(Closed) Bees with big floral budgets… tell me why!

posted 9 years ago in Flowers
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@fishbone:  I also think if you have a larger floral budget the overall wedding budget is may be larger. If my wedding budget was 15k and I spent 10k on just flowers that would be absurd, but its not like that.  We certainly did not skimp on tons of appetizers for the cocktail hour, a 5 course dinner, full open bar the whole night, transportation to and from our wedding just to have great flowers.

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@fishbone:  I think it also depends largely on your venue. For example, we are getting married in an old mansion, which still has a lot of it’s original furnitue-first edition paintings on the walls, a library full of books, etc etc. Outside there are full gardens. Because of all that we just didn’t need a ton of flowers…they’d get lost in the  mix, and probably just detract from the natural beauty of our setting.

By comparison, if you were having a larger wedding in say a banquet hall…those tend to be pretty bare bones, so you would want larger arrangements, and more decor to fill up the space,.

This is all just my personal opinion, though. And I’m only spending $1500 too…with the majority of it going to candles 😛

Post # 19
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

This might sound rude, but if you can afford to spend thousands upon thousands of dollars on flowers that die in a day or less, then you really should think about donating that money because to spend that amount of money on something so temporary and unimportant (to me) is ridiculous. Thousands of dollars could feed lots of animals and homeless people. Just my opinion. 

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I didn’t want to spend as much as we are spending on flowers. But I like what I like — and that’s big, lush arrangements filled with expensive flowers. We’re spending just under $3,500. We’re getting:

– bridal bouquet of pink garden roses

– 5 baby’s breath bouquets for maids

– groom bout of single, small garden rose 

– 5 bouts of baby’s breath

– 4 ranaculus corsages (moms, g-mas)

– 4 ranaculus bouts (dads, g-dads)

– 10 baby’s breath pew arrangements

– 5 Tall Fluted Vase with Mound of Hydrangeas, Garden Roses, Spray Roses

– 5 medium Glass Vase with Large Mound of Baby’s Breath

– 5 short versions of the tall fluted centerpieces

– tax, delivery, set up, etc.

And because we all love pictures, here are my inspiration pics:

 

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Mine was not huge but it was still a few thousand dollars. I had budgeted about $6k but I think we were able to do it for about half that. Flowers were important to me but not that important.  My bridal bouquet was a few hundred dollars.  The BMs bouquets were just slightly less. I could have gone cheaper but it has always bugged me to see the bride carry a bouquet with expensive flowers and then the BMs carry cheap flowers so I ordered the same bouquet but smaller for them.  I really wanted lily of the valley but I couldn’t justify spending $800 for a small bouquet for myself.  My centerpieces were huge (larger than what I thought they would be) and very pretty but I pretty much told my florist to make them using whatever fresh flowers in season and she had available as long as they were in the colors I selected.  I think I paid about $100 each.

I know I could have saved money by doing them myself but I didn’t want my family and friends to have to put together floral arrangement and bouquets especially since everyone flew or drove in to vegas for the wedding.  the floral team took care of everything.  everyone is still raving about how beautiful my bouquets and centerpieces were.  and the best part was the fact that no one had to help assemble them.

when i came up with the wedding budget, i had to priorize what was important to me and compromise on my vision.  my dress, the food, full open bar, venue, music, photography…all ranked a bit higher on my list than the flowers so the flowers ended up enhancing rather than be the center of attention.  When one of my BMs got married, flowers were probably the most important thing to her so her centerpieces (although we did end up helping her put them together) were the center of attention.  I know she spent more than me and she bought the flowers wholesale while I paid a florist.

i know brides have different priorities and while we all want to plan our dream wedding, real life makes it difficult to pay for everything so we have to compromise.  i still think that being a good hostess is very important.  i find it terribly disrespectful to have guests travel to your wedding and not be a good hostess.  and by being a good hostess, i mean making sure people are comfortable.  i don’t eat red meat but i knew that my most of my guests do so i served steak.  i also had a few guests who did not eat seafood or red meat so i had the chef prepare chicken for them.  it was seamless and no one noticed.  two of my BMs were vegetarians so they also had their own special meal.  i made sure everyone felt like they were guests of honor.

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I also wanted to add, that after our day is done, the flowers will be donated to local hospitals and nursing homes to brighten someone else’s day. So we’re not just dumping them in the trash. 🙂

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I wasn’t sure how much flowers were going to cost until I got a quote from a florist that wanted almost $4k.  I was like “welp, no flowers at this wedding!”  LOL  Then I contacted another florist and went in…told them what I wanted and was quoted (mind you for MORE flowers) around $800.  It will end up being less than that more than likely.  Or if it increases it won’t be by much.  

Flowers are important to me but if they were gonna cost over $1000 they weren’t.  I can’t see spending that kind of money.  

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@MrsElle:  I do like the idea of donating flowers to hospitals afterwards!  We aren’t doing centerpieces really (just like 3-5 total) scattered around.  If we were doing more I’d do that!  We’re going to just split the flowers up amongst family probably. 

Post # 24
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Our flower budget is around $3-4k. I love flowers and the centerpieces are one of the main things I usually remember at a wedding. I also want an amazing bouquet since it’s going to be in a lot of the pictures that I’ll have forever. We are getting married in a historic building that does not allow additional decorations too, so the flowers are it basically.

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@Calybug:  you could say that about almost ANY element of a wedding. Heck why even have a wedding when we could all go to the courthouse and donate our entire budgets to charity? Let’s face it, everything is for one day. Everyone has priorities for what is important to them, and if someone wants to spend $5k on chairs, hey more power to them IMO. It’s their money to spend, even if I think it’s silly.

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@sara_tiara:  I totally agree with you- the venue makes a huge difference in the amount of decor you need. We are getting married in a white tent with white draping from floor to ceiling. The tent has two crystal chandliers to essentially our space has no color whatsoever so that’s why we have all of the flowers.

 

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@MrsElle:  LOVE LOVE LOVE your inspiration pics! So fabulous! Where are you getting married? In Raleigh? I moved to Durham about a year ago and love the area!

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@Calybug:  I think how people spend their money is their personal choice. We donate a lot to charity and I work for a non-profit. Flowers may be a waste to you but may not be to others. I don’t live beyond my means and am not flashy so why is it so wrong to throw a once in a lifetime event and make it exactly what one envisions a perfect event to be. Everything wedding related could be seen as a giant waste  like
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@BooRadley:  said.

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

While the flowers themselves will die in a short time, their beauty will last forever in the photographs and my memory.  Our floral budget is rather large compared to the overall budget, it’s about 50% of what I’m spending on the venue, but for us it’s perfect.  I’m getting what I wanted, and it’ll look amazing, for me that’s worth the splurge. 

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My floral budget is large because:

1. I live in New York City, and everything here is ridiculously priced to begin with.

2. I have expensive tastes. The flowers I like are expensive, the florists whose styles I like are expensive and the amount of floral decor we want is expensive. (i.e., altar arrangements, garlands, a separate escort card table display instead of repurposing bridesmaids’ bouquets and so on.) 

3. I think our guests will really enjoy the beautiful arrangements our very talented florist will create, and I’ll enjoy looking at them in our wedding pictures. 

4. My parents are paying for the entire wedding and are financially well-off and are happy to pay for the costs involved in having a wedding full of fancy flowers. 

Post # 28
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Bumble bee

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@WillyNilly:  Lol @ Backstreet Boys!

OP: I did NOT anticipate spending as much as we did for flowers. Even with me haggling and finding little tricks to reduce the price of our bouqets & arrangements, we wound up spending just under $1500… still seems crazy! BUT, I have to say, the flowers made a huge difference and impact for the day. Our venues were quite simple in their modern/rustic ways, so the flowers added an elegant softness that I actually (surprisingly) feel was worth it. Plus, though it’s tough to fork out the money, I did want my wedding to look as beautiful as I envisioned it.

I got the price of each bridesmaid bouquet reduced by about $10-$20 by adding a different kind of flower and making them a bit smaller, and I informed the florist that we had a small-ish budget for altar arranements (we said we could spend $100 on each vs. the $250 plus that they usually cost)… but with bride & bridesmaid bouquets, boutonnieres (for wedding party, dads and grandfathers), corsages (for moms and grandmas), altar arrangements, centrepieces, little bud vases at the licence & guestbook signing tables (etc.), and don’t forget delivery fees (much more on a Sunday!), things added up!

We got so many compliments on our flowers, though, which is a nice added validation for what was spent.

ETA: After reading a lot of the previous posts, I suppose $1500 doesn’t seem like that much anymore!
Granted, I shopped around for the best quote, so I would’ve ended up spending much more if I went with someone else.

I have to say I’m really happy with the full, luscious arrangements from our wedding… *Sigh* Just thinking about our flowers makes me smile – definitely added such beauty and personal style to our day.

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

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@MrsElle:  Such a good idea! If we have any left over – if the guests don’t take them all home – I am definitely going to do that!!

My floral budget is $800, for my bouquet, 6 Bridesmaid or Best Man bouquets, 10 bouts, and flowers to fill small groupings of vases on 15 tables. I studied plant biology in college, and I now spend a lot of time in my garden, so plants – especially flowers – are very special and important to me.

Two things no one has mentioned here but I think worth pointing out: that 1) bouquets that you provide for your BMs are in many ways a gift to them – especially for BMs who live nearby and can put their bouquets in vases when they get home, it’s a small nice gesture for them!; and 2) flowers have a lot of symbolic meaning, just like some other wedding traditions (such as wearing a veil, having a maid of honor/best man, throwing rice, etc.) so to me the meaning of wedding flowers goes beyond their aesthetic value. For me, flower signify life – sure, fresh-cut flowers are short-lived, but that is part of why they are so beautiful. I am not a big fan of silk bouquets or brooch bouquets because they don’t have the same element of life and freshness that even one single stem does. 

Post # 30
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Bumble bee

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@MrsElle:  That’s a super nice idea! I’m sure that brightened some people’s days 🙂 I’ll have to share that with my friends who get married – Wish I had thought of that!

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Sugar bee

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@Calybug:  *rant upcoming* And my opinion is that I am sick and tired of self righteous posts like these get on my nerves. I am African so trust me, I understand the concept of donations. Not that it has helped my country any. Anyhow, when someone has the means and ability to spend money on a wedding and don’t go on welfare after that, I really don’t see how that’s anybody’s business. I see posts like these all the time and it gets on my nerves. This is a wedding site. Just like life, people have different budgets. I saw some posts like yours on the $50k and up thread and it’s upsetting because it casts a pall as if folks should be guilty for how they spend their money. If I worked for my money and I don’t want to give it to the ASPCA or the homeless guy on the subway, that’s my perogative. *rant over*… we can now go back to our scheduled thread.

 

To the OP, I’m not a big flower person but I love peonies. Those tend to be expensive. I didn’t spend that much on flowers but way more than a lot of other people I know. You can see my recaps for some of the flowers. I was happy with my choice.

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