Bees with big floral budgets… tell me why!

posted 7 years ago in Flowers
Post # 47
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m spending at least $4,000 on flowers and at this rate I’m likely to be arranging them myself (well, also with help from my BMs, mom, and wedding planner). Because flowers are awesome and I’m a very visual person. If I’m making people spend hundreds of dollars on plane tickets to fly across the country and stay in hotels, it will be so that they can go to the best wedding ever. Which means I will throw down serious cash on a premium open bar, good food, and decor that will make everyone cry tears of joy. I will complain about throwing down said cash but I will still do it. And I won’t regret it because the flowers may wilt the next day but the photos will be forever.

Post # 48
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478 posts
Helper bee

Our budget for that will be quite small.  Probably no more than $400 or $500 for the bridal bouquet, 3 bridesmaids, 4 bouts, and enough to do small vases submerged, 3 on each table, 12 or so tables.  I absolutely love flowers in real life, but I would not spend the money on them for the wedding.  The centerpieces will be primarily non-floral.  I also really enjoy food in real life, but would not spend the money on it for the wedding; I’m selfish and will do some fine dining just me and Fiance, but I won’t pay for 100 people to dine that fine, lol.

But really, I do love flowers, belong to a Gesneriad Society, won a couple ribbons for growing my own streptocarpus, was a member of Chicago Botanic Garden, and when I was passing through London on a long layover last Friday and someone asked me what I wanted to do, I said “go to a famous English garden.”  So I understand people who want to spend a lot on flowers. They’re the prettiest decoration.

Post # 49
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Man, are flowers expensive!  But so pretty.  I lucked out in this department, since my Mother-In-Law used to do flower arranging, and insisted on doing all of the centerpieces, bouquets (2), and bouts.  All in all, the flowers themselves cost around $250, for parrot tulips, tulips, roses, mini calla lilies, and a few other things.

Ultimately, a wedding should be a reflection of the couple, so if the couple loves flowers, and aren’t putting themselves into debt, why not?

 

Post # 50
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11165 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Our final cost was just short of $7,000 for flowers and they were AMAZING!

I had flowers everywhere and in abundance and I didn’t have to do anything myself. That is why I had a larger budget. To be fair the floral/decor rentals budget and catering budget were my big ticket items and the most important to me throughout planning so I always knew it was going to be a lot.

If you have the time and engery to DIY and put together multiple floral arrangements in the grand style that you want then by all means more power to you to save a little money. If flowers aren’t that important to you and your “vision” so to speak then don’t splurge.

I wanted big and over the top without having to take the time to do so, and that adds up.

 

Post # 51
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

@atlbride2013:  I mean this in a way not at all offensive: If you’re buying them wholesale and arranging them yourself, how in the world can you end up with $4,000 worth of flowers?! I’ve seen brides doing what you’re doing, spending 1/4 that amount, and they still had so many flowers they were coming out their ears! Do you just have a huge venue? Are you getting specialty/out of season stuff? Just wondering, because that seems like it will buy a TON of flowers. (Unless you’re getting imported orchids or something, in which case you’re probably getting a bargain!)

Post # 52
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

For many people spending large amounts on one day, charitable giving and nice flowers aren’t mutually exclusive. My parents have worked extremely hard putting themselves through school to provide free and low-cost medical care to those in need, they donate a ton of money and service hours on top of it and they want the wedding of their only daughter to be nice. I’ve accepted their generosity with much gratitude, and anyone who cares deeply about how strangers on the internet spend their money can get over it.

Post # 53
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@EffieTrinket: We have a large ballroom and pre-function area and the centerpieces I’m going for are pretty elaborate. And yes, they’ll be filled with expensive out-of-season flowers because everything I like is unfortunately in season during the summer. Frown Crazy as it sounds, I almost changed my wedding date because of the flowers but ultimately decided I can’t subject people to a southern wedding in July. lol.

Post # 54
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

We spent just over $2k on our flowers for a wedding with two attendants on each side and 82 guests (including ourselves). I thought this was a generous budget, but I was clearly wrong by the response I got from one of the florists we met with who basically acted like he would be doing us a fovr to arrange for a wedding with such a low budget. To me, the quality of flowers was really important… and the color. All the flowers needed to be yellow. But I was completely open to any types of flowers, provided that they be yellow. I hate the look of cheap flowers, and the flowers really are something I notice at weddings and in wedding photography, so for me the beauty of great flowers lasts more than 1 day. Guests complimented us a lot on our arrangements and even my frugal fiance (now husband) came to understand why we were spening so much and was happy we did in the end.

Post # 55
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879 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I have a $3K max floral budget, but hoping to keep it around $2,500K as I found an amazing florist who’s very reasonable for what we’re getting. This includes all the rentals, delivery/setup, etc. I don’t consider it a big budget and for my area, it’s sort of average if not on the lower end. I would consider $5K+ to be an ample budget, but my florist told me he recently did a wedding with 20K of florals! Now that’s a huge budget!

Like you, I do think flowers are a bit wasteful but they really contribute to the ambiance of a room. I  am putting money into the florals versus upgrading the chair/linens/etc because at least our guests can take home the centerpieces (we are planning to give away most of our florals). Yes, I could have done them myself and saved a lot of money, but it’s not worth the stress to me. I did go with the cheaper florist option since I’m not particularly picky with flowers but I have 200 guests and 5 bridesmaids, so that does add up. People just value different things. Also, budget is relative especially to the number of guests attending.

Post # 56
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@bRooklynRocks: Ohhh you’re soo lucky! Im getting married in Ghana in Jan 13′ & currently shoppig around for bouquet packages & the prices are ridiculous & wayyyyy over my budget. I’m thinking silk flowers & they can be jusy as expensive 🙁

Post # 57
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1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

we spent $180 for red roses, (0.65 per stem from my corner grocer) I DIY’d, our church was already pretty it was already gothic looking inside someone had left flowers from a previous wedding; we had a small wedding so only 8 low lying red rose fishbowl arrangements since our reception was at the waldorf-astoria  champagne room, I made my own bouquet out of 24 red red roses and smaller ones for the Bridesmaid or Best Man, the boutennieres took me longer since I had to wrap ribbons around white rosebuds;gave one each to the 2 groomsmen and my dad, Father-In-Law and brothers and my hubby. I always wanted red roses at my wedding and I got them at  a great price! It only took me 2 hours to make the night before

Post # 58
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I didn’t read all the reponses but here’s why I might have a somewhat generous flower budget:

i) Pretty much EVERYTHING in the wedding lasts pretty much a couple of hours. Food? Gone. Those cutesy details, gone. First dance. Gone. DJ: Gone. Dress: Gone. So why not flowers? They make the place look pretty for that little while.

ii) I like flowers:D

iii) I wouldn’t have minded spending a bit less. What I wanted was a certain minimum number of flowers and unfortunately, where I was, flowers are expensive and hard to get so that’s why I spent what I did.

Post # 59
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871 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My meeting with the florist was great she was very nice and had some good ideas. A little over what I envisioned but it will have an awesome feel, $1200 was the quote.

I’m getting a 30 size posy with Mini white roses, purple lisianthus and buds, purple hyacinths and greenery, purple freesias with encircled greenery finished with satin ribbon or some of my fabric remnants from my dress and pearl pins.

My bridesmaids a smaller posy with purple lisianthus, white hyacinth and purple freesias matching greenery and satin black ribbon and pinning.

Greg is having with lisianthus with purple freesia on side and the boys are having purple. Dads are having white lisianthus and greenery. Mini roses for Mums and Grandmas to match.

Table – vases eclectic mix of vintage vases and jugs 8 per table: white hyacinths, stock, tulips, mini roses, freesias, hydrangeas, delphiniums and lisianthus mostly white with pops of purple.

 

Post # 60
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@fishbone, if you don’t like the idea of flowers dying a few days after your wedding and if you aren’t going to donate them after the wedding to a hospital, hospice, or senior center, why not hire a florist to create realistic artificial bouquets and arrangements for your wedding?  That’s what we are doing.  The bouquets will be keepsakes for us and for our bridesmaids (who can pop their bouquets into a vase and use them as an arrangement in their homes and apartments afterwards), and each table centerpiece will be a gift to the lucky guest sitting at the chair number selected.  We’re probably spending a little more money than most do for all of our artificial flowers, but we want the ones that look identical to fresh flowers and we hired an awesome, award-winning designer whose flowers have been published in wedding books and magazines.

We decided on an above average amount of flowers for our wedding after attending several weddings over the past couple of years where the couples didn’t spend much at all on flowers.  I’m a very visual person, and personally, I thought their weddings were lackluster and generic.  Something major felt missing.  Some couples didn’t have many flowers although they had a large number of bridesmaids (for example, tiny bouquets of just a few flowers that you could barely see). Others had some DIY flowers but the flowers weren’t good quality or in good shape (brown petals, wilting), the arrangements were super simple, and many of the bouquets and centerpieces were lopsided and messy looking.

I don’t think anyone needs oodles of flowers to make an impression, but it makes a definite difference if there are flowers or not and if the flowers are arranged by someone who is knowledgeable (and talented) in design and knows how to make them more impactful.  We’re going with a slightly higher floral budget than most weddings our size, a smaller guest list (less guests = less tables = larger centerpieces on the fewer tables we will have), and fewer attendants so that our bouquets and centerpieces will be much larger and more impactful.

I guess flowers are much more important to me than some of the other wedding items.  My “why spend $ on that?” area is clothing.  While you don’t understand why people spend money on wedding flowers, I don’t understand why people spend thousands of dollars on a dress to wear for just a few hours (and then often, on top of that, they trash it afterwards so they can’t even sell it or donate it).  I plan to purchase a dress under $500 and I plan to wear shoes that I either already own or will wear again with another outfit.  As others have posted before me, everyone has their own perspectives and their own views of what is important to them.  Flowers, especially professionally designed, visually pleasing flowers, are really important to me because they will be captured in all of our wedding photos.

Post # 61
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My flower budget was £400 and it came in at £334 – My Bouquet, 2 adult BM’s bouquet, 3 flowers girls bouquet, 2 corsages and 15 buttonholes – All ivory gerbera, green chrysanthemums and Lilly grass with pearls and sparkle (I like sparkle)

My church won’t allow us to purchase flowers outside of the church, they have some people who do this and if we want more we have to purchase them through them (the church is also a tourist attraction).

My venue we are having non floral arrangements because of the amount of children attending, I would be heartbroken to see the kids ruin flower arrangements that I had paid so much for.

So I guess for me it’s more circumstances that has resulted in a small flower budget and minimal flowers. The flowers I picked are cheap or cheaper than most but everything about my wedding has ended up being very traditional and I wanted some modern simple flowers 🙂

If money was not an issue I guess I would have had more but I can certainly see both sides of the coin 🙂

 

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