/dresses/decor/etc. The time is a HUGE relief. 

    2) Our important out of town guests (which is pretty much 80% of our invited guests) have at least a full year notice to save the date–and plan their trips…so we’re going to get a much better RSVP rate from our out-of-towners. I’ve even had friends and family from Europe and New Zealand already say that they are planning to attend. 

    3) I got my pick of venues and vendors–so I’m getting my DREAM wedding. I got my first choice of wedding date at my dream venue, my #1 choice of photographers, my #1 choice of videographers,  and my #1 choice of DJ…all because I booked those items earlier than brides typically search for vendors. 

    4) As a curvier bride, I’m happy that I have time to lose a little weight and get in better shape before I need to order my wedding dress and also before I need to take engagement photos. I’ve only been dieting for a month, and I’ve already lost 8lbs! Assuming I average a loss of 1-2lbs per week, I should be able to safely drop another 20-30lbs before it’s time to order my dress in Nov/Dec…and maybe another 10-12lbs before I take engagement photos next spring. That would put my at or near my goal weight 6 months before my wedding…and in plenty of time to get alterations done once the dress arrives.  

    5) My fiance and I have time to save for and plan the perfect honeymoon. Because we have such a long engagement, we are able to set aside more money and take a better trip than we could have if we had a shorter engagement. 

    So…while I wasn’t thrilled about it at first, a long engagement is turning out to be a REALLY good idea! 

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