(Closed) Bees with 18 month- 2 year engagements, are you happy with the length?

posted 9 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Is/did your 1.5-2 year engagement go fast or slow?

    Faster than I thought!

    Some months were slow, but at the 12 month mark time was going faster

    I really wish that our engagement was a bit shorter- too much time to plan

    I wish our engagement was A LOT shorter- it is going/went so slow

    Other- please tell me

  • Post # 47
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We had so much going on…moving, school, new jobs, etc that it flew by for me. Can’t believe it’s 116 days away!

    Post # 48
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    775 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    At the time that we got engaged (April 2012) I would have preferred the wedding 1 year later, but fiance wanted to wait about 18 months. Now that there’s 3 months to go… it seems that time just flew!

    Post # 49
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    2842 posts
    Sugar bee

    @sunshinewish15:  Well, with my first marriage we were in a relationship for 6 months and engaged for 3 months before the wedding. I wish we had had a longer engagment, I think I would have changed my mind. So for my own piece of mind, this time around, we were dating for a year and a half before the engagement and will be engaged for close to a year. So I feel like this gives me plenty of time to make sure everything is 100% right. Just my honest answer. I know a lot of people think you should be sure before you get engaged. But I think sometimes people (me included) get swept up in romance and excitement and need a little time to settle down and see the big picture.

    Post # 50
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    55 posts
    Worker bee

    i am so glad i read this post- i was staring to get reakky bummed out about the long ish engagement… its looking like about 18/19 months now,(i wanted summer wedding so it had to be 2014 or 2015 and we were trying to squeeze it in for next summer, but as were funding it ourselves so it was going to be increddibly dificult to save. and we would probably have had to give up a few of my plans! (im both impatient and demanding so it took a while for me to come arond to the idea of a 2015 wedding!)

    this way i guess i can get really into ym DIY projects for the wedding, and have every detail exactly as i want it! + we can do a honeymoon striaght after (2014 wedding would have meant forefitting that!)

    Post # 51
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    18 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Got engaged in December 2012, and are planning to get married in September 2014. It didn’t feel too long until I started the planning process and began involving my family. As the drama is unfolding, its making the next 14 months feel quite daunting!

    Post # 52
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    13 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We had a 3 year engagement and I’m so glad we did. The first year was no planning, just pure enjoying and basking in the glory of being engaged. Then we started planning at the beginning of 2011. We got all the time sensitive stuff out of the way first (eg, venue, photographer, cars) and it meant if I’d had my heart set on something at least I knew it would be 100% available. (Like my car, they booked up really fast because its the only one of its particular kind in the UK so I was relieved when we paid deposit on that). And over them 2 years it was doing 1 thing after another and there was no big rush at the end so I actually enjoyed all the planning from beginning to end 🙂 now I’m hoping for an equally long marriage period before we think of starting a family, wanna travel the world a bit first before we settle down for good 🙂 

    Post # 53
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    2292 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    We will have a 2 year and 3 engagement. It’s horrible, I would never ever do it except I didn’t have a choice (live in another country, work commitments) There is way too much time to plan, second guess etc. Yuck. I think an 8 month engagement is perfect. 

    Post # 54
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    5136 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @sunshinewish15:  I am happy with the length of my engagement. We got engaged Nov 2011 and we set the date for Sept 2013 (whoo only a few more weeks)

    We don’t live together, so we needed to save money to move out and for a wedding! So we needed the extra time. If we had lived together, we probably would have had a sooner date. I am glad it worked out the way it did though because the day we get married is our 10 year anniversary.

    Post # 55
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    719 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    @sunshinewish15:  I voted other, we have not set a date due to logistics not because we aren’t committed. Yes, I wish it was shorter I wish it happened years ago but I can’t say I’d vote for shorter. We are over the moon happy just to be together, we want to be married but other than my last name nothing is changing really.  The wedding is one day, having a short engagement doesn’t = better marriage. Nor does a long engagement. I will admitt being happy for 23yr old brides who have dated for a year is not really happening, I never say anything but inside I’m kind of annoyed (sorry being honest) mainly when I hear talk like “finally”. However at the end of the day it is not a race. Not meant to offend anyone as it is not directed to any bee, I am just surrounded(irl) by ppl under 25 who are not financially stable but they’re getting married anyway and they are oblivious to any of the practicalities…it’s like they want to play house.

     

    Secret time: With the wedding industry as over blown as it is, I secretly wonder if we lived in a world where there was no big reception, ering, limo, veil, gown, favors, flowers, dance at reception etc. Just wear something pretty, go to the priest/jop, and that is it, would there be AS many women in such a hurry? No party or engagement announcement. I have been wondering about that lately. Curious b/c so much time and effort goes in to the wedding and pre wedding stuff

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